before vs after

by your side · January 2013

is anyone else more depressed after they have started the IF process with their RE. we are on round 4 with RE and every appointment i get upset and considering you go almost twice a week I don't think i have ever cried more in my life. before RE it was good cry at end of month but now it's so much worse. just venting but maybe this is a sign we need a break.

ttcmbbaby · January 2013

I view the entire world differently!!! I used to think that getting pregnant was the hard part... If we could only see the plus sign and hear the "congrats your pregnant" but after my step-mom got pregnant with twins and delivered them early despite weeks of effort by doctors then my sister died at 3 days old due to brain bleed my brother is fine... then exactly 3 months later I found out we were pregnant so I thought it was a great sign and then 3 days later I mc so now I think even if I get pregnant I will never stop stressing until the baby is born and home and declared healthy for weeks... I barely sleep now and I cry all the time too!! I only allow myself to cry in the car on the way to work every morning because I am alone and it's about 20-30 mins depending on traffic. It helps me to control my emotions better throughout the day... So yes IF freaking changes you and it just doesn't get easier or let up.... makes me question A LOT of the higher powers above...

CeCe8579 · January 2013

Hugs! I struggle each month. I am having a hard time know we missed ovulation this month with no choice. We are moving on to cycle #8 unless a miracle happens. Cycle #10, we do another SA and further discuss treatment.

ttcmbbaby · January 2013

I just wanted to say that I know my previous post was pretty negative... so I wanted to give some positives that IF has done for us... FIRST my husband and I are soooo close!!! He tracks my cycles (kinda) and he really cares and understands more than he did before. In the beginning IF threatened to tear us apart but we have learned to really communicate and for that we are much stronger than we have ever been. I also get upset less frequently with dd. I tolerate more of the stuff she wants to tell me that I don't want to hear and I take every opportunity to hold her, tell her I love her and how beautiful she is. Instead of needing me time when I get home I immediately go toward them and ask their day and don't take much me time at all...

kimberm0511 · January 2013

ttcmbbaby:
I just wanted to say that I know my previous post was pretty negative... so I wanted to give some positives that IF has done for us... FIRST my husband and I are soooo close!!! He tracks my cycles (kinda) and he really cares and understands more than he did before. In the beginning IF threatened to tear us apart but we have learned to really communicate and for that we are much stronger than we have ever been. I also get upset less frequently with dd. I tolerate more of the stuff she wants to tell me that I don't want to hear and I take every opportunity to hold her, tell her I love her and how beautiful she is. Instead of needing me time when I get home I immediately go toward them and ask their day and don't take much me time at all...

I just wanted to let you know that this is very inspirational. I feel like I am definitely more depressed these days and I struggle with spending more time with my kids and dh. I am guilty of being more selfish than not and spend a lot of time wanting to be alone. I am constantly reminding myself that every day is a blessing and that we should be enjoying it the best that we can...even under these tough circumstances. It could always be worse!

by your side · January 2013

Thank you ladies for the support. DH and I have decided to take a break for a little since the RE has said multiple times they dont see anything wrong. Maybe its not in the cards or the timing is off, but not to cry everyday is more important to me then anything. We are going to do a LAP to see if its the scar tissue from an c section and ovary removal within a year. Ill keep praying for everyone here! Xoxo

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