Kinda Scared

tandb2010 · January 2013

Now that DH and I are activily TTC #2 I am getting a bit nervous about being KU again.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 MC and out of 3 pregnancies. I am really don't think that I could handle, emotionally/mentally, another MC. I really want to give Michaela a sibling but I aslo want to keep my sanity.

My other issue is going to be once/if I get KU again I am going to be a wreck and not want to do anything that is going to put the baby in harms way. I am going to drive DH crazy. And I don't think I will want to tell anyone about it for laonger than the 12 weeks. I mean the last MC I had was at alomst 13 weeks.

DH knows all this and is being super suportive but he just doesn't get it like another mom does. Thanks for letting me vent.

:: have a cookie::

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NotSharknado · January 2013

Aw, Tand you have every right to feel the way that you do. :::hugs:::

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

I'm sorry T

I haven't been in your shoes, but I believe your feelings are 100% validated.

::hugs::

JaysonandKristin · January 2013

I have NO idea what you're going through, but I think that you have every right to handle your pregnancy any way that you want to. We're totally here to support you and celebrate milestones with you and congratulate you on a new pregnancy whenever you're ready to share with us.

It's always better with a supportive DH. Good luck to you guys.

S-Tuna · January 2013

I'm just going to "ditto" what everyone has said. We love you, and we're here for you if you need us. ((hugs))

ladybugpjb · January 2013

I think waiting a long time to announce is perfectly fine, especially if your DH supports that. We waited longer than 12 weeks this time - I think I was 14 or 15 weeks. I think most people figured it out, but were too polite to say anything before I announced.

I get anxiety about going through birth again (DS's birth was incredibly stressful for me), but we really want two, so I try to focus on positives. DH is laid back, so that helps me relax.

I don't personally know what it's like to go through what you're feeling (since I haven't had a MC), so that's as much as I can comment on. ((hugs))

MrsCase1 · January 2013

I don't blame you one bit. What does your doctor say? Can you get progesterone suppositories or anything?

fancefpp · January 2013

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I know many people who have had m/c and it seems really hard. You have every right to feel the way you do. Stay positive!!

animalcrckers · January 2013

T - i had a MC before DD1. i was such a nervous wreck until i passed the week i MC'ed on before. and then i was still nervous until i passed 13 weeks. So i totally understand and get how you are feeling! i definitely think you should talk to you dr to make sure everything is okay. and try to focus on the positives & future baby it will bring. good luck!

Duffgurl · January 2013

Just try to stay positive. Plus you have us if you ever just need to vent or talk. Big Hugs.

Duckieer · January 2013

Crash Into Me:
We're all here for you, and of course I'll dump some reality on you, but there isn't much you can do wrong to create a mc.nbsp; Know what I mean?nbsp; You can't jump the baby out, eating mac amp; cheese doesn't cause autism, a sip of something containing aspartame isn't going to cause the baby to have 15 fingers.nbsp; MC are usually because of a fatally abnormal genetic makeup and you know this OR like someone else suggested low hormones.nbsp; Talk to your doctor.nbsp; Are you a charter? Can you tell that your LP is on the shorter side?nbsp;Whenever you tell people is completely up to you and don't ever worry about that part.If you're really to the point that you can't handle a mc, you probably should have a chat with your doctor.nbsp; Have him/her outline why mc's happen, they'll give the facts you need. You'll be fine, okay? =

This exactly! Hugs mama!!

Rachey1082 · January 2013

I also don't have anything to add but, we're here for you and we love you.

::hugs::

ljsmom11 · January 2013

I've come by this post several times today but wasn't sure what to write. I know it's going to be hard but try you very best to be positive. Just know that we all are thinking about you!

I fight with myself every.single.day about getting pregnant again. We are actively ttc and I don't want anything more than to be pregnant but I'm not sure how I will be the next time I see a bfp on my pee stick. I've considered not telling dh about the next pregnancy until I just can't hide it anymore. It's a shame, I know, but he has been so hurt and is just now getting back to his normal self and I don't want to hurt him again. I watch Lj interact with Nanny Baby and know that I'm ready to give her a sibling, it's what she will love most so I cannot sulk about it any longer. I've fought through PPD & then the m/c and have found that being scared in life is normal, but it is no way to live. I can't focus on the "what ifs". We cannot control nature but we can control how we react to nature. Relax and allow things to happen. You are much stronger than you believe, mama! You know in your heart what you desire so take care of yourself!

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