I Don't Read Books.

mollyxcate · January 2013

All this talk of Ferber v. CIO is kinda making me crazy. I don't really understand what Ferber is but I have no intention of looking it up.

I prefer to parent with my gut. Ive been pretty sure all my life mom was what I'm supposed to be and I don't want to read a book and second guess myself and I certainly don't need it to tell me what I've been doing is wrong.

Anyone else not reading a ton of books? Normally I'd feel like its irresponsible not to study but at the same time I don't think I'm doing anything detrimental to DD. She's more or less hitting all of her milestones, she could care less about rolling but she's very intellectual, and she's been STTN 7p to 5a since around 3m with some wiggle room on bedtime. We don't really have a bed time routine other than there is some sort of sleep stimulation ... Seahorse or rain sounds... And I kiss her goodnight and tell her I love her. She seems to do fine!

Am I alone here?

Andreabks · January 2013

i flipped through what to expect while you're expecting (when i was), and i've read up through month 4 in their first year book. other than that the only baby related "help" book i read was called Naptime Sucks! and i only read it because I was having a hard time getting LO to nap/sleep and their suggestiosn have worked for our LO.

that's it. 1 while pregnant, 1 small one and 4 chapters of another since LO came. If i have major quesitons, i email either my OB or my daughters Pedi.

LindsayDesigner · January 2013

I haven't read any parenting books either. I read a couple of books when I was pregnant but that is it.

thepretzelchick · January 2013

Not a single one. My mom did daycare for most of my childhood, I was in the same house as my nephew for his first three years, and we live with my parents. I know what I'm doing, and for those moments I don't, I have my mom and you ladies for advice.

lady_tytah · January 2013

I haven't read any either. With my daughter I read Holistic Birth. Didn't do a thing for her but helped greatly with him lol

Bemyselfandi · January 2013

I've never read a book. However if I had a horrible sleeper I'd probably take a look at ferber. Seems to work. But both my babies sleep pretty good since they were born. There's other things I look up on Google for help with Dax. To me, babies are kind of fool proof. Toddlers on the other hand are so....mysterious.

ryeleeandrori · January 2013

No books here either. I do check WTEWYE The first years if I have a specific concern as google gives me to much info and I'm a worrier. As for sleeping training methods, no plans to read up about it. I didn't use any with DS1 and I figured out what I needed to do to get him to sleep through the night. So I figure I'll be able to it again with this one.

latnprincess · January 2013

I read WTEWYE before children and that's it. No books here either. I also google a lot but that's about it. I read up on Ferber method which is the same as CIO by the way online a long time ago when ODS when a baby. But some people are just book ppl.

bigbootyjudi · January 2013

I've bought a lot of books, but the only one I've actually read was the Ferber one because I absolutely needed to. I bought a pregnancy book and read maybe 3 pages and a vaccine book and read maybe 5.

I think I just have a problem going with my gut, but I've always been that kind of person. I need to know for sure, indefinitely, what to do/that something is the right thing to do before I do it. I hate uncertainty. But, that's changing...mostly because I don't have time to read all these books. I had to rush through the Ferber one at work.

Reilly626 · January 2013

I think it's peer pressure people on here see it and run to do it. Mine sttn also since 4 mo old and I'm surprised at how many CIO/Ferber posts I see if course let them cry before napping or sleeping! If there's one book I like to glance at its "my Babies first year week by week" I will glance at it and see where we are at when I have time. I'm with you gut feel totally and advice from good old mom!

rp-chicago-mom · January 2013

It's impossible for me not to have read books because I majored in early childhood education/child development. But those books are very different from the pop psychology that is mostly available. I do think it's important to know how much to feed, why sleep patterns change, milestones, etc. I don't think those books are bad but I don't like magical solution pop psychology books.

I think WTEWYE is trash. Your pregnancy week by week is worse. I did read Great Expectations when I was pregnant. I think having a general guide is good. And I read the birth partner which I found useful. I actually did remember suggested positions and the like when I was in the real deal.

rp-chicago-mom · January 2013

Reilly626:
I think it's peer pressure people on here see it and run to do it. Mine sttn also since 4 mo old and I'm surprised at how many CIO/Ferber posts I see if course let them cry before napping or sleeping! If there's one book I like to glance at its "my Babies first year week by week" I will glance at it and see where we are at when I have time. I'm with you gut feel totally and advice from good old mom!

Good to see you around these parts. :]

jessalynn521 · January 2013

I don't have the energy or time to read anything. I listen to my gut and A is still fine now.

However if my kid had some of the bad sleep habits of some babies on this board I might be willing to look it up.

allardr · January 2013

Don't read books here but do look up stuff on the internet. But overall I lead with my gut as well. I don't follow one "method" like it was gold or anything. Took some tips and now we have a good daily schedule so I'm happy.

LissaLynn0682 · January 2013

I haven't read any books, but I'm definitely google happy. I'll google any problem I'm having and I know I shouldn't...because I always get conflicting info that makes it even worse!

However, I'm about at my wits end with DD's sleep habits, so I may be consulting Mr. Ferber pretty soon here...

Tula214 · January 2013

I haven't read any. I'll read about things people post here, but that's about it. I feel like what I'm doing seems right, and nobody has told me otherwise. He's healthy, growing, and mostly happy.

However, of my baby had colic, and was crying for hours on end.. or if he wouldn't fall asleep for hours, I'd probably be reading every book out there.

Edit to add.

DerpityDog · January 2013

I use a combination of gut, Google, and pediatrician.

yvdukana · January 2013

I think it really depends on the baby you have and the parenting style you're comfortable with. It's more difficult to "parent by gut" when you have a high needs baby. I'm a reader, so I've read everything, books, online, Kellymom is my go to for anything BFing. My kid screamed for 9 hours a day, every day for the first 3 months of his life, he also doesn't sleep more than 1-2 hours at a time at night for a total of 7 hours and doesn't nap during the day. I fully admit I'm lost and need help, and his pedi is pretty worthless and unfortunately we can't switch, so it's up to me to advocate for my child and see what I can do to help him and what I may be missing.

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