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Late Term and Child Loss
WifeofaComposer
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Introduction
WifeofaComposer
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I'm new to this board - just looking for some support while I grieve. I've had a natural miscarriage, followed by a healthy pregnancy with a child who is now almost 6 years old, and then I had a chemical pregnancy last spring, a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks last summer, and 2 days ago, at our mid-pregnancy anatomy scan we found out that our perfectly healthy, strong baby had passed away. We had an NT scan at 13 weeks that showed a huge healthy baby with a very strong heart. At just shy of 5 months, yesterday I had to give birth to our sleeping baby. I was anesthetized while my uterus was cleaned after delivery, and my arms were bombarded as the doctors collected more than a pint of my blood to test for 31 different viruses and bacterial infections. The baby is undergoing a thorough autopsy. There is no obvious reason for this to have happened, as our baby was genetically and chromosomally healthy. We have specialists looking into every possibility and we'll have answers within a couple of weeks.
My husband is taking this very hard. He's my best friend, and seeing him in so much emotional pain is making this even harder for me.
I know there is a lot of support here, and people who understand our grief. I am here for all of you to talk to as well.
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Re: Introduction
We are always here to listen and please know that you aren't alone.
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
I know what you mean about it being hard to see your dh hurting. My dh is the same way and while I hate that he's so sad, knowing that he loves our sweet girl as much as I do makes me love him even more.
Jillian Rose- born 8/26/12 at 24 weeks. "It broke my heart to lose you but you didn't go alone, for a part of me went with you, the day God took you home"
I love you always, my beautiful girl.
Hysteroscopy 3/1/13 Dx: Unicornuate uterus
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BFP 3/18/13- Please be our Rainbow, we love you so much already.
6/4/13-Found out we're having a BOY!!
10/30/13-He's here!! Happy Birthday, Ryan! We love you so much! xo
Natural miscarriage @ 8 weeks - 3/8/2005
Big Brother "Skippy" born - 2/28/2007
Missed miscarriage - (EDD 3/5/2013) - D&E @ 11 weeks - 8/8/2012
"Hen" (EDD 6/7/2013) - born sleeping @ 19 weeks - 1/15/2013
"G-Unit" born - 4/14/2014 and he's 100% perfection!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find some answers. My DS' autopsy showed no cause for his death, which sucks, but I like knowing he was perfect.
Have you thought of support groups for you and your DH to attend? My DH is naturally quiet, and while he doesn't talk much at group, he finds it extremely helpful to listen to the other dads. The grief process is so different for moms and dads.
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
I am so sorry for your loss. The women of this board have been so helpful to me, and I know they will be a great source for you as well. I wish you peace and comfort. HUGS