Anyone else nervous about having another kid to take care of?

nyki06 · January 2013

I have a 22 month old daughter and lately the thought of a toddler+ a newborn is freaking me out a little bit! Anyone else feeling nervous about the transition?

PS: Feel free to tell me that I'll be fine and I'll figure it out .

MechanicMama1 · January 2013

Yes lol I have a nine month old right now. Worried about what will happen but I'm sure everything will work out and be fine

old_time_girl · January 2013

I am scared to death about adding a newborn to the mix. I can handle the newborn, but DS has thrown me for a loop. He's 17 months and I feel like the worst mother in the world sometimes. Ad a newborn and major sleep deprivation, I'm totally hiding in a corner.

UberBiz · January 2013

Hecks yeah I'm nervous and our kids are older! When this little one comes, they will be turning 8 and 4. I'm sure I'll figure it out in time, but right now I am stressed out about adding "another one" to the mix!

SparkleButtsMama · January 2013

I am getting a twinges of nervousness. My daughter is 3 - this is such a great age and she is such a good little girl. Sometimes I sit back a worry that I'm not going to have the same time and energy to invest in this LO as I did with her. Plus, on a more mundane note, I worry about how the heck I am going to get out the door in the morning before noon! I already have a hard enough time making it to school/work on time and I only have one kid!

msharpe2 · January 2013

SO NERVOUS!!!

Mine are going to be like yours in age difference...22 months apart. And they will eventually share a room. I am most nervous about baby#1 reverting to baby#2's sleep pattern or night habits!

mariamaria · January 2013

I want to breathe into a paper bag almost daily when I start to think about it. My DS is 3 years old and plays so well by himself, but I mostly panic about getting out the door in the morning and not getting sleep. We'll be fine!

nyki06 · January 2013

Everyone is making me feel so much better! It's good to know I'm not alone in my freaking out!

Dunkin · January 2013

I was petrified last time. My first 2 are 21 months apart, and to do the toddler/newborn thing was tough. I remember the panic before we brought DD home - how was I going to do this. But then you figure out what works. And it is hard. But I love it. Now with adding this one, I am not worried about how - I know we will figure it out. I am more petrified of going backwards to the no sleep phase that is the first 3 - 9 months of a newborn's life. Fingers crossed - please no collic... please...

courtneyt13 · January 2013

I'm nervous and getting more nervous as time goes on. The time between getting home from work daycare and waiting for DH to come home has become a nightmare. It seems like just in the last 2 or 3 weeks it's gotten worst.

DD (23m) is all over the place. Like using markers on the tile floors in the kitchen and while I am cleaning that up she is pulling the books of the bookshelf and then I clean that up and she is "painting" the dog with yogurt. Last night, I got prepared and had 3 art projects for her to do while I cooked dinner. She did all three in 15 minutes and then went off to create havoc. It seriously took me longer to clean up than for her to make her art.

So when I think about having a newborn added to the craziness, yeah I have no idea what's going to happen.

Hesterlicious · January 2013

I am terrified. DS fit in perfectly and is no trouble so life is easy with him most of the time. The thought of 2 kids scares me. I don't know how I'm gonna do it.

TnArichmond · January 2013

Sometimes I worry about how my DD will be with a baby around, and then other times I think it will be awesome. She will turn 5 a month after LO arrives.

In light of recent personal events, I am increasingly getting worried about having the 2 kids, since it looks like my marriage is going in the shitter.

But, we're moms. The strongest kind of person there is. We got this.

blueandgray · January 2013

Petrified. They will be about 22 months apart, and while DD is generally a good girl, she can be VERY clingy and doesn't want to "share" me. If MH & I are hugging, she will squeeze her way in between us. The other day she got mad at the dog for putting his paw in my lap. And she will cry outside the bathroom door for me, even if MH is sitting right there on the couch. So yes, terrified of how to manage a needy toddler & newborn at the same time. Thank goodness for daycare! I 100% plan to keep her going everyday as normal while I'm on maternity.

HilButler623 · January 2013

Definitely! I'm going on my third bundle of joy

I have a 4 yr old (almost 5) and a 19 month old! I don't think I was nervous with the second nor was I prepared lol. I've heard after two it gets easier so I'm hoping this transition won't be as rough as I'm envisioning lol. But hang in there ladies....we will all make it somehow! God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. Good luck to you all!

burneyonboard · January 2013

Yes, I have a 2 year old and I felt guilty at first since I was sick a lot with this pregnancy, so I wasn't able to do as much stuff with her. It is starting to sink in for me though and yes I'm petrified!!! Glad I'm not the only one

Angela814 · January 2013

I'm choosing not to think about it. :-)

DD1 should mostly be fine. DD2 has gotten so much more independent too. The only thing I'm worried about right now is how I'm going to take her to the bathroom if I'm nursing a newborn. She can't go by herself, and she's not always great about holding it...

kara1204 · January 2013

My DD is almost 22 months old too, I'm super nervous! I love DD to death but she is quite the handful right now.

Beelay · January 2013

I'm right there with ya! I have a 17mth old and work full time currently, and a husband that deploys A LOT! Add 2 dogs and a cat..oh yeah, and a newborn = craziness!!!!

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BrittBrittM · January 2013

uumm hell to the yeah I am... Single mom of soon to be four girls! lol soon as this one comes they will all be having bdays too.

sawyer born in April

bri will be 13 in may

Logen will be 10 in june

Victoria will be 6 in july.

thank god they are all older and Bri is an amazing help I honestly dont know what I would do with out her because all my family is in VA

sherbear1322 · January 2013

I'm now starting to get nervous. I had a bit of a meltdown about it two nights ago. I'm worried about having to leave DS when I'm in the hopsital after my csection (I've never left him overnight), I'm nervous about how it will impact his sleep as others have mentioned, not being able to pick him up right away because of the recovery, etc. I guess reality is setting in for several of us.

Shannon526 · January 2013

sherbear1322:
I'm now starting to get nervous. I had a bit of a meltdown about it two nights ago. I'm worried about having to leave DS when I'm in the hopsital after my csection (I've never left him overnight), I'm nervous about how it will impact his sleep as others have mentioned, not being able to pick him up right away because of the recovery, etc. I guess reality is setting in for several of us.

I have the exact same worry about DD. I'm not sure if I'll need a c/s yet or not (baby is breech as of right now), but either way, I'm super nervous having to leave DD overnight. She still doesn't STTN consistently, and her naps are awful. I think giving up some control with DD1 will be the most difficult for me... having to trust other people to care for her while I'm recovering will tough. Of course I have MH, but I'm talking about other people besides him :-)

Bbelle88 · January 2013

YES!!!!!!!

When my daughter was around 8 months we decided we were ready to do it all over again! She was so easy and my husband is a good bit older then me so we wanted to knock our kids out quick. Well fast forward to the 15 month old I now have, she's SOOOOO much more work now then when we decided to get pregnant again.I can't believe how much she has me running around after her and naps aren't as easy as they used to be. The thought of having a newborn in this house in less then 3 months gives me heart palpitations. Our house is going to be CRAZY, and I might need medication lol!

elbou · January 2013

Angela814:
I'm choosing not to think about it. :-)
DD1 should mostly be fine. DD2 has gotten so much more independent too. The only thing I'm worried about right now is how I'm going to take her to the bathroom if I'm nursing a newborn. She can't go by herself, and she's not always great about holding it...

I'm a bit late jumping in here, but you will make it! My daughters are 23 months apart. They are now 5 & 3, and the best of friends for the most part. DD2 misses her big sister terribly when DD1 is gone at school, and sometimes has trouble falling asleep without her if she's not there (they share a bedroom). All of you ladies will do just great!

Re: the bolded...maybe you could keep a potty chair beside your usual nursing spot, so that if she can't make it to the big potty, you can at least coach her along right beside you?

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