Bedsharing is over..

elvinnoe · January 2013

It never really started, but still...

In the bed right now is DH on the left, Ivy, and me pumping a bottle and watching the baby on the right side. So, out of nowhere, DH freaking rolled over on top of her!!! Mommy adrenaline is legit. I caught him before he touched her and nearly shoved him off the bed. Baby was a champ and slept through the whole thing. And me, well I don't know if I'll calm down enough to go to sleep any time soon. Holy crap.

KatyDidlettes · January 2013

I would be freaking out too! He actually rolled on her? That is crazy! I wonder if he had touched her he might have woken up!

peacelove&mama · January 2013

That is exactly why I won't even TRY cosleeping. DH is a violent sleeper and he's hard to wake or move. There have been times where I'm nursing that he'll roll partway over and fling an arm out, and I have to block LO. Scary. Glad you were awake and able to stop it!

Edited for typos.

Ellei03 · January 2013

I'd like to suggest something that i use and love. Its made by Summer Infant, called a By Your Side Sleeper. Its kind of like a bassinet without legs that goes in your bed, it has mesh sides and is portable! I got it for 40 at target and we all love it! This would protect baby from your rolling hubby, it is made to go in the bed, check it out!

*LrCg* · January 2013

Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.

StefandTodd · January 2013

*LrCg*:
Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.

Yep!

ilenegrace · January 2013

*LrCg*:
Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.

This. I totally don't trust DH he has no idea whats going on while he is asleep. But I did successfully bed-share DS from 6mo-2yrs this way with bed rails.

elvinnoe · January 2013

I didn't think about her being in the middle because I was awake and wasn't planning on her sleeping with us anyway. But after that, I'm not having her between us again even if I am awake. I'll probably let her nap with me during the day, but I'm a pretty heavy sleeper too, so far have slept through every natural disaster possible (hurricane, tornado, and earthquake). But during the day I'm usually more of a light sleeper so I'm not as worried about it.

This morning I told DH what happened and he felt so bad. He's been holding her all day now.

magnoliablossom00 · January 2013

*LrCg*:
Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.

I am not trying to start controversy over bedsharing, but a girl on LO1's bmb actually rolled onto her son when he was 2 weeks old and he died. It was awful. I know it wasn't MUD either because she was active on our board for a long time and even linked us to his memorial, obit in the paper, etc.

I personally am a really deep sleeper and I know I couldn't do it safely.

kerbear135 · January 2013

DH and I decided from before LO was born that we didn't want her in our bed to sleep, and so far we've stuck with that. DH is a really deep sleeper and while he doesn't roll much, I wouldn't want to take any chances. I am a really active sleeper, I move all night, so I wouldn't want to take chances with LO next to me either. I am glad you were awake and could jump to the rescue- we let LO nap in the bed at night while we're getting ready to go to bed, so I will use your story and make sure LO isn't in DH's roll path if he's already sleeping and I haven't put her in the crib yet.

Notwifezilla7 · January 2013

This is why DH is still sleeping in the playroom! He's paranoid that he'll roll over onto the baby. I don't bedshare per say, but there have been times early on where I needed to...survival mode! He's still out even though Margo sleeps in the rock & play. He'll be back in soon...as soon as I decide it's okay. I'm kind of liking having the whole bed to myself.

BrittanyDoesDerby · January 2013

magnoliablossom00:
*LrCg*:
Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.
I am not trying to start controversy over bedsharing, but a girl on LO1's bmb actually rolled onto her son when he was 2 weeks old and he died. It was awful. I know it wasn't MUD either because she was active on our board for a long time and even linked us to his memorial, obit in the paper, etc.
I personally am a really deep sleeper and I know I couldn't do it safely.

If you know you have a sleep issue, smoke, drink before bed, or take prescription pain/depression/anxiety meds, then bed-sharing is totally not worth the risk. I will say that when I sleep with LO, I am surprisingly aware of her being there. I wake up every time she starts rooting to eat. There have been sleep studies that show that most moms never reach that state of deep sleep while bed sharing, so that they are more aware of their baby's needs and movements.

sadsadie · January 2013

magnoliablossom00:
*LrCg*:
Have you read info on safe bedsharing ie the do's and don'ts? When bedsharing the baby NEVER goes between mom and dad. It goes dad, mom, baby then bed rail. Moms have awareness on where babies are not dads.
I am not trying to start controversy over bedsharing, but a girl on LO1's bmb actually rolled onto her son when he was 2 weeks old and he died. It was awful. I know it wasn't MUD either because she was active on our board for a long time and even linked us to his memorial, obit in the paper, etc.
I personally am a really deep sleeper and I know I couldn't do it safely.

Terrifying. OP, please don't bed share unless you do it properly with all possible precautions in place.

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