Just wanted to say hi for a minute

jillianmb · January 2013

Hi ladies,

I haven't been very active for a while on the board because life is fairly overwhelming right now and I've dropped a lot of non-essentials. You might remember that DH's dad was fighting pancreatic cancer and we thought he would pass away this spring or summer. He took a turn for the worse last week and died on Thursday. Since Christmas his illness and death has been consuming our lives, with good reason of course. The funeral is on Friday and then we begin the process of healing. I'm not saying goodbye to the board but I feel like I've formed friendships here so I just wanted to say sorry I've been so absent. Hopefully in a month or two we'll find our new normal and I'll be a more active supporter of all the adoptions happening!

I'm also having some sort of "survivor's guilt" after we brought Arie home three weeks before everything went south with Russian adoptions. I feel sick just thinking about it and I've stayed away from the board for that reason too. Reading posts about it makes me just want to cry. I will keep praying for those pursuing Russian adoptions.

Lots of love to you ladies and see you in a few weeks!

IRR · January 2013

So sorry to hear about your father in-law. (((HUGS))) to your family as you are going through this difficult time. Hope all is well with Arie and he is adjusting well to the USA.

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Dr.Loretta · January 2013

Jillian, I'm so sorry for your loss and all the emotions you are feeling. I hope you got to spend some time with your FIL and that you'll be back on a more even keel soon.

HUGS

CaptainSerious · January 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Please take all the time you need; we'll still be here when you are ready to return. I can't imagine going through all that at the same time as you are trying to adjust to a new addition to your family.

But please do come back. As an adoptive mother, you have lots of good information to share with those going through the process, even if it's not from Russia, and we'll always be here to support you with any adoption-related or just parenting bumps that pop-up along the way.

ellekae · January 2013

So sorry for your loss! Praying for you and your family during this time of grief that you will feel the Lord's peace.

Thanks so much for stopping back to give us a quick update. We miss your voice around here!

CaptainSerious · January 2013

Spooko:
Yes, appreciate what you have and empathize with others, but never feel guilty.

Spooko is wise.

jackieo1309 · January 2013

I saw the post on your blog the other day- I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family can find peace with everything in the next few months. We all empathize with those affected by the Russian adoption ban, but you shouldn't feel guilty. Arie is one less child that was affected by this political decision, and what a blessing that your FIL was able to meet his precious grandson. Hang in there mama, we're thinking of you.

Rachel Sonnier · January 2013

So sorry to hear about your family's loss. Hope things are going well with Arie! It was great to hear from you.

Stacy092306 · January 2013

So sorry to hear about your loss. It is wonderful that Arie and his grandpa got to spend time together over Christmas.

DaisyZH · January 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss (( Hugs )) It's good to hear from you, enjoy Arie, he is so adorable.

crene84 · January 2013

Glad to hear from you..my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

reallifewithkids · January 2013

Jillian,

I'm so sorry to hear about your father-in-law. You may remember talking with me since my dad had pancreatic cancer and he passed 12/5. Cancer sucks and I'm so glad your father in law got to meet Arie. My brother's first child was born this last summer and one of the best pictures I have is of my dad at hospice laughing with that sweet baby.

I can't imagine going through all we did with my dad in addition to having a new little one at home. I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.

All my best to you,

Cathy

lizlemon2 · January 2013

So sorry for your loss. I am glad the adoption came through and your FIL got to meet your little boy.

StormyEyez · January 2013

God has a plan for each of us. Take time to grieve the life your family lost. Also, take time to celebrate the life your family found.

I find myself thinking of you and your family often. I still mostly lurk here because I am still processing and accepting the plans God has presented to us. I wait impatiently for our blessings to come, and try to take in every moment of it fully, the good and bad.

I spoke to my quickly aging grandmother last week who has been waiting for a great grandchild for years, since we married. I announced to her that we were pursuing adoption and she said that God helps us find others to love, and it does not matter where they come from as we are all God's children, we just have to trust his plan on when and how we are brought together. I pray that the years left to wait for our adoption from China will be over before she leaves us. What a blessing to have our children meet those who mean the most in our lives... even if the time together is too short. God kept your FIL on loan just a little longer, just so he could meet sweet Arie before he went home, what an amazing gift.

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