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Tacky? What's the Verdict

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Hi All!  I have twins who will be 5 in May... New baby is due the week of their birthday. My Mom and a few friends want to host a shower, but it's my 3rd child. Is this tacky? I really just don't know. Thoughts? Thanks in advance!

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Re: Tacky? What's the Verdict

  • Spacebunny19Spacebunny19 member

    Tacky.

    You can have a "sprinkle" if you want (and Mom/friends host) which is smaller and often done for a 2nd/subsequent child esp. if the baby is a different gender.

    Or have a sip n see/Meet the Baby after baby arrives, no gifts, but people often bring something anyway.  

    Is this baby same gender as either of the twins?  My BFF offered to throw me a sprinkle but since LO is another girl I felt it would be gift grabby to have it.   

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  • eav2ceav2c member
    Tacky, yes. A sprinkle would perhaps be more fitting should they be insistent.
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  • wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
    Yes. I am not a fan of sprinkles either, sorry.
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  • mommabear17mommabear17 member
    Tacky. I'm also going to guess that a you got a lot of extra gifts (if not outright double the gifts) when you had twins, so it seems even more gift grabby. 
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  • mel8255mel8255 member

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    Tacky.  I'm not a fan of sprinkles, either.  It's just another name to disguise it from what it really is: a shower on a smaller scale.

     

    This. Truthfully, I am actually over multiple showers (unless dad is FTD or gap between kids is 8-10+), sprinkles, meet the baby events, or sip and sees - whatever the F those are?  Must we have a damn event for everything these days?  Why do we do that to ourselves ladies? 

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  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member
    What could you possibly need? You likely have 2 of everything, no? 
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  • Ladiebug710Ladiebug710 member
    If you have to ask the answer is going to be tacky.

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  • LTmillard86LTmillard86 member
    Women at my church usually do a Diaper Shower...Just specify on the invite to do diapers and wipes
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  • jobiannjobiann member

    imageLadiebug710:
    If you have to ask the answer is going to be tacky.

    This. I think you knew the answer to the question before you asked. 

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  • shoptilyoudropshoptilyoudrop

    Having a get-together sounds fun. You will have your hands full soon enough. People can come to hang out and see you before life gets hectic with a newborn. Call it a sprinkle, call it tea, call it anything. But, so it doesn't look gift-grabby, don't register! 

    Also, putting "no gifts, please" on the invitation helps with the issue other post-ers are talking about. I see no problem in getting your friends together to celebrate you and your new addition! Congrats!

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    IMO it is OK to have a 2nd shower as long as someone wants to host one.  5 years is a long time between babies whether they are the same sex or not.  I do feel that the shower should be really small (close family and friends only).  I think a "sprinkle" is more the thing in your situation (smaller shower and most gifts are diapers, wipes and clothes).  You don't register for a sprinkle.  I'm thinking if you mom wants to have a shower then it is common with your family?  If that is the case then go ahead with it.  If it is not common it might be best to just have a "Meet the Baby Party" after the baby is born.  Your mom could host that.  It is not a gift-giving event but a lot of people still bring something for the baby (usually diapers, wipes and clothes).  I had one after my 2nd and 3rd baby.  A few asked me what I really needed.  For the 2nd one I said a monitor and she got me one.  Obviously there are going to be things you need to buy before you even bring baby home (carseat for sure since most likely your's has expired).

    BTW...putting "no gifts please" on an invite is not appropriate.

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  • Twins2008Twins2008
    Wow this may be the harshest board I have ever seen. This was my first, and last post. I was asking because my friends and family are asking me if they can host something not because I am diving for gifts. I feel weird about showers in any instance, again, why i asked. My children are 5 and I have given away all of my baby things now or donated to a women's shelter. Further, since I was on bed rest for 20 weeks, I didn't have a shower before, nor did I want one. Anyway, thanks for all the input and ideas. I am opting not to have any sort of shower or sprinkle, and to those of you who felt inclined to be rudeish, although I am unclear why, please know that's why women don't join forums, or ask questions, or open up. We are all in this together, and kindness goes a long way, especially when hormones are involved! Thanks to those of you who gave kind and solid input.
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