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Spacebunny19
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Shower by committee!
Spacebunny19
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So, I'm excited to be on an ad hoc, just-assembled, ready to rumble shower committee for my friend who is due with her first just a week before I am.
Long story short, MTB is a sweet girl without sisters. Her best friend isn't married and has no kids, which shouldn't matter, but apparently, she's a bit self-focused and when she found out her best friend and her husband (of six years) are now expecting their first, she mostly focused on "Why don't I have a man? I want kids too." Nice, eh?
So here's what happened...I have a coupon for BRU (I usually do) and it expires soon and I wanted to get them a gift. Kind of figured I'd get something for her either way (if I was invited to a show or not), but since I hadn't heard anything about a shower for her, I asked a mutual friend who is closer to her than I am if she'd heard anything. She hadn't but assumed *someone* would throw her a shower...and then she asked the MTB's hubby if he knew anything.
FTB tells friend that another friend was going to host, but he was a little anxious because the offer was a while back yet no plans had been made (not even reserving a date with the MTB.) So my friend then asks that other friend (who isn't the best friend and isn't particularly close to MTB actually so neither of us would have guessed she'd host) and it turns out there was a bit of a "cultural misunderstanding..."
Well the "host" friend is a recent immigrant. She's very sweet but has been in the country less than two years (and got married to one of our friends in that time.) Having been to her bridal shower, I could tell by her registry that concept was foreign to her (no pun intended) as she didn't register for much, including basics, so that when I went to buy stuff for her I said screw it and bought them some very neutral colored towels, and then she raved about how brilliant I was to have figured they'd need them. (Um, most people use towels!) Instead they'd registered for some luggage and a camera. ??? (Her hubby is sweet but clueless himself.) So I wagered nobody ever explained that a registry isn't just about`, say, what you need for a honeymoon, but to set up your new house together. Oh well.
Cue the baby shower...she was embarrassed by the fact she hadn't done anything and admitted she really wasn't familiar enough with the concept of an "American" baby shower to throw one, so...my friend basically took over as of Saturday. She's got a ton on her plate and wasn't prepared for this, either (as she wasn't planning on hosting a shower in, oh, a month) and so she recruited me and a few other friends to "host by committee." The original host is on the committee, so she won't feel too bad about all of it, and it'll get done and hopefully be wonderful and not stress any of us out too much.
We just all wanted to make sure our friend had a shower!
Lesson: Don't offer to host a shower if you don't know what that really means! But also, if you care that someone has a shower, better to ask around and find out than just `assume someone is doing it. In this case, if I hadn't asked around, everyone would still have assumed that someone was doing it--including the MTB & FTB who thought someone had stepped forward but had completely dropped the ball.
Off to Pinterest for lots of ideas! Happy planning!
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Re: Shower by committee!
That gif is awesome. It's all good. Keep dancin', Sir!
Thanks!
My friend created a "secret" Pinterest board and we've been pinning away.