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husbands first baby

jennipalmerjennipalmer member
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Hi first time posting to this board. I am due with my third but my hubbys first. He tells me that being high risk is in my head that lots of women go through what I go through. I tell him I didn't label myself the doctor did but he says I am over dramatic. I was worried even having another and consulted with doc ahead of time. I know there are others worse then me but his comments have made me feel awful. Even though I am 10 years older since having last child I have better quality life so I am not having problems yet. I have HX of

gestational diabeties, toxemia, HTN, high water, high birth wt, excessive wt gain. etc

With second I was almost put on bed rest at 28 weeks but I worked at hospital and had them put me at desk and cut my hours. But at 36 weeks doctor said no and called my boss personally to not let me back to work. I am SAHM now and maybe not having the stress of being bread winner and working over my head will ease things but still hurts to have hubby say I am over dramatic. Also I had first rough trimester I tried to explain that is when baby is forming and lots of changing but he thinks I need to be in third trimester to have issues. My husband is very old fashion and like the guys in 50's who wait in waiting room I knew that so it isnt a change. He started to understand the first trimester thing being tired but still says he doesn't know why I say I am high risk. I know he loves me and all his choices surround me and our family but it just hurt hearing him say those things

 

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  • kgs0505kgs0505 member
    Tell him his opinion is not valid until he has experienced pregnancy himself? Does he go to doctor's appts with you and hear the doctor talk to you about why you are high risk?

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  • jennipalmerjennipalmer member
    Only one but it isn't his fault he is military and away lots. He does well with my hormonal break outs and encourages me with healthy eating for the gestational diabeties.

     

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  • ah625ah625 member

    imagekgs0505:
    Does he go to doctor's appts with you and hear the doctor talk to you about why you are high risk?

    I think this is what needs to happen. Your doctor needs to set him strait.

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  • RosekittySRosekittyS
    If I were you I'd make an appointment with the Dr. specifically to talk to hubby, with both of you there. I did that about a month ago when my asthma flared after a cold because DH had missed the original consult concerning my asthma meds and still wanted to know if there were different, safer meds I could take. While he didn't hear what he wanted in the end he understood why they didn't change my meds. Your hubby may not hear what he wants to hear but hopefully he will come away with a better understanding of reality.
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