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I just don't know what to make of DH

Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
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Last year we had The Talk about whether we were going to adopt again. DH pulled out spreadsheets of all our finances. In the end, he made the case that we wouldn't do it again unless he got a promotion (and accompanying raise). He likes the lifestyle we have now, and doesn't want to make our finances tighter with another child at this point.

I was a little sad at the time, but over the last few months I've become increasingly comfortable with DD being an only child.

So now I tell him about Babies R Us car seat trade-in event, which is apparently coming up soon. I mention we should probably get rid of DD's infant seat, and he replies with, "I'd like to keep it. You never know."

Hmmm

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Re: I just don't know what to make of DH

  • Stacy092306Stacy092306 member
    Hmmm, that is interesting.  Maybe he is starting to change his mind.
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    Apparently he's still keeping the window open to adopting again if we get a chance to do so in the next year or so.
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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    That's good that he's open to it.  :) 

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  • lizlemon2lizlemon2 member
    Men are funny. At least he is somewhat open to it!!
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    imageDr.Loretta:
    Apparently he's still keeping the window open to adopting again if we get a chance to do so in the next year or so.

    This is about where we are.  We keep talking about whether or not we'd like to add a girl to our family.  But the  truth is, we are so hectic and busy right now, that I can't imagine how crazy things would be then.  And since we've realized that M's needs are likely to require more of our time over the years, we just can't take the plunge.  Not to mention the awful, sadistic process.

    But...if I found out for sure that we could adopt one girl in particular, who we've met each time we were down there (she's older than M and not available for adoption, so it's a mute point), I'd apply to the agency today!

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    I think he's still also under the delusion that I might get pg (ha!), so he wants to cover his bases. I think we should have a talk about it again soon, considering our ages. I think we really need a cutoff where it's just not going to happen.

    Right now his big concern is that we can swing the fees for the adoption, but month to month budget would be tighter than he's comfortable with. So we wait and see. He'll be actively looking for new jobs this spring/summer, so we'll see where that takes us.

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