Confused. Need input, please

mrsmoxie · January 2013

I just found out that I am 4 weeks pregnant with our first baby. We are so stinking excited! I did take an at home pregnancy test, came back positive. I called the doctor this morning and they don't even want me in until I'm 12 weeks. Should I be confused on why they don't want to make sure I'm pregnant? I think I'm going to take another at home test. I'm also confused because I haven't felt nauseous, my boobs feel fine and I just haven't had the typical symptoms of pregnancy, except some small cramps and discomfort.

Sorry for the long post!

jjkaye · January 2013

I think this is somewhat common. My doc had me come in for a urine test last week, gave me a bunch of info, and I was out the door. I go back at 8 weeks.

If you want a confirmation of the pregnancy, maybe call back and ask to come in? Though if they just do urine, it may not be worth your copay.

wlux · January 2013

It's normal for a doctor not needing to see you if you are healthy and not showing signs of miscarrying.

It's a really long wait..... But after 30ish weeks I'm sure we will all be sick of going to the doctor.

And enjoy being symptomless. All i have is a little breast soreness and fall asleep earlier than normal. :

happybride 276 · January 2013

You could look for a different doctor if it's important to you. I am not seeing my doctor for the first time until I'm almost at 10 weeks. It is very normal. Don't worry about the lack of symptoms...in time they will come. Appreciate the sick free/tired free days

Naydals423 · January 2013

A Line is a line! Some OBs see patients right away, some don't have you come in until they can see a heartbeat, etc. You may be able to request to be seen to confirm the pregnancy- never hurts to ask! I know my OB only has you come in for a meeting with the nurse at 4-6 weeks to discuss your pregnancy. No ultrasounds etc are done until 8-12 weeks.

kje120 · January 2013

Unless you have a history of loss there is really no reason for them to bring you in earlier. And enjoy the lack of symptoms while you can!

rhek003 · January 2013

Congratulations!

Home pregnancy tests are really accurate, but it doesn't hurt to do a second (I think everyone on this board can admit to doing 3 or 4...or more!). I'm surprised that your doctor won't see you until 12 weeks. That seems odd. I'd definitely call back and see if you can get in earlier!

I wouldn't worry about a lack of symptoms. I don't have any either and I'm also four weeks. During my first pregnancy I didn't get any until 7 weeks and I know lots of women who didn't get any! Having symptoms isn't a sign of a healthy pregnancy, so just be grateful you're not hanging over a toilet

psychgirl33 · January 2013

kestock120:
Unless you have a history of loss there is really no reason for them to bring you in earlier. And enjoy the lack of symptoms while you can!

This exactly!

blondii428 · January 2013

My office told me they wouldn't have me in until 8 weeks and that is because they want to do an ultrasound and be able to see the baby. Depending on who you have, you may be able to just get a pregnancy test done at the lab to verify that you are pregnant.

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WardenBaby · January 2013

I made an appoinment when I first found out I was pregnant and they wanted to see me at 6 weeks. Then I read reviews on where to have your baby in Houston and I decided to switch doctors. When I called to schedule an appointment at the new place they would not see you until you were 7 to 9 weeks pregnant. It must just vary by doctor. 12 weeks seems a little long though, maybe do some research on where you want to have your baby and make a new appointment with a new doctor.

Also as far as your lack of symptoms. I am 4 weeks and 1 day and i have not felt any signs of nausea, heartburn, etc. My boobs are a little sore but not too much and some minor minor minor cramps. Makes me nervous, but I keep reading that it is fine. I have taken like 4 pregnancy tests!

TreChicMama873 · January 2013

Mine just told me to make my appt at about 8 weeks, I thought this was weird as well but seems to be the norm.

Donna Fry · January 2013

Congratulations!!

With my first pregnancy the only symptom I had was a missed period - everything else was "normal". I had a fantastic pregnancy! My DS is now 6 months old and I believe I am expecting again! This time, however, I'm having a lot of symptoms but no positive home test yet! Go figure! I've only had one period since my DS was born (Dec.1/12) and I realize it takes a while for my cycle to regulate again but there's no way I can ignore these symptoms.

Anyway, don't worry about not having "the typical symptoms of pregnancy". Maybe you won't have anything major. Start a journal and record everything! You'll be happy you did.

gscoville · January 2013

First of all, most women don't experience any symptoms until at least 6 weeks; you're at 4, when you'll just have missed a period, so you really shouldn't have any symptoms yet anyways. Generally it takes a few weeks after conception for enough hormones to build up in your body and cause symptoms. So, enjoy being symptom-free for now, you may regret wishing for them when/if they really hit!

Second, symptoms or their lack have absolutely nothing to do with the health of a pregnancy. Some women get them, some don't, and it can vary from pregnancy to pregnancy with the same woman too. I had horrible m/s with my daughter, this time around at over 7 weeks I've had nothing really except sore nipples - and I'm so freaking happy to not be hanging over a toilet like I was before! Knock on wood it continues.

Third, it's common for doctors to not see you until 8-12 weeks, especially if you don't have a history of problems with fertility or miscarriage. While it's nice if you get a doctor who will see you earlier and get out the vag cam for an early ultrasound, it's not typical nor is it necessary, as there's really nothing much a doctor can do for you in first tri anyways, even if you have problems or threaten to miscarry. And baby is really hard to see well earlier than 10-12 weeks, sometimes going in earlier and having an u/s backfires when development looks to be a bit slower and causes unnecessary worry early on. Ultimately, it makes sense that doctors don't really need to see a pregnant woman until around the end of first tri, once the pregnancy is well-established and chance of miscarriage is greatly reduced. I myself won't have an appointment until my 12th week, where I'll get the full pelvic exam, probably a doppler to find the heartbeat, and pee in a cup. Nothing much to be done before then that's really of any use!

mrsmoxie · January 2013

Thank you so much ladies! That really helps! I'll just have to wait anxiously for mid march to go to the doctor : and congrats to all of you!

abell77 · January 2013

I wouldn't be too concerned that your dr. doesn't want to see you sooner. Also don't worry about a lack of symptoms. I had almost no symptoms with my first child. Just be glad!

NeesieJo · January 2013

With my first pregnancy, I didn't go in until 10weeks. But, since I miscarried that one, I am going in for visits every two weeks until that 12 week mark! So, yes, for some OBs, this is normal, and I know how hard and nerve racking that wait can be! Good luck to you!

abell77 · January 2013

I wouldn't be too concerned that your dr. doesn't want to see you sooner. Also don't worry about a lack of symptoms. I had almost no symptoms with my first child. Just be glad!

2sweetlilgirls · January 2013

I don't even plan on calling to make an appointment for a few more weeks. Nothing exciting happens until you can hear the heartbeat at 1012 weeks anyway. Before then they basically just charge a bunch of money to have you come in and pee on a stick and "confirm" what we already know.

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