Hitting....

JKGymnast · January 2013

Your LO isn't getting their way or they are frustrated they cant have something, so they backhand you!

What do YOU do to correct this behavior?

strngysgurl · January 2013

We usually say something along the lines of "C, hitting isn't nice, it hurts XYZ(whoever he's hitting)" and we hold his hand until he stops.

It works for now, but most of the time he only hits when he sees DH and I play spanking each other. Looks like THAT has to stop...

There's also a book that my sister has called Hands are not for hitting. Not sure how much she uses it, or how much it helps, but I believe it repeats the title numerous times, and tells the child positive things that hands are for.

tartertots9725 · January 2013

strngysgurl:
We usually say something along the lines of "C, hitting isn't nice, it hurts XYZ(whoever he's hitting)" and we hold his hand until he stops.

It works for now, but most of the time he only hits when he sees DH and I play spanking each other. Looks like THAT has to stop...

There's also a book that my sister has called Hands are not for hitting. Not sure how much she uses it, or how much it helps, but I believe it repeats the title numerous times, and tells the child positive things that hands are for.

That's exactly what we do. It seems to work, he doesn't hit very often. He's more of a headbutter.

JKGymnast · January 2013

tartertots9725:
strngysgurl:
We usually say something along the lines of "C, hitting isn't nice, it hurts XYZ(whoever he's hitting)" and we hold his hand until he stops.

 It works for now, but most of the time he only hits when he sees DH and I play spanking each other. Looks like THAT has to stop...

There's also a book that my sister has called Hands are not for hitting. Not sure how much she uses it, or how much it helps, but I believe it repeats the title numerous times, and tells the child positive things that hands are for.

That's exactly what we do. It seems to work, he doesn't hit very often. He's more of a headbutter.

For some reason the word headbutter makes me crack up.... It sounds more painful than hitting tho....

Ms5586 · January 2013

Pull his hand down, firmly say something like "We don't hit. That hurts". And then show him to do "nice" (stroking our face).

He still hits lol, but at least we are being consistent.

covertxxamour · January 2013

EmpireMomof3:
I do the hand squeeze while saying no. She doesn't hit often. So, it must work. I once fake cried and she cried too. Maybe that is what slowed it up.nbsp;

I do this. I also try the fake cry and she laughs at me and runs away. Quite the little devil I have...

aveeh · January 2013

I'm sorry you've all been backhanded, headbutted, and hit!

Bridget is more of a "lets throw things at mommy" kind of girl so I don't think the hand squeeze will work for us since I'm not holding her when she does the bad behavior. Ive just been telling her no throwing things. Hasn't worked yet...

Yasiris1105 · January 2013

EmpireMomof3:
I do the hand squeeze while saying no.

This with a very serious no if he was doing it as a tantrum or misbehaving. When he hits for playing I just lower his hand and say "no hitting" and try to distract him with something else.

Pips09 · January 2013

We stop her hand and say "No hitting. That hurts mommy (or daddy, or whoever). Be gentle." and then stroke gently with her hand. This is also how we have been teaching her to be nice to the dog, we say "Be gentle" and use her hand to pet the dog softly.

tartertots9725 · January 2013

JKGymnast:
tartertots9725:
strngysgurl:
We usually say something along the lines of "C, hitting isn't nice, it hurts XYZ(whoever he's hitting)" and we hold his hand until he stops.

It works for now, but most of the time he only hits when he sees DH and I play spanking each other. Looks like THAT has to stop...

There's also a book that my sister has called Hands are not for hitting. Not sure how much she uses it, or how much it helps, but I believe it repeats the title numerous times, and tells the child positive things that hands are for.

That's exactly what we do. It seems to work, he doesn't hit very often. He's more of a headbutter.
For some reason the word headbutter makes me crack up.... It sounds more painful than hitting tho....

Headbutting is the worse! And he has a big head so it really hurts. Stick out tongue

Tulips114 · January 2013

Pips09:
We stop her hand and say "No hitting. That hurts mommy (or daddy, or whoever). Be gentle." and then stroke gently with her hand. This is also how we have been teaching her to be nice to the dog, we say "Be gentle" and use her hand to pet the dog softly.

Exactly this

Tulips114 · January 2013

NCC74656:
E doesn't do this but she will bite sometimes. I put biting, hitting and kicking in the same catagory and it is instant time out. Time out is doing pretty good for fixing biting, so far. She still does it but not as often.

Where do you put her for time out? We've done a few and the only place that seems to get the message across is the crib, but I don't want her to start associating the crib with being in trouble.

dominickana · January 2013

I used to tell her that we don't hit and will hold her hands until she'll calm down or whatever. But she completely stop doing it. Hasn't done it in a while.

Tulips114 · January 2013

NCC74656:
Tulips114:
NCC74656:
E doesn't do this but she will bite sometimes. I put biting, hitting and kicking in the same catagory and it is instant time out. Time out is doing pretty good for fixing biting, so far. She still does it but not as often.
Where do you put her for time out? We've done a few and the only place that seems to get the message across is the crib, but I don't want her to start associating the crib with being in trouble.
We were putting her in her room with the door closed but that stopped working because she turned it into play time. Then we moved her to the new baby's room and that worked until we got the baby toys and stuff in there. Now we sort of create this penalty box thing using 2 baby gates, one in a doorway and one in the hall, no toys. It might sound harsh but with our house that's the only way we have found to make it effective and she doesn't like it, which is the point.

Yea, definitely needs to be a place with no toys. I'll have to see if I can use our gates in the hall.

linzica · January 2013

I catch his hand and use stern mommy voice, "No, we do not hit." If he tantrums over it, i walk away. Doesn't happen alot.

jen4ny · January 2013

A doesn't hit but he scratches us when he is mad. I grab his hand and say no scratch that hurts mama. Then I say we do nice. He will usually then rub my arm or wherever he scratched and give me a hug.

JKGymnast · January 2013

Sounds like you are all fantastic moms, and you're doing the same thing!! I haven't done the hand squeeze but ill grab her mid.swing and say "no hitting... be nice". Sometimes I make her show me nice, sometimes ill put her down and walk away... It depends on what it's for. If she is trying to communicate and can't get it out and she winds up her arm for a hit, I don't walk away... I try to work with her on communicating what she needs.

PS: Yes I did just run to Barnes and Noble for "Hands are not for hitting!" Cute book. :]

hisaak · January 2013

Like others, I just say no hitting, it hurts. It takes time, but it works. We are currently battling biting over here as well ... And she has done it enough that DS has decided to bring it back as well. <sigh>

And I love the hands are not for hitting book!

Jcraul · January 2013

We say Owe, no hitting. Eye, Eye & then take her hand and have her rub us where she was hitting. She hits mostly the dog so we tell her No, eye eye & then she'll rub the dog.

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