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Bed Sharing/First Overnight Away

amdrazaamdraza member
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My son is 17 months and we are planning our first night away for my birthday in a couple weeks. We are staying local going out downtown and staying in a hotel.

I am ready, but I am a little worried about how my son will sleep for my MIL. We bedshare and he comfort nurses through the night.

He is use to being with my MIL as she watches him when I work and he actually stays asleep for naps for her pretty good sometimes even better than for me.

We plan to have her sleep with him in her bed since he has pretty much always slept with us, but she isn't as comfortable with it and worries she won't wake when he does. I am also wondering what he is going to do when he can not nurse back to sleep in the middle of the night.

Anyone have any experience with this?

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Re: Bed Sharing/First Overnight Away

  • amdrazaamdraza member
    I see the post below about cosleepimg and traveling and that gives me some hope, but what I am still worried about is the fact he comfort nurses all night. When I sleep with him he will start tossing and turning and rooting aroumd until he gets the boob. I f he doesn't get it he will fully wake.

    As I mentioned he is 17 months so he doesn't need the milk, I am pretty sure it is just for comfort. Do you think he will go back to sleep without boob?

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  • LoriLee14LoriLee14 member

    Reasure her that she will wake up when he wakes up.

    Also, and i know this will not make you feel better but, He might have a bad night and not sleep as much. your MIL might not sleep much either between if he wakes up and uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed. But it is only for one night and you will be back. He might comfort nurse more the next day.

    I don't bed share, but i do nurse to sleep and was super worried about my mom putting him down without that. turns out he didn't really care and went straight to sleep and slept the whole night. so there is a chance that he will be fine.

    If you are staying locally, and want to. maybe you can come home if need be.

    If she keeps him during the day then she knows his cues but make sure you go over the whole routine and tips on comforting him. does he take paci's? does he need a bottle overnight that she can give him?

    Good Luck and have fun

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    Thanks! He does take a paci and or bottle, just not for me. He sleeps great for her usually, so I am hoping he surprises me.

    I will be local, but I am not going to lie. I will most likely be getting pretty tipsy downtown, so I will not be any shape to come get him. I feel irresponsible saying that haha, but it's been a long time since I just let go without worrying about needing to be home to nurse, so I plan to take advantage of it. If things don't go well I will likely not leave him overnight voluntarily until he is weaned and sleeping independently.

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  • skibunny59skibunny59 member
    My DD is 10 months old and she has done an overnight at my parents twice already.  We haven't done MIL yet because I'm not quite ready for that.  Anyway, DD sleeps WAY better for my parents then she does for us.  Normally she comfort nurses all night long and she sleeps most of the night in our bed although she starts the night off in her crib.  At my parent's, she only wakes up twice the whole night and they can get her back to sleep by offering her a bottle.
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