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RSVP Question...

teddib20teddib20 member
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I have a unique situation.

My MIL's best friend is hosting my shower at her house. My mom is ordering the invites and doing most of the deocorations and centerpeices and such. My mother in law is doing most of the food and the cake...

Who do I put on the invites for people to RSVP to? I don't want to single anyone out. My initial thought would be to put the host of the shower (MIL's best friend) as the contact.... but she knows NO ONE who is coming.... does that matter? Should I just have her as the contact and then have her relay the information to my mom and MIL?

I feel kind of funny doing that since my mom is doing most of the work and ordering the invites... Should I have my mom put on the invites and then have my mom relay the information to the other two? She's probably the most reliable for that.

Should I put "Shower hosted by.." and then list all of their names so they're all honored?

I do plan on giving all 3 of them thank you gifts at the end...

What would be the appropriate thing to do?

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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    If your Mom is in charge of invitations, then let her worry about it.  As the guest of honor it's a decision for the hostesses' decision to make when they order the invitations.
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    I'd let whoever is ordering the invites be in charge of putting down the RSVP to person. Stay out of it.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    imagemabenner1:
    I'd let whoever is ordering the invites be in charge of putting down the RSVP to person. Stay out of it.
    This.  Or if you've been tasked w/ putting the invite together (although I'm not sure why you would be), just ASK them "who wants to handle the RSVPs?". 
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  • teddib20teddib20 member
    Ok, thanks... I think I am going to leave it up to my mom.
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    imagemabenner1:
    I'd let whoever is ordering the invites be in charge of putting down the RSVP to person. Stay out of it.
    This.  Or if you've been tasked w/ putting the invite together (although I'm not sure why you would be), just ASK them "who wants to handle the RSVPs?". 

    Ditto 

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  • ggatlantaggatlanta member

    +1 for your hostesses should be handling this, but since the subject came up, here's what should go on the invitations:

    Hosted by Susie Jones, Margaret Smith, and Janet Thomas*

    Please RSVP to (212) 555-1000* or jthomas@nomail.com.

    Something like that should cover it.

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  • dbowitzdbowitz member
    imageggatlanta:

    +1 for your hostesses should be handling this, but since the subject came up, here's what should go on the invitations:

    Hosted by Susie Jones, Margaret Smith, and Janet Thomas*

    Please RSVP to (212) 555-1000* or jthomas@nomail.com.

    Something like that should cover it.

    That's exactly what I was going to say - all the hostesses get named on the invitation with an asterick next to the RSVP collecter

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  • teddib20teddib20 member
    Awesome, thanks girls!
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member
    If the two moms are contributing an co-hosting, I think it's fine to put both of their phone numbers and let each side call the corresponding mom.
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    All of the names can go on the invite as hosts but I would have RSVP's go to the best friend of your MIL's since it will be at HER house and she will be responsible for making sure there is enough seating.  She can then let your mom and MIL how many are attending.  Be sure to include her phone number, cell preferably and email address. 

    I've RSVP'ed to a LOT of people I didn't know at all. 

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  • +ASH++ASH+ member
    You've gotten a lot of good answers, but I just wanted to say - I've thrown a lot of showers in the past and I've had much more success with putting:

    Regrets Only: *Phone Number*
     
    You'll tend to get fewer phone calls from the people who can't make it, and the ones who can don't have to go out of their way to let you know :).  
     
    Last time I put RSVP, I got five phone calls and had 22 people show. When I threw a shower two months ago, I put Regrets Only, got three calls and four people didn't show. 
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