D&C today... I thought this would be the end of it

mandi195 · January 2013

Had a D&C today. Was told it would take about a half hour; surgery was just over an hour and a half. Dr. was using ultrasound guidance throughout and could not find anything in my uterus. He then went in with a camera, and they were still unable to find anything. Of course, this was after scraping trying to get what they were seeing on the ultrasound, to no avail.

Turns out that I am dealing with an ectopic pregnancy, which somehow was missed through all 4 ultrasounds. I was given two injections of methotrexate, and am now home and healing. I feel ok tonight, but am fearful of the pain and effects of the methotrexate. Also, I was told that if this doesn't work (which it should), that I'll be going back in for a different surgery.

At this point I am so frustrated and sad. I was glad that today was going to be the end of dealing with this loss, and yet here I am post surgery and I'm still having to go through this for a few more weeks. I am grateful for the D&C, because without (had I opted to wait and go through this at home) it we would not have discovered that the pregnancy was ectopic, and I could be in really bad shape down the road if something were to rupture or what have you. However, I'm still so frustrated that I still don't have the closure I need for this to be over for us emotionally. I just keep crying, and I feel so helpless and alone in this. I mean, was I naive in thinking that a D&C would take care of everything like it did when I had to have one 8 years ago?

My fiance is freaking himself out reading about methotrexate online, which has me scared as well. I know the horror stories I'm reading are rare (at least I hope so), but I can't help but feel nervous. Has anyone else gone through this? Did the methotrexate take care of everything? Was it painful/difficult/etc? Has anyone had it and needed surgery afterwards because it didn't do what it was supposed to do?

ashbeut37 · January 2013

I have never had an ectopic pregnancy, however I have had three miscarriges before finally haveing my son last November. I do know however that you and your fiance should just know what symptoms of the medicine would require that you go back in and stop at that. I have read myself terrified with horror stories online about different medicines. My fiance won't even let me read the information that comes with medications perscibed to me. He reads them and then if I have one of the dangerous ones he would have to tell me. It will just make it worse to keep reading those things. I know what you mean about feeling helpless. I am sorry that on top of your loss you have to go through all this extra stuff before you can move on. All I can say about the way you feel is that, its temporary. You will never forget it but you will smile again. I am praying for you and your man. You can do this.

maycouple · January 2013

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that--the last thing you want is more surprises at that point. My good friend had a very similar situation (ectopic discovered), and the methotrexate worked for her with no complications--she did not have to have the additional surgery. In fact, she went on to have twin boys after. Hang in there--I hope you find some relief soon--both physically and mentally. You are in my thoughts.

Maybe Joleisa · January 2013

I've never taken it, but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry they missed this tidbit of information after 4 u/s and you are having to experience a D&C and meds. I hope it does what it is supposed to do. ((hugs))