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I'm having three baby showers. One at work, one with friends from church, and another with family/long-time friends (the second and third are separate because otherwise it would be a huge shower with a mix of people who didn't know each other). The work and church friend baby shower are scheduled and invitations have been sent. The family one though is still up in the air...

Originally my BFF was going to throw the family/friend shower, but in October a particulary pushy aunt of mine told her and her mom (who is BFF with my mom), "I'm going to throw her shower because I'M actually family." Sis and her mom backed off and just volunteered to help if she needed it. Lo and behold, on Sunday I found out my aunt hasn't actually done anything with the shower because she was expecting another aunt to help her and that aunt has been crazy busy with work and such. So my mom has decided to work with my aunt, her BFF and BFF's daughter to get something together. I sent them a list of people I'd like to invite on Monday but haven't heard anything else concerning when they plan on having the party.

To throw another fun item in the mix, DH's mom and sister who live 6 hours away in a different state would like to come to the shower. Because the other two showers are happening while they will be on vacation, I figure inviting them to the family/friends one would be good. They keep asking me when it will be though since MIL and SIL travel a lot for work and would like to schedule their trips around the shower if possible.

Long story short, would you ask your mom/best friend if they had decided on a date? I'm trying not to get too involed and seem like a mom-zilla, but I also want to give my MIL and SIL enough time to plan if they want to come...

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Re: Would you???

  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Yes.  Of any detail, knowing "when" is important.  And if they say ANYTHING about "oh- it'll be a surprise", tell them 1- no,it won't, since you already know about it, and 2- it's important to you that MIL and SIL are informed ASAP about the date so that they can try and come if possible.
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    i would ask them and explain that you have family that is going to have to travel a great distance and needs to be making arrangements. i dont think that's getting too involved at all. 
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member
    I would let the hosts know that MIL and SIL would like to be invited and are wondering what the date is due to their travel schedules.  I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask what the date is, and if they want it to be a surprise for you, than they can just respond to MIL/SIL themselves.
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  • ggatlantaggatlanta member

    There is nothing at all rude or pushy about asking what date they have selected, especially if you're certain the shower is in the works.

    If you think there's a chance it won't happen at all, then you can always approach it as an "if" situation - as in, "if we are having a shower, when would it be, so I can let my in-laws know?"

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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member

    imagenlscroggins:
    i would ask them and explain that you have family that is going to have to travel a great distance and needs to be making arrangements. i dont think that's getting too involved at all. 

    Agreed, totally reasonable.

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  • stk29251stk29251
    If they want it to be a surprise i'd reapect that and just tell them that you have guests that u would really like to come but they need to travel. Them them your Mil's information and have them contact each other with the details.
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    imagestk29251:
    If they want it to be a surprise i'd reapect that and just tell them that you have guests that u would really like to come but they need to travel. Them them your Mil's information and have them contact each other with the details.

    I agree with all of the posts except this one.  Your MIL or SIL should not be contacting a potential host of a shower asking when it is.  That is rude on their part because it is "assuming" they are invited. 

    As for the surprise...hopefully they won't do that to you.  They rarely turn out well...especially when you are well aware there is going to be a shower (that makes it a non-surprise).  Besides you want to be prepared.

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