I'm already dreading Mother's Day

ILoveRedVino · January 2013

I know it is 5-ish months away. I feel like I have a lot of support on milestone days, but I don't know how I'll get through that one when the rest of my friends/family are celebrating. I'm thinking of drinking NyQuil and sleeping the whole day away, which includes ignoring my MIL and my mom.

I just have this fear of that day. I don't know how I will get through it.

I actually put a lot of time into thinking about how horrible it will be. Tell me I'm normal, please.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · January 2013

Oh so normal. Mother's day has been one of the hardest days for me so far. Thankfully DH realized that and told his family we were not coming over that day (they live near us, my family does not). My mom called and wished me a happy mother's day and I lost it. On that day, do whatever is best for you and whatever makes you "happy" (or should I say, whatever makes you not completely lose it)

jess123456 · January 2013

You are not alone with dreading Mother's Day and Father's Day for that matter. They are really cruel holidays for those of us who have lost our children or those of us who have lost parents. It's totally normal to envision the pain of those days in advance once you have lost a baby.

I have been dreading those two days for the past three years when we began our trying for a baby journey and they are now obviously more difficult for us that we have lost babies and most recently our daughter. Words of wisdom is to stay home if you can and watch lots of unrelated movies. Even commercials around that time can be painful or come to the board on that day and know that you won't be alone. Luckily they fall on Sundays so most people have that day off.

starburst0928 · January 2013

This thought crossed my mind the other day. Last Mother's Day was so exciting because I had this new life inside of me, and now he is gone.

One step at a time! It's going to be hard, but we'll get through it!

careyalis · January 2013

***ticker warning***

Mother's Day this past year was a disaster. We went to lunch and they were handing out flowers to all of the mothers. They didn't offer me one. I wanted so badly for Dh to stand up for me and tell them that I was a mother too, but he oblivious so he never did. He didn't get me a card or anything and drug me to my pregnant sister in laws house to celebrate her and his mom. I love my husband dearly and he is usually very caring and compassionate, but he was honestly completely unaware of what it meant to me. I cried myself to sleep and had to call in the next day because I just couldn't hold it together. H felt horrible and I felt horrible for making him feel that way. It was just an all around terrrible day.

Bayberry12 · January 2013

Yep you are normal. I am dreading mother's day as well. Last year mother's day was right after we lost Stella. While I was pregnant, I had all these plans to invite our families over for lunch to celebrate the day all together. Needless to say, there was no celebration. In fact my brother invited me out to lunch with him and my mom. There was no way in hell I was going out to a restaurant on that day.

I am dreading that no one will acknowledge that fact that I had a child, and I AM a mother ( just not in the normal happy way).

You will get through it though, we all will. ** and them we will come here and vent, cry, maybe even laugh about it**

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