HI! First time mom

Re: HI! First time mom

• leahaustin member

  January 2013

  There is no rule about when you should or should not tell people. It is a matter of choice. In my opinion, I want to tell the people closest to me so that way if something does happen I have the support. I told my bestie last night (4w3d) and I don't feel guilty about it at all. We are telling our parents and siblings Sunday (4w6d).

  I really don't feel any different as far as my emotions go but everyone is different.

  
  
   
  

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• Tally879 member

  January 2013

  It's up to you when you tell people.  Most people wait on telling work till later.  I told my parents and close friends, we'll be open about sharing the news after we get through the first trimester.  My mom had multiple miscarriages and she said that worst part was having to go back and tell people she was no longer pregnant or having people that hadn't heard about the miscarriage ask how it was going.  That's the main reason I'm waiting.

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• Star040213 member

  January 2013

  Congratulations!! Welcome to the board! I can totally sympathize with your excitement about telling people. I didn't want to tell anyone about my first pregnancy until after our first u/s, because of MC scares, and also because I bought these really cute sonogram frames that say "Coming Soon" and that's how I always envisioned telling my parents.  Well, unfortunately we found out at our first u/s that the baby had no heartbeat and stopped growing two weeks prior. We ended up getting a D&C.  I never told my parents.  They are really eager for H and I to have kids, and I didn't want their first time hearing I was pregnant that I lost it.  Also, didn't want to deal with the pressure now that they knew we were "trying."  Anyway, I am 4w3d along with this pregnancy and H and I decided to tell my parents before my u/s just in case there is bad news. I would want their support anyway if it was.  I can't tell you how many times I almost broke down in tears in front of my mom thinking about telling her about the MC.  I really could have used her support the first time around.  She really is my best friend, and it felt so weird her not knowing about this HUGE thing in my life. So this time, instead of the sonogram, we will just put a pic of my BFP in the frame.  At least I will get to see them be out of their minds excited!!  Long story, but just a little perspective. You should do whatever you feel comfortable with.  A H&H 9 months to you!
  

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• ChrisKyleDavis

  January 2013

  I'm also a first time mom and 5 weeks and 4 days. I actually had to tell my coworkers because I'm a registered vet tech and really have to limit what I'm doing at work to keep it safe for myself and baby. My husband and I have told our immediate family and some close friends. I agree with I felt no guilt telling them because if something happens God forbid I will need a ton of support and need to talk it through anyway. It's completely up to you. You are excited and that's a good thing!

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• katiebenes member

  January 2013

  I am painting up my way of telling the parents tomorrow. we're keeping it off f/b til the first u/s but my main support group will know. 
  We're going to tell my folks as soon as the nesting dolls dry, and next weekend we're driving up the 5 hours (with way more breaks to stretch than normal) to tell DHs folks. 

  And thanks for letting me know about the google search! might as well put the bar now right?  

  Eat your food people. You are pregnant, not made of glass. ~PrimRoseMama

  The Benes Boys were born 9/3/13! woooo

  
  

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