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not sure what the right thing is

Bay9109Bay9109 member
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My SO and myself found a great deal on a place to live near his job.  He works at a coal mine and has been driving an hour and a half there and an hour and a half back each day just to get to work and we want to live closer but planned on waiting till like march to move.  Now we may be sooner and our five year old just started school here in August.  He adjust very well to change i just feel horrible moving him again especially since this would be a temporary move to a temporary school till we could find something we actually want.  anyone have any advice? 
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  • 2Gma2Gma member

    imageBay9109:
    My SO and myself found a great deal on a place to live near his job.

    is this a rental until you find something permanent?  3 hours a day on the road is alot and it would be nice for you, SO and LO to spend more time together plus saving $$$ is always good. However if your child had to change schools now and then again in March I think that would be too much for a child to handle in one school year.  Perhaps find a rental in the same location (and school district) you plan to move permanently so that way your LO wouldn't have to have 3 different schools this academic year.

    DD#1 5 years DD#2 3 years
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  • neverblushedneverblushed member

    Honestly, I would not uproot my 5 y/o for someone who was just a SO.  Make that a FI or a DH and only then would I even begin to consider whether the benefits of moving 2x in a school year outweighed the stress it would bring to everyone in the family.

    But for a SO -- nope.   

    High School English teacher and mom of 2 kids:

    DD, born 9/06/00 -- 12th grade
    DS, born 8/25/04 -- 7th grade
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  • Bay9109Bay9109 member
    he is my lo but not by blood his mother walked out when he was 14 mo and never looked back i am his mother but my so is his bio father.  we have him and a 10 week old DS.  
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  • lb1212lb1212 member

    IMHO, MOVE!!  3 hours a day on a commute is rough! I know DH used to drive 3 hrs to pick up SD every Friday &Sunday. When I was able to go with him, I was amazed how exhausted I felt after the trip! I can't imagine doing it daily! When you add in the extra care a 10 week old requires (Congrats by the way!!), 3 hours is a long time! I think a little boy would benefit more by spending time with his dad than going to the same school with kids he's known since Aug. This is kindergarten, not Senior year in high school! Also factor in that kids were out of school for a few weeks already for Christmas break, so your LO is already sort of used to not seeing them. Make sure you get contact info if there's a special friend LO wants to stay in contact with.

    I agree with PP about seeing if LO could remain in school #2 until the start of the 2013 - 2014 school year would be easier than transferring to school #3. 

    Good luck!

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