Dare I say s.e.x

roseinpain · January 2013

My husband has mentioned the lack of sex in our lives. I'm 23 weeks pregnant with twins. I must not be the only one Who has no interest in sex after a day of running after my threeyearold, Running my business and taking care of our home as well as myself.
Any word of advice? My words for my husband are probably not appropriate for here lol.
Thanks ladies!

+ASH+ · January 2013

My sex drive is more heightened with this pregnancy, BUT I've told my husband that doesn't mean I'm not exhausted at the end of the day (I'm more tired with this pregnancy - even in the second trimester). I don't really have much advice, except I've had a heart-to-heart with him about just how tired I am at night and basically that timing is everything (i.e. he knows the times of the day that I typically have the most energy).

logoz80 · January 2013

You're having twins, get used to it, lol. I love my husband, but since my daughter was born, our sex lives have taken a hit. Unfortunately, that is a reality for a lot of people. I have no drive right now either.

Mama_of_Four · January 2013

I'm not interested in sex this time around. I can go weeks without it than randomly have sex everyday for weeks. BJs are all SO get when I don't want to have sex. That's if I'm even in the mood for that.

AFBTB · January 2013

Mine has taken a HUGE nose dive. I've been miserable this pregnancy and sex is the last thing on my mind. But when it's been a couple weeks, I will help DH out with a BJ, simply because I feel so bad that he is getting so neglected.

HelgaFunk · January 2013

I was feeling the same way for awhile and felt horrible for my husband. He's never once complained or even brought it up when I've turned him away so it makes me feel even worse. So last night I fixed dinner for our family and after we took my step-son home I called in sick to work (I work 3rd shift), we stopped and got ice cream and rented a movie, and then just having that relaxing time where we had nothing to do suddenly I was in the mood. It was great because there was absolutely no pressure and he wasn't expecting it. He also got his first BJ in the past since I had such bad morning sickness I didn't want to risk barfing on him.

jillianjigs7 · January 2013

ZERO sex drive here. After running around chasing our almost 3 year old DD all day, trying to work, being sick, etc. I have NO INTEREST in sex. Haven't had it since we found out. This happened last time too. I completely lose all interest. I feel so bad for DH but he is VERY understanding, thank goodness!

boodapug77 · January 2013

In the beginning I was not in the mood, I was dealing with morning sickness all day nonstop so definitely not! But I am at 17 weeks and finally "in the mood". We had sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago...It had been awhile. But it was great and I feel we are back on track. But don't make yourself do it if you are not in the mood. And you never know someday you might be!

homebird · January 2013

I have absolutely, positively no interest in sex right now. I'm not pregnant with twins, but pregnancy + chasing after a toddler all day + work leaves me feeling exhausted in the evenings. Plus I'm on a medication that pretty much destroys my sex drive.

I feel guilty sometimes, but I don't know what else to do about it.

Laurafaye · January 2013

Maybe you could suggest that he help take on some of your share of the housework and pamper you a bit, you'd be more interested in sex.

alilovesmatt08 · January 2013

Ugh, sex is the last thing on my mind. We did it for the first time last Sunday night in probably months! I've been having tons of really bad vaginal/pelvic pressure and got a positive ffn test that could put me at risk for preterm labor. Doctor said no sex right now so I am pumped about that! I found that it is so hard to explain to men why you don't want to have sex. You have this big belly sticking out, you're tired, it is uncomfortable...they just don't get it. I guess try to explain to him why you don't want to do it...not that it will necessarily help. My DH just doesn't get it. I'm glad I got the doctors word to NOT do it

Good luck!

PansyPants · January 2013

DH and I had a talk about it and I explained that between my exhaustion from the day and overall discomfort, that sex isn't something that's going to happen very often for a while. Try to find other ways to maintain intimacy with your husband and make sure you're both working hard to be completely present when you have time alone together. I find that so long as I'm meeting DH's emotional needs that he manages to survive without sex all the time.

However, based on what my girlfriends tell me; there are some husbands that act very childish about the whole thing. In that case, you'll need to check with somebody else, DH has always been understanding when I explain what's going on.

JLHeisler · January 2013

I've gained back some energy going into the 2nd trimester, but I'm like many of you on here, I'm still exhausted at the end of the day. I've made it clear to my husband that I have a very small window in any given day where it stands a chance of happening. (That window depends on if I want to or have the energy to). I also explained that there is no way for him or me to predict when that window will happen. So if it does it does. If it doesn't it doesn't.

lhull · January 2013

I am all about sex this pregnancy! But for you, I would say you need to tell your husband to romance you more, and work extra hard to get you in the mood. I am sure he understands especially with twins! GL!

Nowuseeme324 · January 2013

My sex drive is better now than it was before I was pregnant. But it is not always in sync with DH he wants it sometimes when I dont want to and I have to tell him to deal with it. He understands and doesnt get mad about it but probably bc he doesnt go without for long periods of time.

GL But I feel for you having a toddler and twins on the way sounds exhausting to me for sure. (hugs)

Diana909 · January 2013

I am having the opposite problem!

My husband and I have not had sex since I found out I was pregnant, which was about 3 months ago! He is creeped out about it for some reason. I have tried to explain and have conversations with him about it being alright, but he does not seem interested. I was thankful in the beginning because I was so tired and just not interested but now I am starting to feel depressed that I am not attractive with my weight gain. I knwo that is not the case because he's always telling me I look cute and beautiful. He's affectionate but just not wanting to get sexual.

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