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July 2013 Moms
rrrogers2012
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a friend telling work you're expecting!
rrrogers2012
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Hello... just got a job haven't started yet, but my friend works for the company (thats how l found out about the opened position). Anyway, when they told her they were going to hire me she told them l was expecting!! l did not tell them at the interview for it is my business and l should be the one to tell after l get the job.
l am a bit let down by my friend even though she told me about the job in the first place. Another thing that bothered me was she texted me that they were going to hire me and that she told them and that they were fine with it, but she lied to them saying l found out after the interview. 1 thing coming to mind is if they were fine with it why lie and say l found out after the interview????? l feel like this lie could bit me in the butt later. What do l do?
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Re: a friend telling work you're expecting!
I have to say, it sounds a bit like your friend is not entirely on your side in this thing; unless this is a job doing something that would be unsafe for a pregnant person to fulfill, it's totally inappropriate for her to out you like that. I'd really want to know what her true motivation was.
I'd actually address this head-on. Have you already signed a written offer for the job? If so, then when you start, set up a meeting with HR to find out what their maternity leave policies are. If you've been there less than a year, you may not be eligible for much leave.
Once you know what the policies are, arrange a time to talk with your boss, and bring a plan with you that outlines when you think you'll be on leave, and when you plan to return.
This was a pretty terrible thing for a friend to do, and I think one of the best things you can do, work-wise, is limit your in-office interactions with her, and not share any personal information that you don't want leaking out in the office. Frankly, I probably wouldn't want to hang out with her outside of work, either, but that's your call.
ETA: I actually agree with the other "murder" posters, but since the cat IS out of the bag, I think dealing with it professionally is your best course of action.
yeah l really don't get it she called me and new l was looking for a job since l didnt land a teaching and l don't want to sub. l thought she was so helpful and telling me the co. she works for is looking for someone. lts not like l would put her job in harm because she works in management in a completely different section of the co.
That's really annoying of her. It sounds like she got carried away with "helping" you get the job and needs to butt out. You may want to tell you'll take it from here, but if she's that "helpful" all the time you may not want to work with her anyway!
Also, if they ask you about the lie, don't take the blame. Just say there must have been some confusion. It's not your responsibility to join her in a lie you didn't tell.
Have I told you that I love you? Because I do.
got a much needed chuckle from this
I second the homicide suggestion. I kid, I kid-- well half kid.
I might be overly sensitive, but honestly I would probably severe the friendship or be very cold towards this "friend". What she did could have serious consequences on your livelihood and that is the very definition of uncool.
Its not her place to tell ANYONE let alone your employer. I wouldn't respond to her texts, emails and I might even get quite angry to her face. Unacceptable. That is not the actions of a friend.
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