I don't like to complain but I am so peeved- and the more I think about it the more I get peeved.
I bought the boys the play kitchen from IKEA the other day while we were there. So yesterday I put it together. When DH came home I showed him, he acted all upset since I know he thinks they don't need a kitchen. The boys got up, and loved the kitchen- they were playing nicely and so finally he came into the playroom and I leave to make dinner-literally they are in the payroom with him for 10 minutes and he is bitching about them climbing on top of the thing and on and on- but here is the kicker- he does NOTHING to stop them or to get them off. He just sits on his ass and watches them. Then he says to me- "I am not being a hostage to that thing- if the climbing doesn't stop then it is going away". WTF. When I went in there after dinner John was on top- while my DH was just sittting there- I said get down- he got down. And today they have NOT attempted to climb it.
I have come to the conclusion that my DH lets them do whatever they want, and they know it- which explains why they are stinkers around him and for him. He doesn't " want to always tell them NO". I so wanted to scream at him- it is called PARENTING there are rules and YOU have to enforce them.
Re: Vent about my DH
Do you think your H has a problem with disciplining the boys (it's a hassle, therefor he doesn't want to deal with it?) or does he take issue with the BOYS playing with a kitchen (sometimes viewed as a girl toy?). Just curious.
Sorry he's being a pain!
That's my question too. Is he "that" guy or is this not the first he's had problems with disciplining the boys?
That's my question too. But no matter what the answer is, it sucks that he's not taking on a bigger, stronger parenting role. When you both are feeling calm, try to have a talk with him about parenting. If you think he won't listen to you, you could try to engage your pediatrician. Your H could come to the boys checkup and hear the parenting message from the pedi, not from you.
Sorry he's being a buttt about it.
BFP #2 5/27/12. EDD 2/1/13. m/c and D&C 6/21/12.
This. Sorry he's being a jerk.