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jennipalmer
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Joint custody questions
jennipalmer
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My ex husband is trying to say this is my weekend. Since we had the holidays they supercede normal weekends. So if we go back to normal schedule this is his weekend and next weekend is mine which MLK day is mine and I have 3 day weekend. I think that is why he is pushing so I don't get a 3 day weekend.
His theory (which is actually his wife who is paralegal they like to be mean to me because I refuse to be thier friend since he married my friend from high school) since he had last weekend before holidays started I get first weekend after holiday which is not following normal scedule.
Does anyone know do you just keep following normal schedule or who ever got last normal weekend before holiday the other get weekend after holiday?
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Re: Joint custody questions
Were you actively still friends with his now wife when they got together or was this someone you were friends with in the past?
Spoke to my lawyer he says I am right but I don't know what to do if ex pushes. Is it worth going to court over who weekend is it? If he refuses to let me see kids next weekend can I call cops?
She was my friend currently
Who has the kids during the week?
We always just start EOWE over after holidays and such. For instance, we had SD the week of Christams and the weekend before New Years, so BM had her last weekend and we are getting her this weekend. Sometimes that means we have her 2 weekends in a row, but BM doesn't care about that. She is always looking to get rid of her at every opportunity. Sometimes I think that if she could still get CS and have SD live with us she would. Sad, but true.
ETA: In my experience calling the police won't do anything. They usually say it is a civil matter and you would have to go to court.
Unfortunately, I think that you could probably make a case either way. For me, no, one weekend is not worth going to court over.
If you have a generally good, functioning relationship I would just drop it and let him have his way. Then next time he wants to monkey with the schedule so he gets a three-day weekend you can mention that you worked with him on this.
If you don't have a good relationship and he tries to bully you a lot, then you can try standing your ground.
I don't think you could possibly get the courts involved in enough time deal with this for you.
We have 50/50 and no matter how jacked up things get over the holidays, we go back to our regular schedule. In this scenario, I agree with you and first poster. However, I am not sure this is explicitly written in our CO.
I can't answer how "worth it" it is to go to court over this. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Maybe after a few days, emotions will die down and he will give you the kids that weekend.
Thanks for all good advice I did call him and told him I spoke to my attorney that this should be my weekend. I explained to why I felt I was right and said I am willing to compromise but I schedule things according to our normal schedule. He got attitude because I asked my attorney but who cares that is why I pay him good money.
Just to explain my current husband is military and stationed 5 hours away he plans coming home on weekend we have kids I planned my ultrtasound on my Friday so there would be no issues. I don't just say hey lets go to park today and can change it to next weekend because of my husbands schedule. He will be gone all of Feb and half March for training and wont get to see kids.
While typing this he called and agreed with me. My son have birthday party next Saturday his dad wanted to take him to. I said no problem...I really do try to be flexiable but he bullies me all the time and before I had hubby and lawyer in my corner I caved so now I have to stand ground.
Good job handling the situation!
I would have your lawyer send him a letter. Then, if he refuses to hand over the kids, call the cops, show them the CO and letter from your lawyer.