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October 2011 Moms
Stay with Abby alone or move to IL's?
We're moving cities -- about 3.5-4 hours away. MH and I have both applied for jobs and we're getting ready to put our house on the market (within a week). We are building a new house in the new city and will be renting a house in the new city while we wait for the new house to be finished.
MH has an interview next Tuesday, and we are very hopeful he will get the job, not only because he is highly qualified for the job, but also becuase of our connections with the City (who he would be working for).
So here is our dilemma: If MH has to start a job before I get offered a job and before our house sells, we basically have two options. (1) I can stay with Abby in our current city until I get a job and MH will come visit us on the weekends. (2) We can move into my IL's house (basement is completely finished and would be ours) and then rent a house once I get a job there.
While I'm nervous to be a "single mom" during the week, I know I could do it. FWIW, I love my IL's and it would definitely be doable to live there for a month or so. Hopefully I'd find a job within a month -- I have some really good leads.
If our house in our current city sells, I don't need to work for us to afford renting a house in our new city, so that wouldn't be an issue. But realistically, it's going to take us 2-3 months to sell our house.
Give me your thoughts ladies!
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Re: Stay with Abby alone or move to IL's?
Actually it would be best for us financially to stay on my own with Abby, because I still have a job here. So we'd still be saving as much money as we are now. I would still be working and sending Abby to daycare full-time like she's going to now. If I stay here with Abby, MH has the choice on whether to go rent us a house now or stay with his parents until I get a job and move there. He can rent a house, but we wouldn't be saving as much money.
I can totally understnad why you wouldn't want to do that again! I think for me, if Abby wasn't in the picture, there wouldn't be a question -- I would definitely stay by myself while MH moved. I just get nervous/feel added pressure, to be a "single mom" during the week. I guess I just need to get over myself. :oP
I totally get why it's nerve-wracking, but it seems like it's the better option. If it ends up seeming like it'll be too long on your own with her (takes longer than you expect to sell/find a job), you still have the choice of moving in with the ILs at that point.
GL to you and your H on the job hunt!
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That's a good point that I can always move later, assuming DH chooses to stay with his parents. Congrats again on your new job!
That's the thing, there's not a set date. If I had a job and knew when it started, then there would be a set date. Otherwise, if I don't get a job, we would have to stay there until the our new house is built, and that is likely going to be after LO #2 arrives, which we are NOT staying at IL's for that. If I don't get a job and our house doesn't sell, we cannot afford for me to move and to rent a house. If I don't get a job, but our house sells, then we can afford to rent a house in the new city. There's no confirmed dates to anything, which is part of why this is hard.
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