Loss CheckIn

Mrs Nice · January 2013

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to our Thursday checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

jrebele · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No new steps but no steps back either so I consider that a success.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

I keep saying this because I keep procrastinating but to make a follow up therapy appointment.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?

When I was pregnant, I would always call Sophia my little gymnast. She would spend all day just rolling back and forth and I would just sit with my hands on my belly and feel her. Her sister on the other hand just kicked down at me.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Being back at work and again how different everything is then how I had imagined it would be. Yet another daily reminder that Sophia is not here with us

Pumpkins+Junebug · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

-- My loss is still very new, I am just learning how to live again and trying to function as a mom to my boys.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself?

-- Get out of the house. Yesterday was rainy so I had an excuse to wallow, but today is gorgeous and my kids need to burn some energy. It might make me feel better, too.

Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

-- I need to set a deadline. Be out of the house by 3 pm.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?

-- Lily had the same adorable pouty upper lip as one of her big brothers. And his tiny button nose, too. I think they would have looked a lot alike.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

Sort of staying the same. Had a bad day Tuesday but I seem to be back on track so I'm taking that as a win.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

Being ok with other people being happy when I'm not.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?

He was a noisy sleeper. He made noises that made him sound like a sheep or a goat. He was also a major farter. He did it so much the nurses in the NICU actually passed on that information during shift changes

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Whether or not I'm going to need to test soon.

OSUWifey09 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? Eh. I'm just maintaining. One of my friends just announced she's pregnant, and her due date is two days before Devon's EDD. That set me back a little bit. But I'm maintaining.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I just want to stay on the healthy train and keep focused on myself.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share? He LOVED music. When I was about 5 months pregnant, I visited my college roommate in CT, and we went to a Broadway musical. He kicked up a storm the entire night. I like to think that he's playing music up there.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? This week has been a real test. A friend had a baby [she and I were pregnant at the same time, but she wound up miscarrying and getting pregnant again a few months later], another announced her BFP [the one I mentioned above], we're working on an apparent insurance claim we didn't know we had coming, and the one-year anniversary of my BFP with Devon is Sunday. AND I got in an accident a week ago, so I get to drop money on a deductible to fix my brand new car. But on the flip side, I've been really focused on myself. I've been running three times a week, doing this 14-day ab challenge and writing in my journal a lot. This year, I'm determined to focus on myself.

Bayberry12 · January 2013

Hugs to all you moms having sad days. And I am sorry to see so many new moms here, I hate to welcome you to this club no one wants to be a member of.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No major steps, just moving forward.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

I am getting back into my workout routine, and heating very healthy. I am also trying to clean out/reorganize our basement family room. When we made Stella's nursery, we cleaned out everything we were storing in that room and just dumped it in the basement. I have some baby things down there and just don't know what to do with them. I also know there are ultrasound pictures down there that I need to scan and save before the prints start to fade. I just have to work up the strength.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?

This is hard, because I still can't think of her without crying - I miss her so much. But, I do remember when I was at work and I would feel her moving around, it would make me feel so happy, like I had something so special that no one else knew about. I was completely in love with it.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Waiting for AF to return, so we can start TTC again. Also, the many projects I want to do around the house; the basement, the bathroom needs to be painted, I want to paint the kitchen cabinets - something to keep me busy. I am also starting acupuncture tomorrow, excited/nervous about that.

meli1025 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?   I went to therapy this week after not going for the past two weeks....it helped a lot.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?   My weight is all over the place and I haven't been exercising..I fluctuate 5 lbs and it's really getting to me, I have a small frame so 5 lbs shows a lot. I just want to start exercising again but I've been too lazy every night to get on the treadmill. My goal is to get back on the treadmill this weekend.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share?   The first time I felt her kicks was after eating a zepole at the San Gennarro feast in the city. She loved them!

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I'm thinking a lot about the "should haves". I should be exepecting her arrival in a matter of weeks.....I should be excited, not sad. I should NOT be TTC again and stressing about it because Ava's supposed to be here.

Noethola · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I have been journaling alot.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Get outside and exercise. I walked to the store today, and I registered for bootcamp starting in February.

QOTW: Is there something special about your angel that you would like to share? When her daddy would talk to her, she would move over to the side he was on.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I've been thinking a lot about if there was anything I could have done differently to save her. Though the Dr said there was no reason she died, I just have a hard time accepting that.

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