Not Walking or Talking Yet

HoneyBunny678 · January 2013

I feel guilty that I'm not a SAHM instead I am the primary breadwinner. My daughter has been in daycare since right after my maternity leave was up. All that time she has been in the "infant" room at her daycare. They won't move her until she walks but at 16 plus months she is not yet walking. she is also not talking - no words beyond mama and dada. The pediatrician says she is delayed and we should see a neurologist, but I'm not sure that it's so abnormal that testing is necessary.

Are your little ones walking and talking yet?

chiogirl02 · January 2013

My son is walking and he is 16 months but he didn't start walking until 14 months. He was also a month premature. He can say about 8 words really well and then rambles alot of other stuff that makes no sense to us.

fancefpp · January 2013

My son started walking around a year but he barely has any words yet. I was going to bring it up at his 18 month appt. Your doc didn't bring up early intervention? I would think that would be first before seeing a neurologist. EI can evaluate her and provide therapy if needed.

NotSharknado · January 2013

Well you could ask for a second opinion. Typically they say you shouldn't worry until around 18 months. Since that's approaching it couldn't hurt to check just to make sure. You seem like you are concerned also, so why not just get your lo evaluated even if it's to put your own mind at ease. Dd is walking and starting to say some words. Her gross motor skills were always more advanced than her fine motorskills. Good luck!

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

DD2 is 17.5 months and is just starting to take steps. She is faaaaaar from walking. She'll take one or two steps if we force her (aka stand her up then let her go) but that's about it.

She is supposed to move out of the infants' room at daycare when she hits 18 months, but we've already talked with her DCP and agreed she'll need more time.

As for talking, we don't have very many words at all. We have Maman, Papa, LaLa (milk) and Nuh-uh (No) that are very clear. We also like to count Ba-Ba for Baby (or baby doll) but she also uses it for other things as well. Oh and DH swears she says Baaaaaa for socks.

I'm not worried YET, but I definitely want to talk to her pedi about it at her 18 month appointment. Knowing her pedi, though, I seriously doubt she would send us off to a neurosurgeon yet.

NativeFloridian · January 2013

DD2 has had a verbal explosion in the past few weeks, but up until now she only had a few words she tossed around with regularity. And she didn't walk until about 14 months, so, I mean, I don't know that the difference between 14 and 16 months is all that great. But then, I'm not a doctor, I don't know what the curve should be. =/

MrsCase1 · January 2013

To me this bouls down to one thing: do you trust your pedi? If the answer is yes, then get the consultation done with the specialist. It is only a consultation. To me, I would be happy they suggested it as opposed to making a rash diagnosis. That is what specialists are for. If there IS an issue, early intervention could make a huge difference. If your mim spodey sense tells you the doctor is off, then switch doctors and pick their brain about it.

MrsCase1 · January 2013

Mrs Case:
To me this bouls down to one thing: do you trust your pedi? If the answer is yes, then get the consultation done with the specialist. It is only a consultation. To me, I would be happy they suggested it as opposed to making a rash diagnosis. That is what specialists are for. If there IS an issue, early intervention could make a huge difference. If your mim spodey sense tells you the doctor is off, then switch doctors and pick their brain about it.

P.s. sorry for typos i am in mobile!

Jelliebean1982 · January 2013

Your pedi sees babies every day and knows what developmentally could signal a cause for concern. Yes, most babies are walking and saying a few words at this age. I would trust him on this and at least meet with early intervention, especially if your LO isn't walking or talking by 18 months. And this has nothing to do with you working. Your DD is still the same child no matter if you work or SAH.

NotSharknado · January 2013

I also want to add, when I say dd says some words, I mean like two words. And I'm probably the only one who would understand her. Again, there is no harm in getting a second opinion.

Mrs. Stew · January 2013

I'd go to Early Intervention before a neurologist. They will come out and do an evaluation for free, and if they do need services, those are free too.

NotSharknado · January 2013

LalaMama81:
Kimbus22:
 I often think part of the reason he doesn't talk much is because I know what he wants right away and respond fast enough that he really doesn't have to try to tell me with words what the issue is. 
I
think this is definitely true for us, too.
I'm often one step ahead of her, why
wait for her to try to tell me she's
hungry if I know by the clock she
probably is?  

Same here. When I do get what she needs I do say the words to her, like "snack" "water". Still not working though. Also, a lot of babies here were saying "uh oh" months ago and Sophia just started maybe 2 weeks ago.

Jennikd3 · January 2013

I wonder if moving her out of the infants room would help her development?

DD learns lots from the other kids in her class. She doesn't really say much, a couple words but not nearly as many as some other kids in her class. She does surprise me sometimes with how much she understands even if she can't say it.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

OP, I just want to add that being a WM or a SAHM has NOTHING to do with it. Please don't blame yourself for this.

DD2 may not be walking yet but DD1 started walking at 13 months. Same with language - DD1 knew a lot mroe words at this age than her sister does. Both are/were in daycare from about 12 months, so them being home with me or at DC really has nothing to do with it.

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