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cole2144
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No one else will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you are the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.
How long should DH wait
cole2144
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DH asked BM to provide the name and number of SD`s primary care physician
so we could notify our insurance company. (He asked for this info before
but BM has refused to provide it). He has requested the information in 3
different emails this week, funny she completely ignores them but has
spoken to him over email about other issues. He also texted her about it
and she said she would email it but still has not. DH now has 50/50
legal custody so BM has to turn over this information whether she wants
to or not. So how long should he wait before either threatening contempt
or pursuing contempt without telling BM?
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Re: How long should DH wait
A week is plenty of time, especially since he knows she received the emails and they have communicated about other topics.
I would send one last email stating that you have not yet gotten the information requested and is flat out ask why not? Something like" to date I have not received SD's doctor information I requested since X date. Is there a reason why you are not forthcoming with this information as I need it for insurance purposes".
I hate these games and we too are made to play. I'm so sorry she can't grow the Eff up.
I like what felles says too, but since you said you requested it 3 times already I don't suggest giving a deadline to reply. It has NEVER not ONCE worked with BM, and I think may come across demanding. I do think requesting in a factual/nice way is smart. ALWAYS keep the communication free of emotion.
In your situation, I would try asking nicely one time.
If she ignores you, I think it would be completely reasonable to say something like "Pursuant to our new court order, I am requesting xyz information. I expect to have both the name and contact information for the pediatrician within three business days."
I think it wouldn't hurt to also have a conversation with your attorney about things like this and ask what good 1st, 2nd, and 3rd options to have protecting your rights.
I don't advocate being overly litigious. But the BM in your situation is just far too used to getting her own way. I think you need to be polite but firm and let her know that you aren't going to let her walk over you.
Thumbs up.
Mom2one - knowing the doctor's office isn't "basic information." If you have a non-cooperative CP then getting that information can be difficult.
Cole, I would send BM an email something along the lines of what PPs stated, "BM, Pursuant to the CO, I am requesting to know SD's primary care physician. I need this information for insurance purposes, and in case I ever need to take SD to the doctor. Is there a reason you are withholding this information? If you do not provide me this information I will be filing contempt. -BD" Possibly give a time-table (i.e. 3 days) but not if that will make BM worse.
I'm guessing BM is holding onto this information to make it "feel" like you guys aren't 50/50. Or maybe she thinks she can delay it until the appeal and regain CP status and not have to tell you guys? Although, you have a right to that information regardless.
I would sent it to her one last time with her lawyer copied. I've done it with my LO's father's lawyer and magically had a response the same day.
I am not sure if we have her lawyer`s email, I`ll check with DH. Thank you ladies for your advice.
All of this. Get your attorney involved and have he/she contact BM's attorney regarding her failure to provide the info. If BM and her attorney still do not provide the Dr info, your attorney will know how to proceed. My general rule of thumb is to ask nicely once, make a follow up request citing the original request, and then get the attorney involved.
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Make sure you are giving her a clear deadline as to when you expect it. If you don't get it, then you can take legal action if you feel that's necesary.
this is good advice. Your attorney probably has her attorney's contact info. And I would make that my last attempt. Then, don't threaten, just file contempt. She knows she's being an idiot, she should know it's coming.