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who to invite to shower

rpalen29rpalen29 member
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im not sure on a few people to invite to my baby shower or not.

there is 4 cousins whom I haven't seen since my wedding, which will be about 1.5 years ago when my mom sends out the invites. I'm not terribly close with them- they are on my facebook, and I maybe comment or talk to them once every few months. I did get a holiday card from one of them. Also, for my wedding, it was adults-only. But, i'd like to invite their girls to the shower (they are older, 15-17 years old), and I am also friends with them on facebook, and talk to them occasionally. I don't want to be gift grabby, but i'd like for that side of the family to at least have a little family reunion- they don't see each other often ever since the grandparents passed away.

There's also a 2 cousins and an aunt whom I've never even met- we kinda had a falling out even before we met. they never went to my wedding because I didn't invite the cousins baby daddy, who was in and out of jail for robbery. I didn't want that type of person at my wedding. But anyway, i'm not obligated to invite them, right? Since I don't even talk to them...

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Re: who to invite to shower

  • mel8255mel8255 member

    You are not obligated to do anything.  What does your host say?  If your hostess leaves it up to you, the four cousins (with the additional two kids), sounds fine...the other two cousins and aunt, I would pass.

     Just my two cents!  Enjoy!

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Invite who you're close to and see/connect w/ on a regular basis.  A shower is NOT a wedding, it is NOT an "i must invite everyone I know".

    Remember- a shower is a smaller, more personal event, AND it's a gift giving event.   This is why you don't invite "everyone you know" because to invite them IS to ask for a gift.

    So, for the 2nd group - no, don't invite them. you don't know them. 

    The first group... Personally, I wouldn't.  but if you feel they'd appreciate it, then invite them.

    But I'll also say - if you want a family reunion, then plan a family reunion.  A shower is NOT a time to do that. Because, again, to invite them is to ask for a gift for you.  

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    imageEastCoastBride:

    Invite who you're close to and see/connect w/ on a regular basis.  A shower is NOT a wedding, it is NOT an "i must invite everyone I know".

    Remember- a shower is a smaller, more personal event, AND it's a gift giving event.   This is why you don't invite "everyone you know" because to invite them IS to ask for a gift.

    So, for the 2nd group - no, don't invite them. you don't know them. 

    The first group... Personally, I wouldn't.  but if you feel they'd appreciate it, then invite them.

    But I'll also say - if you want a family reunion, then plan a family reunion.  A shower is NOT a time to do that. Because, again, to invite them is to ask for a gift for you.  

    I agree with this.

    I don't think you're being gift-grabby but if the only time I heard from or saw one of my cousins was when I got invitations to gift-giving events, I'd be irritated.  If you kept in better touch with them via internet/phone but only saw them in person a couple times a year, that would be different.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    imageEastCoastBride:

    Invite who you're close to and see/connect w/ on a regular basis.  A shower is NOT a wedding, it is NOT an "i must invite everyone I know".

    Remember- a shower is a smaller, more personal event, AND it's a gift giving event.   This is why you don't invite "everyone you know" because to invite them IS to ask for a gift.

    So, for the 2nd group - no, don't invite them. you don't know them. 

    The first group... Personally, I wouldn't.  but if you feel they'd appreciate it, then invite them.

    But I'll also say - if you want a family reunion, then plan a family reunion.  A shower is NOT a time to do that. Because, again, to invite them is to ask for a gift for you.  

    I agree with ECB.  Didn't you post this question a while back?  Maybe I'm imagining things.

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    Keep it simple. Minimize the BS. If you don't have their phone number or talk to them on a regular basis there is no good reason to invite them. That could look gift grabby.


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