3 under 2!

Sascha3 · January 2013

Hi!

I am a 40 year old mother with a little girl who turned one today, and I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant with twins!!

I planned to have them close together due to my age. We started trying again in August and I found out I was pregnant right before Christmas. Yesterday was my first appointment and my doctor did a quickie ultrasound for me. I got the shock of my life when they discovered twins. It never even crossed my mind!!

I woke up about 50 times last night with anxiety. First of all, I am petrified of complications. I have an appointment with a high risk doctor that I will be seeing frequently. I am so afraid something will go wrong. Then I am obsessing about the small things. Having to buy another crib, a triple stroller, two of everything. Wondering if I will have to sell my car that I just bought because I am not sure if 3 car seats will fit in it (I have an Audi Q5 if anyone has experience with that car and multiples). Wondering if I will ever sleep again. Wondering how I will ever fit 3 kids and food in a grocery cart.

Don't get me wrong...I am so excited and so happy. I am just so worried about everything! I felt so confident after having my last pregnancy go so smoothly and this first year has been relatively easy for me and now I feel so overwhelmed with a mixture of emotions.

I see there are plenty on here with 3 or 4 young ones, so I am going to look to you as inspiration!

macchiatto · January 2013

Congratulations x 2! And the freaking out is normal; it takes a while to process this news! I did it for a while after I found out, and that was without having another baby at home to also take care of. I recommend Dr. Luke's book "When You're Expecting Twin, Triplets or Quads" and also Karen Gromada's "Mothering Multiples: BFing and Caring for Twins and More."

TripMomma · January 2013

My triplets were not quite 2 1/2 when #4 was born. It wasn't a walk in the park, but it is doable. We are hoping for one more, and will try this summer...so it can't be that bad

I took care of the trio on my own. With baby #4 I was on my own again, until I needed an emergency appendectomy when he was 3 weeks old. My FIL was nice enough to pay for a Mother's Helper for a month. If you are able, a little help 3 or 4 hours a day made a big difference.

Good luck!

Ourfamilyof5 · January 2013

Congrats! It definitely takes some processing time, but you'll make it through! We have 3 under 2... well, for a few more days, DS turns 2 on Friday. It's tough for sure, but I know this is a short period of time in the big picture and it's eventually going to be SO much fun!

This board is a valuable resource and you can probably find every answer to your questions here. Not sure about the car situation...we took the plunge and got a van when we found out we'd have 3 in carseats

agooseman · January 2013

Congratulations! You'll have your hands full but you'll survive. :

When my twins were born, my oldest two children were 2 and 3. It's been challenging but we just take it one day at a time.

As far as the car seats, look into the Diono Radian line. You can fit three across in one row.

Good luck!!

pooman · January 2013

We had three under two for about 2 months. I'm not going to lie. It's really really hard. But I'm just past three months and starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. When one of my boys looks at his big sister and smiles I get glimpses of how awesome things will eventually be... of course then she hits him so that ends that ;o)

MuseumMaven · January 2013

Congratulations! It's completely normal to freak out. Processing the idea of twins takes some time. Remember that you have lots of time to get ready and for the idea of two babies to sink in.

MCannon326 · January 2013

Congrats! I will have 4 under two, so I am in the same boat. Wondering how we are going to make due. As the others said. One day at a time!

jsp430 · January 2013

Congrats! We had 3 under 2 for about 2 months when our twins were born. It is rough, and usually for us it is because of the needs of our older daughter. It seemed impossible at first, and I was scared the whole pregnancy of the balancing act I was going to have to do -- but you do survive. I feel like things really turned around for us at 6 months. I wouldn't say we're thriving yet, but close

The best part is when the twins got a lot more stable, sitting up, at the beginning of crawling, etc., and our now 2.5 year old loves to entertain them because they smile at her and think she's the best thing in the world. Those are the moments that are worth waiting for - the kind that make you want to do it again...haha, or not

3 under 2 will be rough, but I can already see it's going to be awesome as they get older. I hope they're all the best of friends!

megs2011 · January 2013

Congrats! It is definitely overwhelming when you find out you are having twins. My girls have been here for over 3 months now and I still can't believe I have twins. You find ways to make it work. I'm sure it will be overwhelming for a while but once you get a routine going, I'm sure you'll do fantastic!

laserlady100 · January 2013

I'm sitting here with my 22 month son sitting beside me, looking at my 4 month old b/b twins.

its doable. Yes it's a lot of work. Their nap schedules don't match up. 3 diaper changes is how I start my morning after getting the 2 older kids off to school. But we are making it.

What worked for me -

lots of help from family and church. My hubby took 2 weeks off of work and then my MIL was here for nearly 2 weeks after that. I nearly killed her (hormones!) but she was such a help. And I hurt my back last week and she dropped everything and came for a week. It has really improved our relationship. She and I aren't BFF, but we are friends now.

the church ladies came 3x a week for a few months. So for a few hours those mornings there was someone to talk to, watch my toddler while I went to the dr for the twins, take a shower, go to the store, etc.

tandem breast feeding. I had a CS and right in recovery the nurses had me tandem feeding. At 6 weeks I bought the my Brest friend nursing pillow and have loved it. Thank goodness for insurance perks that made it free. I probably wouldn't have bought it otherwise.

swaddles. The boys have started to sleep through the night and I swear by the swaddles . You can get 2 for $16 on Walmart.com .

dont try to be a hero. Accept any and all help offered. You'll be more sane if you do.

another thing you need to be ready for is times when all 3 are crying. Just be ready for it. It happens, do your best. That is all you can do.

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