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Co-sleeping isn't working

giraffe2112giraffe2112 member
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My little one was born 8/13/12-She is 5 months old and she sleeps in my bed. I am not against co-sleeping because when she does sleep she sleeps very well in my bed with me.She still wakes up to eat at night though ,we breast and bottle feed and she usually eats 5-6 oz before bed. She will fall asleep in the swing or our arms but whenever we lay her down in her crib she screams, if by chance she didn't wake when we put her down she will sleep fitfully until she does wake up screaming usually 30 minutes after laying her down. I have tried warming the sheets, sleeping with them to make them smell like me and just laying her down but responding everytime she cries. Nothing seems to be working, again I don't mind co-sleeping with her except that she still wakes to eat mainly wanting to nurse and she is relentless about grabbing at my shirt and rooting around and eventually crying until I give her the boob and then a bottle.The reason we do both is I never had a large amount of milk and she didn't gain any weight after coming home but I still let her nurse for my own benefits as well as hers but her main source or nourishment is formula. So anyways that was probably kind of long and hard to understand-My problems are--- baby won't sleep through the night while co-sleeping with me and is ther a way to co-sleep but also get baby to lay in her crib sometimes? 
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Re: Co-sleeping isn't working

  • jshfjshf member
    DS1 hated his crib too so I can relate to your struggles! I ended up getting a toddler mattress and putting that on the floor in my room. I would nurse him to sleep/hold him to sleep and then when he was deep asleep get up. He would sleep for about 45 min then I would do the same thing. He usually would come into bed with us around 10. We did this until he was almost 2 and showed signs he was ready to sleep more independently. It was a great way for him to get used to sleeping or at least falling asleep on his own.
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  • giraffe2112giraffe2112 member
    Ok that makes me feel better, I hadn't thought that maybe she wasn't ready to sleep independently. My first daughter slept through the night at 12 weeks and was a champion self soother so we didn't have these problems and she LOVED her crib. I guess I was thinking it would be easy again lol but I can't expect her to be like her sister!
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  • grangerizegrangerize member
    How many times is she waking up to eat? Honestly, if it is only one or two times, I wouldn't think this odd as your lo is still pretty young at 5 months...
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  • happywife2bhappywife2b member

    Maybe I am not understanding, but why not just make the bottle before bedtime, keep in on the nightstand and give it to her when she wakes? Its normal for her to wake/eat still at this age. Some babies sleep through the night sooner, some later. No biggie. If you are ok with her in bed with you, then keep her there.You will both sleep better because of her being with you, since she won't be fussy. and you won't be running to fetch a bottle.

     Also, try wrapping the bottle in a towel to keep it warm.

     

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  • bornmommybornmommy member
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    Maybe I am not understanding, but why not just make the bottle before bedtime, keep in on the nightstand and give it to her when she wakes? Its normal for her to wake/eat still at this age. Some babies sleep through the night sooner, some later. No biggie. If you are ok with her in bed with you, then keep her there.You will both sleep better because of her being with you, since she won't be fussy. and you won't be running to fetch a bottle.

     Also, try wrapping the bottle in a towel to keep it warm.

     

    This. DS went on a nursing strike for a month at 3 months and to keep him  happy, we would have a bottle ready by the bed when he woke up at night.  Also, he is 7.5 months and still waking up twice a night to nurse.  

                  
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  • JessieJHJessieJH member

    Hang in there. :-)

    My LO definitely does not sleep through the night and has the same constant nursing behavior you describe. She's 11 months.  Co-sleeping is still what we like though. I would recommend trying to let go of the need to get her to sleep through the night. It will happen eventually.

    We do a bottle before bed to ensure she's getting enough (my supply sucks lately). the nursing is more for comfort.

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  • giraffe2112giraffe2112 member
    I guess I felt the pressure for her to sleep through the night and felt guilty that I let her sleep with me. Our pediatrician is great but against co-sleeping and says she should be sleeping through the night. We just started cereal because I think she needs more than just formula but today was the first day of cereal. Thanks for all the advice, I feel better now and will just continue to let her sleep with us and wake up to nurse since it makes her happy
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