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Sharing a room with toddler
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Hi ladies!
Ok so I have a question I could really use some help with. My live in boyfriend and father of my child and I are currently in the process of moving out of our home. Both ofus will be going back to stay with our parents for a little while in order to save some money after a very hard year and due to a lot of financial struggles. I am not sure what the future holds for us as e claims we are going to stay together and that this is only temporary but I am trying o prepare for the worst. Anyway, the room I will be staying in is very very very small and I will be sharing this room with my 2 1/2 year old who has never slept outside of her crib in her very own room by herself ever. She will have her own toddler bEd right next to my bed and somehow we are going to make all of our clothes etc fit. I am just wondering how this is going to work as she has never slept with us and I fear she will never sleep and this whole thing will be a mess. I don't know I'm rambling I'm just so nervous and going through so much so if anyone has any experience with co sleeping with a toddler I would appreciate it.
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Re: Sharing a room with toddler
First, while I'm not qualified to give advice on this subject, I am sure you will figure it out and you will both be just fine. Truly.
Second, try posting this question to the Attachment Parenting board. A lot of room-inners and co-sleepers there who I'm sure could give you lots of good advice. They're also really friendly (i.e., not super snarky like some other TB boards). You also might try the Toddlers: 24 Months+ board, but I haven't spent any time on there because, well, I'm still preggers with my first
Good luck!!!
GL! When my DS was about 10 months old we shared a room. I put him down at 7, and when I went to bed he woke up 90% of the time. He knew I was there, and would stand and shake his crib rail until I got up, screaming at me.........
My DD is two and has her own room but she still prefers to co sleep so I'll tell you what I do. We have a routine - snack/milk, bath, story, snuggling, then bed so we follow that. Instead of putting her in her own bed, I put her in my bed and then I shut the door most of the way and go do my own thing. She usually falls asleep on her own. If she needs extra rocking or snuggling, I give that to her. When I am ready to go to bed, I just lay down next to her and go to sleep. I will say that she's a good sleeper most of the time so I don't have any issues with her waking up when I go to bed.
I think the important thing to do is to establish a routine or stick to one you have already established. Then just put your kiddo to bed the way you normally would, just in the new bed or whatever. You will probably have a few rough nights but eventually he will get the hang of it. It's important to remain consistent but also understand that this is a big transition for him so he may need some extra attention/snuggling before bed for awhile. I think it's important to address those needs and don't necessarily expect that he will be able to go to bed independently right away. Don't think of it as spoiling him or making him too dependent on you, just try to be understanding of how he might be feeling while he goes through this change and know that he may need extra mama attention for awhile while he gets used to everything. Now would not be a good time to make him CIO, in my opinion (not saying you planned to do that, just giving you my $.02).
Good luck!! It does get better and you will be fine with or without your BF. :-)
my DD and I have shared a room since she was 4 months. Thats when XH dumped us a moved. We lived with a friend and had to share a room and then we moved into our own place when she was about 9 months. I couldn't afford a 2 bedroom, only a one bedroom apartment, so we share a bedroom. She is 18 months, and I will be renewing my lease in two months and will stay here another year, making her 2 and half by the end.
It has worked well so far for us. honestly, we have done it for so long now, I can't imagine not sharing a room, though my goal is for my little girl to have her own room one day.
I have found it helps to have white noise or music, which ever your little one does better with, that seems to drown out the noise of me coming to bed. Also...just an FYI, get a small flash light...sure does help you get around in the dark and not wake them up by turning on a light.