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December 2010 Moms
Strunella
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A sprinkle question
Strunella
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I just received an invitation to my friend's sprinkle for her third baby. I've never been to one before...all of my friends had one baby shower for their first baby and that was it. As I'd be giving this friend a gift anyway, I thought the sprinkle would be fun...just a girls' gathering and hanging out with my friend. The hostess is asking that everyone bring a dish for the brunch. Is this common for sprinkles? Because to me, if this girl wants to host a party for her friend, she should provide the food and refreshments for the guests. Now I'm kind of turned off that I have to bring my own food and I don't know if I will attend.
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Re: A sprinkle question
I think it's kind of tacky as well. If the hostess was starting the planning process, she should have asked if anyone would like to bring a dish or something before hand...kind of like a mass email sort of thing so no one was put on the spot. It all depends on how close you are to the girl on whether or not to go.
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I guess it depends on the venue/setting. If they're trying to make it more low key since it's just a sprinkle, then I guess it's not too off base to make it like a pot luck.
My sprinkle was a co-ed bbq at my SIL's house & while they didn't ask guests to bring food, I know my mom made some salads to supplement the food my IL's provided.
Maybe just pick up a batch of cookies from a bakery or something & just make a joke that you're not that great at cooking or something?
I think it's a little bit of a faux pas on the hostess' part, but it sounds like you really like this friend and want to hang out with her, so I wouldn't let it stop you from going.
You could pick up something like a pre-made veggie or cheese tray or something from the bakery if you don't feel like spending all that time in the kitchen. I hate cooking so that's usually my potluck solution.
I'd be annoyed too. If someone is going to play hostess, then they shouldn't ask people to bring food. If she had been like "Hey everyone, what if we get together and do a potluck for X before the baby comes?" then that would be one thing. I get irked when people pull crap like this.
I've only been to one sprinkle and it was not potluck. I don't think that's normal for sprinkles.
I'm not a fan of sprinkles either, unless I'm really close to a person. That all said, I would still go and bring something. It's not fair to slight your friend when it's the hostess who is whack.
I agree with lrn
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If it's formal enough for an invitation then it shouldn't be potluck (unless that was already discussed in person/phone).
I'd still go b/c it's probably not the mom's fault.
I agree. I wouldn't think twice about it and just go and have fun.
I agree. I had a sprinkle with just close friends, and my mom hosted it and paid because it was at a restaurant. But for another friend, we all talked and decided, hey lets bring dishes to this one friends house to celebrate her new twins. And since it was a group decision, it was a potluck. We also verbally told other friends that we invited. But it would be weird to recieve an invite and have it be potluck.
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ITA...we do a lot of potluck parties and gatherings where I live so this wouldn't raise an eyebrow at all.
Potluck seems kind of tacky to put on a formal invite...were they printed invites? If it was the type you get at Walmart and write in the info yourself, well, I could totally see adding potluck to those.
Either way, I wouldn't decide not to go just because I was asked to bring food. We do potluck all the time around here, usually that part is "word of mouth" though. I'd just take a store-bought veggie tray or snack of some sort and enjoy seeing your friend.
I think it depends on the circumstances of the party for it to be a potluck...like if a group of friends decide to have a potluck party as someone else said. But I only know the Mama and will not know any of the other guests (we're former work friends). So, I think it's weird to ask a complete stranger (me) to bring something to your house when you're the one hosting the party.
There were a couple of things that had me leaning towards not attending. It's the third baby (I went to the shower for the first); it's over an hour away; and my friend didn't make it to my shower. I think the potluck part kind of just helped me make the decision. We'll see.