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February 2013 Moms
froggystomper
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Am I being Ungrateful- Update
froggystomper
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Turns out he is giving me a drop side crib 
. He still hasn't told me the brand or anything either. Are there like universal kits to convert the drop side into a stationary or should I just get some screws and angle brackets and do it on my own?
. He still hasn't told me the brand or anything either. Are there like universal kits to convert the drop side into a stationary or should I just get some screws and angle brackets and do it on my own? 
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Re: Am I being Ungrateful- Update
I wouldn't take the drop-side.
You said you have some money you could spend on something, right? Maybe you could invest in a pack-and-play right now. Your baby could sleep in it for quite a while and then you could save up to eventually get a crib (or never get one because the PNP works just fine).
You answer a lot of questions lady- today I'm grateful for you and your wisdom
Awww. I've been tied to the couch with sick kids all day, so I'm trying to entertain myself on here. I'm glad you're finding my ramblings useful.
I don't see anything wrong with getting a used pack and play. They are easy to sanitize and aren't assembled in the way a crib is, where you have to worry about malfunctioning and hurting the baby. Maybe you could find a used PNP? I've seen them at local mom-to-mom sales for $20ish bucks before.
I'll look into that. I found a changing table (as part of yesterdays rant too) that I mostly needed for the shelves really for 20 dollars today. Maybe I can get lucky and make some tips again tomorrow so I can go look for a PNP. Not likely on the tips, but it's a hope!!
And really, your "ramblings" have been a ton of help and I'm sure other ladies on here can relate! Thanks for being awesome!
Already living on WIC and a roughly 50 budget, so probably not there. I don't know where to skimp from anymore to be honest We were doing fine for just us with us both working full time or more- we even finally started a savings! Then somehow (well I know how lol) I get pregnant despite an IUD and being told I can't have children. Savings is gone, I've been incredibly sick(I have an immune disorder)/sciatica and I've gone from 1500 or so income to about 700. We're staying afloat, but only just >.<
The slats was the first thing I asked about because I knew those changed a while back and those are in fact the updated standard.
I would find out the brand and model and look up whether the crib has been recalled aside from the drop side issue and while you're at it order the stabilization kit from the manufacturer. I personally think that as long as it hasn't been recalled other than needing the side stabilized it's likely perfectly safe. And as it sounds like money is a huge concern, so I would try this first since the stabilization kit will be free.
I'm reusing the dropside crib I have from my first. It's an incredibly sturdy crib and we spent a lot on it to use forever (my sister plans to use it if/when she has kids as well) and we didn't foresee dropside cribs being banned when we got it. I have the kit to stabilize the side and will do that (by the time we got it DD2 was using it as a toddler bed so we didn't do it yet). I'm very annoyed since now I'll need a step stool to reach in, but that would be true of any non-dropside crib,which is why I bought a dropside to begin with. But with the stabilization kit I don't doubt the crib's safety in the least (I actually don't doubt it with the side still dropping based on the construction; DH is an engineer and feels it's safe even if we didn't immobilize the side).
Another suggestion out of left field: Call the office you get WIC through (here I have to go to community action) and ask them what kind of resources they have for parents. We have a place up here that does support groups and free parenting classes, and they "recycle" baby/kid items, especially furniture. They only pass on what meets regs. If there is anything like that in your area, the WIC people should know!
I definitely know how robbing Peter to pay Paul can spiral and make things even harder, so I just cringe thinking it's so close to Feb and financial stress on top of newborn is going to be all around fail-tastic, so if there are any free kind of options, I'm all for them at this point. Good luck!
Ditto the suggestion to get a used PNP. You might even be able to find one that has a changing attachment. It's not a long term solution, but should be okay until you get back to work and can afford a crib and changing table.
Getting behind on bills would be my very last option. The late fees will spiral out of control. In my state, I don't know about yours, the DVM will suspend your license if your car insurance lapses. That will affect your ability to get back to work and back in a better financial position.
Also mention to your dad that all drop side cribs have been recalled and you aren't comfortable using one. If he has the means, he may buy the crib/changing table combo that you want anyway.
I wish you the very best of luck. You seem to be making the best of a really hard situation.
I'm inclined to agree here. My two older kids had the same drop down side crib, and they survived just fine without problems. They are 13 and 9. Shoot when my mother was super poor and I was very very young she had me in a laundry basket with boxes around it until she got a cheapo crib after like a month. Do what you can. I wouldn't advise skimping out on the bills though, that's when something horrible happens(friend of mine had a car accident without insurance...she might lose her condo. Plus, you don't want your phone shut off without a land line. You need something)