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Shower offered at work
This is my third pregnancy, in 3 years. I had two showers with my first, declined any with my second. I started a new job in a school last year, and a coworker is so excited for me and has offered to throw a shower. I told her that it was a really nice gesture, but that I don't need a thing.
She does keep offering, and I assumed she meant that maybe we would do like just a cake or something during the school day. This would work out fairly poorly, since not everyone gets breaks to eat at the same time, or at all. I can't imagine anyone wanting to stay after school either.
But, the coworker had said that we could do something at her house. I feel like this would also go poorly, since really I am only at this school a couple days a week and just started this job, so I don't have tons of friends just hoping to spend their Saturday giving me gifts. Also, I live 45 minutes away, and have 2 small children.
So, my dilemma is that I don't want any shower, but the coworker really wants to organize something. Any suggestions? Also, baby is due right at the end of the school year, so any sort of meet the baby type party would be poor timing, since over the summer would be an unpopular time. I have 2 girls, and we are not finding out the sex before birth. Thanks for any ideas!
She does keep offering, and I assumed she meant that maybe we would do like just a cake or something during the school day. This would work out fairly poorly, since not everyone gets breaks to eat at the same time, or at all. I can't imagine anyone wanting to stay after school either.
But, the coworker had said that we could do something at her house. I feel like this would also go poorly, since really I am only at this school a couple days a week and just started this job, so I don't have tons of friends just hoping to spend their Saturday giving me gifts. Also, I live 45 minutes away, and have 2 small children.
So, my dilemma is that I don't want any shower, but the coworker really wants to organize something. Any suggestions? Also, baby is due right at the end of the school year, so any sort of meet the baby type party would be poor timing, since over the summer would be an unpopular time. I have 2 girls, and we are not finding out the sex before birth. Thanks for any ideas!
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Re: Shower offered at work
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Absolutely, we have a ton in common and she thinks of me a lot like a daughter, so this is almost an honorary grand baby to her. Both of our families are not in the area. I guess I will see what she is wanting to do, and go from there.
I agree with this and also foxyroxy's idea of a luncheon. Like ECB said...just say no. If people want to give you a gift for the baby they will.
Sounds like the real issues are: she is bored, she really wants to do something nice for you, and she likes hosting. I'd keep in mind that "the shower" is not the real issue and tackle the actual concerns separately. She sounds like a sweet woman, and I'd be willing to bet she doesn't have a daughter close by or one that she is close with.
Let her play surrogate mom without the shower; continue to insist you don't have time or don't have a guest list, and make a big effort to include her in your other children's lives in the meantime. Let her help plan one of their birthdays if there's one coming up or suggest she help you host a Valentine's day party for your neighbors and their families if you do things like that. Or ask for her help shopping for baby or making freezer meals. After all, what she really wants is to be helpful and for you to pay attention to her, so just guide her in a direction that's useful instead of stressful!