Going back to work

Re: Going back to work

• Dee1028 member

  January 2013

  I feel you. I am in Canada too. The fellas just turned 9 months and everyone keeps reminding me how little time I have left to be home with them. I want to cry.
  
  I know it will get better but it will be so hard. So so hard.
  
  

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• silvie25mar member

  January 2013

  So how can we get through this?

  

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• blushingbride_08 member

  January 2013

  I felt the same and ended up quitting my full time job. It's all about setting priorities and it takes time to find the right balance that suits your lifestyle.

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• Divallyn member

  January 2013

  Hmm, I guess I'm much different. I'm going back early because I can not wait to have my career back and get out the house. I've been unhappy for the most part staying at home as I need balance and adult interaction. Yeah it's been great getting to spend so much time with LO but I honestly feel that the time we get when I go back in two weeks will be better quality vs. quantity.

  If it helps I have had three friends that had huge anxiety about going back to work at the one year mark and were really dreading it and two of them now that there back into the working routine are loving it and feel like better moms now. The third, well she hates her job so she wants to quit and be a SAHM.  So you might be struggling with it now but give yourself some time when you do go back to get into the routine and see how you do.  You might be surprised. The first couple weeks will be hard for sure. 

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• Divallyn member

  January 2013

  Oh also, it's important to ease yourself into it and the baby too. You don't just want to plop your child into child care all of sudden if their not used to being cared for by other people or around lots of other children. I leave my LO with a dayhome lady twice a week for 5 hours. It helps him get used to it and me too, plus I can run errands or go work out. He loves going there too!

  If you and baby are never apart and then all of sudden you are apart five days a week for 8-9 hours a day that will be much harder for you and baby than easing into it. 

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• blushingbride_08 member

  January 2013

  Divallyn:

  Oh also, it's important to ease yourself into it and the baby too. You don't just want to plop your child into child care all of sudden if their not used to being cared for by other people or around lots of other children. I leave my LO with a dayhome lady twice a week for 5 hours. It helps him get used to it and me too, plus I can run errands or go work out. He loves going there too!

  If you and baby are never apart and then all of sudden you are apart five days a week for 8-9 hours a day that will be much harder for you and baby than easing into it. 

  this is true 

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• silvie25mar member

  January 2013

  You're all right. I am looking forward to going back and getting back to that whole adult interaction. Because truthfully, some days are so repetitive and I feel like I'm loosing my intelligence LOL. But still, I love being home with dd and I know the time we will have once I go back will be quality but still, it's hard. I guess I just have to take it day by day until I find a balance and I hope I will. It's just not financially feasable to not go back. Ill slowly ease her into it but even that's hard!!!! The more I ease her the even less time we'll have lol ... Oh well.

  

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• acaudill75 member

  January 2013

  I had to put DDs in DC at 8 weeks (on bedrest for 4-5 weeks before they were born), and in the US we only get 3 months. I couldn't wait. Not to go back to work, but to not have the stress of a colicky baby. The DC workers were much better equipped to deal with DDs than I was at the time, and they are very social girls, so truthfully, they need to be in DC. Some children flourish in DC, so try to think about it that way. Your LO needs the interaction socially, emotionally, and even their immune system will benefit (although it won't seem so at the time). It will make the time you do spend together more meaningful, so don't beat yourself up over it too much. I give SAHMs a lot of credit. My girls make me go BSC when I am home too long with them, so better them than me.

  

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