Community› The Bump Message Boards› Baby Showers
Baby Showers
New Discussion

Host issue

ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
in Baby Showers
I'm typing off my iPhone do pleae excuse me if I have any typos.

I was offered a shower by my sister and I decided to buy a gift for her for hosting it and getting everything together. Well today I found out that my mother actually did EVERYTHING paid for food, bought decorations, invites, favors, etc. I also found out that my sister tried to change the date of my shower because she wanted to do something else that day. mom said no, that's rude and tacky especially since she tried to move it 5 days ago. I found all of this out today and my shower is tomorrow. My question is this: would I be wrong if I give the hostess gift to my mom? In my eyes she deserves it all but it would embarrass my sister, because I'm pretty sure the guests think she's the host too.
Pregnancy Ticker BabyFetus Ticker image image image image
Report Reply to Post

Re: Host issue

  • foxyroxyfoxyroxy member
    Give the gift to you sister. While I agree it would feel better to give it to your mom (who clearly is more deserving), I think the classier, high road move is to give it to sis. Then make sure you thank your mother like crazy. Besides, I am sure your mom wouldn't want to be caught in the middle of hostess gift drama.
    "She's the tied for the third-funniest person on this board!" -S13 Bumpies

    image


    Follow Me on Pinterest
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • cinderincinderin member

    I wouldn't give your sister the gift. 

    I wouldn't give your mom the gift in front of your sister or any of the guests.

    I would wait until you had a moment with your mom and give her the gift and a thank you card. 


     Anniversary
    When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.

    Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013 

    Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
    Report Reply
  • littleredfishlittleredfish member
    Personally I would thank my sister at the shower (make a little toast or whatever) but save the gift and thank-you card for mom after. Your sister did nothing so she doesn't deserve a gift for all the work. We don't know your sister though, maybe she is typically like this, in which case maybe it's the thought that counts and you should have seen this coming?
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers

    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers

    image

    Report Reply
  • ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
    imagelittleredfish:
    Personally I would thank my sister at the shower make a little toast or whatever but save the gift and thankyou card for mom after. Your sister did nothing so she doesn't deserve a gift for all the work. We don't know your sister though, maybenbsp;she is typically like this, in which case maybe it's the thought that counts and you should have seen this coming?


    Nope this was really unexpected. She is really good for parties and get togethers. So when I found out, I was really surprised. Especially when I found out she tried to move it.
    Pregnancy Ticker BabyFetus Ticker image image image image
    Report Reply
  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    I agree with most of the others.  Save the gift and a card for your mom and give it to her after (maybe take her to lunch or whatever).  You can still do a toast to your sister and even give her a small gift and card as well...but I wouldn't go overboard.  I would get her a gift because she hopefully will be actually hosting the shower once it starts. 

    Report Reply
  • tilsonctilsonc member

    What did you get? Most hosts gifts aren't huge. I would stay out of the drama and get them both something. You don't need the extra stress, ect during your shower or before baby comes.

    Report Reply
  • ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
    This is an update.
    Today I spoke with my sister and I was straight forward with my concerns. I didn't tell her about the gift lol. I told her that she needed to help with this shower especially since she's the one who offered it. And how it wasn't fair that our mom was doing everything. So she straightened up the house, put up all the decorations, cooked the food, and hosted : so I gave her the hostess gift and she loved it. I also surprised my mom with a free medi/pedi, facial and massage at a chocolate spa :. So today went very well and I wish I can upload some pictures..
    Pregnancy Ticker BabyFetus Ticker image image image image
    Report Reply
  • ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
    Sorry, my iPhone types soooo wrong on this app.
    Pregnancy Ticker BabyFetus Ticker image image image image
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"