Anyone been to a fertility specialist?

twinkl5379 · January 2013

H and I have our first appt with an RE tomorrow and I feel kind of nervous.

I hate that we're at this point that things just aren't happening for us after 2 yrs of trying (and 3 yrs of no birth control). I've put off getting help until this point b/c I've been working on my bladder issues (though I had an HSG in Oct, blood work 1.5 yrs ago and H got an SA at the same time). All have been normal.

My gyno recommended Clomid, but I have painful cysts so after doing my own research found that I shouldn't take it for that reason. So I'm going to the specialist to get the best advice.

I just feel bummed b/c H already has 2 kids with his x-wife, which makes this whole situation even more difficult for me. Sometimes I feel like I'm in it alone. I feel like it's my problem that it's not happening for us and sort of feel guilty for trying to force something. I don't know why, it's just hard and makes me feel like something is wrong with me since he had no problems with her.

I've told him all of this and he is supportive and says that he's in it with me. It's still hard, esp. knowing how emotionally difficult infertility can be.

Dragonfly1226 · January 2013

Lurker here... You are definitely making the right decision to go see a RE before just taking Clomid from your OB. Everything you are feeling is completely normal. We are unexplained, and I still felt just broken. You are not alone! I highly recommend that you check out the TTTC board. You will gain a ton of information and support. Feel free to PMme if you have any specific questions. Wishing you the very best of luck with your journey!

HisChamaoleGirl · January 2013

twinkl5379:

H and I have our first appt with an RE tomorrow and I feel kind of nervous.

I hate that we're at this point that things just aren't happening for us after 2 yrs of trying (and 3 yrs of no birth control). I've put off getting help until this point b/c I've been working on my bladder issues (though I had an HSG in Oct, blood work 1.5 yrs ago and H got an SA at the same time). All have been normal.

My gyno recommended Clomid, but I have painful cysts so after doing my own research found that I shouldn't take it for that reason. So I'm going to the specialist to get the best advice.

I just feel bummed b/c H already has 2 kids with his x-wife, which makes this whole situation even more difficult for me. Sometimes I feel like I'm in it alone. I feel like it's my problem that it's not happening for us and sort of feel guilty for trying to force something. I don't know why, it's just hard and makes me feel like something is wrong with me since he had no problems with her.

I've told him all of this and he is supportive and says that he's in it with me. It's still hard, esp. knowing how emotionally difficult infertility can be.

I know exactly how you feel when you say you are bummed bc DH and BM were able to get pregnant twice without even trying. I too have questioned if there is something wrong with me since DH aleady has a child. After all our tests we were diagnosed unexplained, but since that visit I have had to do more tests bc of a thyroid issue. DH has been a great support, but it just kills me that I cant help him add to the family that we both desperately want. It doesnt help that SS (who will be 9 next week) has been asking for a sibling since I met him when he was three.

I wouldnt take your gyno's advice of clomid unless a RE seconds that advice. Even then, with your history I would ensure that the use of clomid is monitored.

If you ever want to talk to someone, I am here. We too are ttc again after our loss. We havent officially started to do so as my cycle hasnt returned, but we have the medication and the paperwork to do an IUI once that time comes.

Phantomgirl · January 2013

Hey twink let me know how your appointment goes.

DH and I talked yesterday and if we do not get BFP this month we will also make an appointment.

We actually had an appt for Jan last year and I cancelled it. But 12 disappointments later we accept we need help.

We are 2.5 years married and I have not been on BC for 5 years. We are also in our mid thirties!!!

SIL announced she is pg again on NY eve and DH confessed that he couldn't even be happy for her as they got married after us and this is number two!!!

Fingers crossed that this year brings both of us our wishes

fellesferie · January 2013

Are you charting, twinkl?

XH and I were off bc for 2 years and trying for 1 year before I got pregnant w/ DS. We were on the verge of seeing a RE, but charting helped me figure out what was going on.

Phantomgirl · January 2013

fellesferie:
Are you charting, twinkl?XH and I were off bc for 2 years and trying for 1 year before I got pregnant w/ DS. We were on the verge of seeing a RE, but charting helped me figure out what was going on.nbsp;

Can I ask what was going on felles?

I have been using a digital fertility monitor for 4 months now and still no joy. It tells me when I ov so all seems fine. I am also pretty regular.

I was charting dates only. I never really got the hang of taking my temp but I did use opk' s

HisChamaoleGirl · January 2013

Phantomgirl:
fellesferie:
Are you charting, twinkl?XH and I were off bc for 2 years and trying for 1 year before I got pregnant w/ DS. We were on the verge of seeing a RE, but charting helped me figure out what was going on.nbsp;
Can I ask what was going on felles? I have been using a digital fertility monitor for 4 months now and still no joy. It tells me when I ov so all seems fine. I am also pretty regular. I was charting dates only. I never really got the hang of taking my temp but I did use opk' s

A digital monitor can only do so much and its still "guessing." Once it gets a peak it goes into an auto setting. I learned that from the lovely ladies on T-TTC. Temping will also help and it wont "hurt" to try that as well.

fellesferie · January 2013

Phantomgirl:
Can I ask what was going on felles? I have been using a digital fertility monitor for 4 months now and still no joy. It tells me when I ov so all seems fine. I am also pretty regular. I was charting dates only. I never really got the hang of taking my temp but I did use opk' s

Sure. I charted for about a year w/ DS.

I really only did temps. I was truly dreadful at reading opks! Anyway, I noticed that I was ovulating but my period would start like five days afterward. So my luteal phase was too short for me to get pregnant.

I did a ton of research and learned that having low levels of vitamin b6 can sometimes cause a hormone imbalance which shortens the luteal phase. So I started b6 supplements as well as some extra magnesium as it works synergistically w/ b6.

Pretty much every month my luteal phase extended by a day, and once I got it to 11 days, I got pregnant.

During the time I was charting & taking b6, I did have a full bloodwork check at my OB/GYN and XH had a SA. His SA was on the low side of normal.

twinkl5379 · January 2013

Thanks for the responses. I?m glad to know that I?m not the only one that feels this way sometimes.

I had the appt. today, and it went well. I?m glad that we went. There?s more testing to be done, but at this point she said she?d consider it unexplained infertility. Phantom ? I think you should consider going back to the specialist! She gave a lot of insight and explanations that were much more detail than with my gyno (of course, this will depend on the practicioner?s style), but it was much less intimidating than I expected.

Felles ? yes, I?ve charted, temped and used regular and digital fertility monitors. I can also tell when I ovulate b/c it has become painful (which made the dr. have a slight suspicion of endometriosis but we didn?t talk about that any further yet). I?ve been tracking my cycles for a couple of yrs now.

I hope all of you that are trying have good luck this year!

emikat · January 2013

Good luck with your journey. I'm glad that your appointment went well. I just wanted to add support and let you know that I completely understand how you feel. It's a hard thing to describe to other people that feeling of being a childless stepmom. I had a loss and went through IVF last year. The IVF didn't work and we were on a break between IVF cycles when we got a surprise BFP. I'm still nervous that things won't end well with this one, but trying to take one day at a time. Please let me know if I can be of any help.

Lyssa625 · January 2013

I have been through the whole process and back. I had the same problems with getting pregnant so my doctor did a lap. and found out my tubes were completely blocked and I had a baterial fluid built up in them. The crazy part was I had no idea even when going to yearly checkups it never showed up something wrong. The fluid build up killing all the hairlike structures that move the eggs through your tubes. I had a 85% chance after the surgery of having tubal pregnancy. He told me to see RE and we did within 6 months after surgery the fluid was back and tubes were non fixable had to have them removed. My only chances of having another child is IVF. Listen to the RE they wont steer you wrong.

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