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Who will be your baby's god parents?
I've been thinking a lot about this recently and am really conflicted on who to have. And DH and I can't come to an agreement. I have 2 brothers and he has 3 brothers and 1 sister. I don't really want any of them to be the god parents to tell you the truth. I actually want my aunt and uncle to do it since they actually go to church and belong to a church and none of our siblings go and I don't want to have to chose between them and have someone's feelings hurt. And My DH wants friends of ours to do it if I don't want our siblings, but I'm afraid friendships change as we get older and I want someone who will be there for the long hall. Does this make any sense? How did you pick who will be yours?
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Re: Who will be your baby's god parents?
I'm already struggling with this, too. I want to use my sister and her husband, but they don't really go to church. I definitely don't want to use DH's brother that lives here in Omaha - he's ridiciulous. And DH's other brother lives in North Carolina, and we hardly see them. Sigh. Who knows.
In your case, why not go with your aunt and uncle? If they would be meaningful godparents, I think they would be an excellent choice.
well, even families can change. 2 of my first cousins on my mom's side are my godparents & i have not seen or heard from them in years. there's no guarantee that whoever you choose will be a part of yours or your child's life later on. and i'm ashamed to admit it, but i am godmother to another 1st cousin's little boy (he's 11 now) & i haven't seen or heard from her since her father, my uncle passed away in 2001.
that probably didn't help you at all, sorry : (
fwiw, dh's best friend will be this baby's GF and i have to pick the GM which will either be my oldest sister (who i've always expected to be my first child's gm) or dh's sister. we pretty much agreed though that we'd each choose a godparent & he chose 1 so the gm is up to me.
For this baby we are having my sister and one of DH's brothers. For the next baby we ideally I want both of Dh's siters and his other brother. I dont know if this will be possible though. I agree about the friendships.... My Godfather was a friend of the family and well, lost touch when I was about 10. Pretty much dont hear from him at all. Although my parents keep in touch w/ his parents.
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
Both mine and my sisters GP were friends of the family. My GP have remained good friends of the family however, my sisters have had a small falling off. My Aunt and Uncle were also friend with these people because my dad, my uncle and my sisters god father were all in the volunteer fire dept together. Several years ago my aunt and uncle got into a disagreement with her GP's so because of this we don't invite them to any functions if my aunt and uncle are there. So in the past years my family's contact with them has dissapated, but keep in mind this all happened around the time my sister was a sophmore in HS.
HTH!
DD#1 born June '09
DD#2 born April '11
TTC #3 as of July '14
Our diocese/parish is very strict; godparents must have an affidavit from their home parish stating that they are active and in good standing with the church. And rightly so. The role of the godparent is to provide spiritual guidance to your child; it's not about thanking a friend for being a best bud; it's about your child's soul, not you. ::stepping down from soapbox now::
We will likely choose one of DH's co-workers & his wife. We are far away from our familis and his office is more like a family than a workplace. The couples we are debating between are all very active in their parishes and have very solid faiths; we are confident they would fulfill the responsibilities of godparents very well.