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May 2012 Moms
littleredfish
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GTKY
littleredfish
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Saturdays daily post will be GTKY. Some will be funny, some serious. Mostly just questions that happen to come to my head at the moment.
Yesterday, a friend and I were talking about me going back to work and she asked me "is your life where you thought it would be? When you look back at the plans you had when you were say, 16/17/18 years old; are you where you saw yourself being, close to that, or no where near where you thought."
So what's your answer? Mine is no where near. I went to school to be a vet tech and saw myself moving out east and working in a clinic and getting married and having kids when I was in my late 20's early 30's.
My reality is once I finished school I worked in a research lab during which time I met DH who is military and was living in another province. After a year at the lab I moved to be closer to him only for him to get transferred after 2 months. I followed him to his new local, where he left 3 months later for training then 8 months later was moved to another base where I followed again. Now we have been living here for just over 2 years and the threat of transfer is looming again. We got married when I was 23 and had DD when I was 24. I have YET to work in a conventional clinic or have very many actual vet tech related jobs since I left the lab because they are so hard to find and some places we moved before I managed to find work!
In any case; I love my life and wouldn't change it, but I never saw myself following my husband around the country, thats for sure! How about you ladies. How accurate was your teen-self in predicting your future?
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My life is NOT what I had pictured, I was going to go to school for ornamental horticulture, marry my high school sweet heart have one or two daughters, and work at a garden center and one day own one.
My real life I did go to school for ornamental horticulture but that's where it diverges from plan. Hs sweetheart turns out to be an ass I made some mistakes in college partied to hard and got pregnant by a man I did not love. Had my first son at 22 became a single mom moved back into my parents finished college and met the best man ever a year and a half later. Married him at 25 worked in a garden center and learned I hate dealing with the general public. Now 5 years later I have 3 boys and I'm a sahm which I said I'd NEVER do. It is the hardest but best job ever!! I love my family and my life. Although I wish I didn't have any student loans :
I guess mine would be somewhat in between, but more so towards nowhere near. I thought that I was going to be a civil engineer and be building roads and bridges. I wanted a family, but I thought that I would have 2 or 3 kids by my early 30s. I always saw myself as a working mom.
What happened was that I went to school for 8 years and have a doctorate in pharmacy. I met my future husband when I was 21 and got married at 25. Unfortunately, when we started trying to get pregnant, we discovered that we both had issues. It took 3 years and we got pregnant with our little miracle. I'm almost 32 and hopefully I'll have a 2nd by the time I turn 33. I'm also a working mom, but I'm also a SAHM several days a week. I like that I have the balance and feel like I get the best of both worlds.
Me: PCOS DH: Low everything (MFI)
Clomid with TI x 3 2010 BFN
Clomid+IUI+Ovidrel 2010 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 2011
9/8/11 Beta #1: 2082!! 9/19/11 Beta#2 34,689!! U/S 9/22/11 HR 127! 11/8/11 HR 150! 12/6/11 HR 136! 12/14/11 HR 139! Born at 26w2d on 2/4/2012! After 83 days in the NICU, Adalyn came home on 4/26/12!
FET 1 3/2013 BFN
FET 2 5/2013 BFN
Not at all.
When I was in high school, I thought I'd go to community college to get basic courses out of the way, then to art school to study fashion design with a fine arts minor. Took sign language as an elective and changed my major to Deaf studies then became an interpreter. Career path meandered. Got a psych BA and a masters in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology. I'm now a drug counselor and have a private therapy practice. I thought I'd be married and have kids in my late twenties. Was engaged two prior times but never got hitched. Moved to Colorado for grad school and became single (from the second fiance). A friend from when I was a teen and lost contact with during my community college days just so happened to move to Denver while living there. We reconnected, decided to be "friends with benefits" and ended up falling in love, moving to Rhode Island then back to NY where we grew up. We rescued a dog and a rabbit, got married, rescued another rabbit then bought a house and had Sophia after I turned 39.
Despite the twists, turns, heartaches and tough times, I wouldn't change a thing (except perhaps I would have reconsidered the "going to Princeton on a full ice hockey scholarship" thing).
I'm close.
I thought I would go to school for elementary education. Marry my long distance boyfriend. Teach kindergarten for 5 years, then become a SAHM. I wanted to have 1 or 2 kids by 30. and 3 or 4 by the time I'm 35.
This is what happened... Got my degree in elementary education! During college broke up with my long distance boyfriend (should have seen that coming). Met a wonderful guy!!! Married him and moved to out east. I taught 4th grade for 1 year and kindergarten for 1 year. I had my dream job, but I knew I wanted to be a sahm, so I gave it up to follow my H (fiancee then) to the east. Couldn't find a job here, so we had has DS a little earlier. Now I am 30 and have two boys! Hopefully we will add to our family over the next five years! Career wise it's not really what I pictured. My family life is exactly what I wanted!
At 17, I had plans to go to med school, marry my high school sweetheart, be a homeowner, and be done having children by 26. My, oh my, was I delusional!
In reality, my high school sweetheart turned into a dbag after we ended up going to separate colleges. I met DH our sophomore year of college, and I then transferred the following year to attend pharmacy school. After I graduated we then moved to FL, from the Midwest, so he could attend med school. We had DD1 I was 28 while we were in FL. DD1 and I moved back in with my parents while DH was on rotations during his 4th year. Then we moved again a year later still in the Midwest for DH's residency. At this point we finally became homeowners. A little less than a year later DD2 arrived I was almost 31.
I'm happy with how everything has ended up.
10 years ago.... no... I was married to my first husband, and thought I wanted kids with him... I tell you what though... Thank God for unanswered prayers!!! It was a blessing in disguise that we never got pregnant!
5 years ago... partially... I was just separating from my first husband, and I knew I would find someone else who was much better for me, and would start a family with... just didn't realize it would be my high school crush