BIL's girlfriend is being a brat about this pregnancy already!

MonroesMisfit · January 2013

For whatever reason my brother in laws girlfriend has had this "closet hatred" for me. She's nice to my face but one of those girls who posts statuses or quotes that are directed at you. She HATED that we got married before her. He hasn't even proposed to her. So I'm sure this stems from that...but my husband told his brother we were expecting and no more than an hour later she posted one of those Ecard things saying "I'm sure you're very nice but the constant one upping is making my head hurt"

What do you even do in such a situation?? I just am trying not to get upset because I don't need that right now. It's just so annoying.

WashingtonQueen · January 2013

Honestly? Ignore her. Block her updates or take her off your friends list.

LnR70707 · January 2013

Ignore it....oooorrrr comment that you are sorry if a friend got a promise ring first. That should really set her off!

CCFikes · January 2013

How snarky! I HATE when you just KNOW that a status like that is directed at you. Look on the positive side. She's his gf not your sis-in-law. Maybe there's a reason he hasn't proposed. It's going to be tough but try not to let her bitterness about not be married yet rain on your parade! Be excited and enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and try to avoid her as much as possible. Be prepared it probably won't stop there and your DH may have to say something to his brother. Cross that bridge when it comes. I like to avoid conflict so my solution is to ignore her and kill with kindness but then I get taken advantage of too so maybe that's not the best advice! lol

psychgirl33 · January 2013

MonroesMisfit:
For whatever reason my brother in laws girlfriend has had this "closet hatred" for me. She's nice to my face but one of those girls who posts statuses or quotes that are directed at you. She HATED that we got married before her. He hasn't even proposed to her. So I'm sure this stems from that...but my husband told his brother we were expecting and no more than an hour later she posted one of those Ecard things saying "I'm sure you're very nice but the constant one upping is making my head hurt" What do you even do in such a situation?? I just am trying not to get upset because I don't need that right now. It's just so annoying.

Gosh, I wonder why he won't marry her? She sounds like quite the catch. I think I would ignore her.

dragonfly711 · January 2013

wow someone is jealous. Do not let it get to you. Just keep being nice like it does not bother you and if it continues I would have your husband tell his brother to talk to her. You do not need this and like you are doing this on purpose. Keep your head up, you are better than her. Block her from fb if that is where it was from you dont need someone like that to get you down.

Did you tell your husband? Maybe talk to him too.

Have you ever actually talked to her to see what really bothers her?

MonroesMisfit · January 2013

Thank you ladies! I know it's just a matter of letting it not get to me but I haven't managed to figure that part out : she is the type to act super bubbly so everyone loves her but they don't see this side I see. I am nothing but friendly and kind and I would have thought she would be happy. I'm certain my hormones aren't helping how I feel either haha.

MonroesMisfit · January 2013

hlmlvt:
wow someone is jealous. Do not let it get to you. nbsp;Just keep being nice like it does not bother you and if it continues I would have your husband tell his brother to talk to her. nbsp;You do not need this and like you are doing this on purpose. nbsp;Keep your head up, you are better than her. nbsp;Block her from fb if that is where it was from you dont need someone like that to get you down.Did you tell your husband? nbsp;Maybe talk to him too.nbsp;Have you ever actually talked to her to see what really bothers her?nbsp;

I've told my husband and he just tells me to ignore it but after so much I shouldn't have to. I'm afraid to ask her because I don't want there to be any conflict between us. I asked hubby if I should say something and he said he didn't think it would go over well. She plays nice but in reality she talks a lot of crap. She's this way with my BIL's son's mom.

achadwick19 · January 2013

MonroesMisfit:
Thank you ladies! I know it's just a matter of letting it not get to me but I haven't managed to figure that part out : she is the type to act super bubbly so everyone loves her but they don't see this side I see. I am nothing but friendly and kind and I would have thought she would be happy. I'm certain my hormones aren't helping how I feel either haha.

I totally understand the kind of person you're talking about! Lots of those in my life. But seriously, you aren't "one-upping" her. Is she pregnant first? No. It's not like she got pregnant and you got pregnant right after with twins or something haha. Ugh people!!!!

princessvespa1 · January 2013

Wait until she says you "stole" her baby name. i'm sorry you are dealing with this. She sounds like a real peach.

AAhardman25 · January 2013

Sounds like we have the same sister in law. Mine behaves the same way. She even went as far as to give me the name " super april" and tells my dh family constant lies. It's just not worth getting upset over. Obviously they are jealous and insecure in their own lives. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy! People like this never change.

missbrightside10 · January 2013

Try and ignore her which I know is much said easier than done. My SIL despises me and has posted FB statuses directed at me. I used to get so worked up over her but I know that is exactly what she wants. I am killing her with kindness now and I can tell it is driving her crazy. I won't stoop to her level though because I am better than that.

Sunleo81379 · January 2013

Don't stoop to her level. If she wants to act like a child that's her problem. Honestly I'm sure it makes her more mad that you are ignoring her. People like that act out for attention. Don't give it to her.

KaramelSutra · January 2013

Hide her

LSzwaya · January 2013

WashingtonQueen:
Honestly? Ignore her. Block her updates or take her off your friends list.

+1

Pantone99 · January 2013

Sorry you have to deal with someone like that in your life.

Shanmarie1083 · January 2013

L&R70707:
Ignore it....oooorrrr comment that you are sorry if a friend got a promise ring first. That should really set her off!

Ha! The b*tch in me would probably do something like this.

You should probably be the bigger and more mature person and just ignore it and delete her off your friends list. People like that just want a reaction out of you, if you ignore her completely then that gets back at her more than having an exchange of insults.

RocksInTheWater · January 2013

Ugh, the passive aggressive drama type are so annoying! She is totally jealous that you are married and having a baby and she is not engaged yet. I definitely would hide her on FB. Do you all live in the same town and have to see her regularly?

smilormarie · January 2013

WashingtonQueen:
Honestly? Ignore her. Block her updates or take her off your friends list.

This. And just try to ignore her. You don't need any negativity in your life right now. You are growing a baby and trying to create a beautiful, calm, loving environment for that life. Sorry to say, but if he hasn't even proposed yet, there's a chance she won't be part of yur life much longer so take some comfort in that as well. Hugs!

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