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Lavender PLavender P member
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Hi Ladies!

I have been lurking forever and figured it was about time I introduced myself. DH and I have been together 5 years, married for 2. We have SS 11 and DS 1. DH was with BM in high school and SS was a surprise. They got married to try to make it work, but were separated more than together. When SS was a few months old, DH found out BM was cheating when she got pregnant and was potentially not his son. He couldn't deal with the fact she married him knowing that SS could've been someone else's and they divorced shortly after. He got a paternity test and filed for a court ordered agreement. Things are usually civil our blended family situation, but haven't always been that way. BM has previously filed charges against DH claiming domestic violence and for molesting SS. Both of the charges were in civil court and thrown out for being frivolous claims. Needless to say, DH and BM hate each other and try to avoid each other as much as possible. It's not great for coparenting, but better than the alternative where they used to scream and curse  at each other, in front of SS. I'm mainly here to just to hear about and learn from others in similar situations. You all give great advice and I'm looking forward to getting to know you. Thanks for reading!

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu
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  • socloudy99socloudy99 member
    DH and BM1 have a similar story. The one thing that has made things so much better is they now reconize when they are falling into their old roles. This took a long time and lots of slip ups. Good luck! Once they start the change life will be much easier.
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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    Thank you! That definitely gives me hope.
    "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu
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