Baby # 2

Re: Baby # 2

• chpswife member

  January 2013

  My DD turned 2 a few days ago and my DS is 6 weeks.......my only advice for now is don't change your routine with your first. Instead work in your LO to the same....works better and less stress. At night I bathe DS after dinner then get DD in the tub so both are ready to go. DS is adjusting pretty well but he is the easier of the two......also enlist help from your SO/DH. You'll need it the first couple weeks.... Congrats on your new addition!!!

  

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• sherina825 member

  January 2013

  I usually hang out on the tri and birth month boards but this is going to be me. My second child is due on my 1st LOs third birthday and I am scared shizless. No advice though, sorry.

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• acaudill75 member

  January 2013

  For me, finding the right schedule was a the biggest part of adjusting. DD2 was colicky, and 6-8 in the evening was more intense than labor. She would just cry and scream while we were trying to get DD1 fed, bathed and in bed. So, her outgrowing colic and syncing her schedule to her older sister's was paramount. Try and get the new one on a schedule were you get them in bed before you are get the older one ready for bed. That way you are only dealing with one at a time. And don't sweat the small stuff. As long as the kids are fed, they can be bathed later, the dishes will still be there, etc. I got hung up on everything, and it only caused me misery.

  

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• mylittlesunshine member

  January 2013

  Our DD2 had very bad colic (which was later diagnosed as MSPI),that made a very hellish first month or so. I learned that schedule is key (if you can). Also, get your first child as involved as possible. I basically let DD1 do whatever she wanted with DD2 (as long as she wasn't hurting  her or anything like that). I let her "help" with bath time and diaper changes and even letting her help with burping. There is another sibling set at daycare and the older child doesn't want to have anything to do with the younger one b/c the parents didn't want her hanging around her baby brother.

  If the two aren't on the same nap schedule (or if your oldest is like mine and doesn't nap anymore), spend quality one-on-one time with your oldest while the baby naps.

  If you are nursing, get "nursing" toys. Toys that only come out while you are nursing so that it keeps the older child occupied while you are nursing.

  Lastly, cut yourself some slack. I felt like a horrible mother in the beginnig. I felt as if all my time with DD1 had been taken away from me. I felt as if I sat her in front of the tv too much. But, I learned, that in those early days (and even now to some extent), it is all about being in survival mode. Now, as DD2 gets older, I can see that bond forming. DD1 absolutely adores her little sister and I notice that she can almost always get DD2 to smile or laugh.

  "Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."
  Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
  Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
  

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• acaudill75 member

  January 2013

  What mylittlesunshine said too!

  

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• Jason&Erin82507 member

  January 2013

  Great question xxmenaxx ! I'm TTC # 2 right now, so I appreciate the answers! Thanks ladies! :-)

  J+E ~ 08/25/2007   DD#1 ~ 05/11/2010   DD#2 ~ 09/25/2013   DD#3 ~ 06/09/2016   Baby #4 Due ~ 01/16/2023

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• CCFikes

  January 2013

  ditto! I'm in the same boat! No great advice I can give but I have a ds who's 2 and who is not so happy about a new addition... so I'm looking for any advice, too!
  

  
  

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