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Potty Training
robynlesley
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Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
If your LO (3+) flat out REFUSES...
robynlesley
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DS is nearly 3 yr 3 mo and freaks out when I try to put him on the toilet (with ring, not potty seat, if it matters).
For a good month plus, after his 3rd birthday, he was peeing in the potty like a champ. And he even pooped in the potty for a few days. Then a huge backtrack. And for the last month, he resists sitting on the potty to pee (only does so before bedtime easily) and screams NO when I try to get him to poop there.
I cannot tell if he knows before he has to pee.
He definitely knows when he has to poop but flat out says "I no poop in the potty, I poop in my diaper!"
He has mostly given up naps, but when he does it's 50/50 dry. He never wakes up dry overnight and I try to cut out water by 7 pm (bedtime at 8 pm).
I've been contemplating doing the 3 day boot camp over Thanksgiving weekend, but now I'm second guessing myself. I think he is just stubborn and I'm afraid waiting until he's "ready" will just give me a 3.5 or 4 year old boy in diapers.
Any suggestions?
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
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Re: If your LO (3+) flat out REFUSES...
We were in the same boat with DD for a while. She is totally stubborn and wants everything to be her idea, and I was worried that she'd be in pull ups until kindergarten for a while. Here's our story; I am actually not sure what made the difference in the end, but she has been in undies for a whopping 4 days now (I know, early) and is doing great so far.
We went from occasionally wanting to use the potty to total tantrum/refusal, and had a failed attempt to switch to underwear (constant accidents) which seemed to make her more anxious and make things worse. I put the potty seats totally away and didn't say the word potty for a few weeks. She didn't seem to notice or care at all. Then we went back to sitting on the potty first thing in the morning (she would usually pee then, with some protesting). Then I picked a weekend and did boot camp, based on a book I read called "This Is How I Roll." The basics:
She got to pick out underwear (Cinderella) and I also bought plain white ones. Cinderella goes on in the morning and if she has an accident it's plain white the rest of the day (or until after nap, but she doesn't nap). If she poops in the undies they get thrown out. Any accidents, she has to help clean up, both herself and the floor. She got to pick a treat (she chose Halloween marshmallows) and gets one for trying, two for pee, three for poop. One day accident free will earn her a fancy Cinderella nightgown she chose as her reward; we haven't gotten there yet. I talked the whole deal up for a couple of weeks and kept reminding her she was going to potty train soon, etc. We started on Saturday and had one accident per day so far, and she is super proud of herself and super excited about it. I was prepared to hole up in the house and do laundry all weekend but it went great, and we went out and about as usual. I think she was more ready than she thought she was, in the end, and needed a good nudge to get her going. Not sure if any of this helps, but I thought I'd share our experience!
ETA: Oh, and we are not even close to attempting night time yet. She wears pull ups to bed.
Thanks, aglenn, for your reply.
I don't think I'm going to attempt night training, even if I go the boot camp route and will check out the book you mentioned too.
Hopefully this will work.
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
If you're talking to me...she was totally capable of pulling her pants on and off before she trained but just had no interest in doing it. Treats have faded away; she asks once in a while but definitely not every time. I think really it was just a combination of her finally being ready and getting a nudge in the right direction from me. I think having to change to plain white underwear was a disincentive for accidents, too.
She now won't even wear pull ups at night and almost never has any accidents at all. This is her way, though; once she is ready she just does things like it's no big deal. Hope that helps!