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I'm going to high five her face- vent/rant
I only have 1 female co-worker and her youngest child is older than me so yeah we have different views on some things. If she makes 1 more comment about how it doesn't "count" since I've never delivered a baby vaginally I'm going to high five her face.
Ummm pretty sure I carried the 10 lber and have been his mom for the past 2 years... that counts! I'm having a RCS with this baby and I'm not ashamed. I am not less of a mother just because I've never had a tiny human rip my vag.
Her logic is that I cannot talk about carrying a baby, laboring with a baby, or basically anything prior and up to their birth because I did not vaginally deliver the baby. Fine we don't have to talk about pregnancy.... stop initiating the conversation just to tell me my experience doesn't count!
This is the same woman who tried to talk me out of getting pregnant with this baby because it inconveniences her and is now trying to talk me out of future babies for the same reason. She's waaaaay too involved in what my uterus is doing. Ok, thank you for letting me vent and rant. I'm going over the hormonal edge here ladies! lol
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Re: I'm going to high five her face- vent/rant
Call me a B, but I would complain to HR about her. What you choose to do with your own body is none of her concern. Since she contiunually chooses to demean and belittle you, I would say something.
I don't know, I just kinda see this as harassment.
^^ agree!
I've had more than 1 person tell me this. That I didn't "give birth"...Well genius...What the F would you call it?
I carried a 10 lbs 9 oz baby while working four 12 hour shifts a week in a job that requires me to be on my feet and walking for about 90% of the day. I was in labor for 12 hours, pushed for 2 and a half hours, had my lower abdomen cut open, then stapled shut, then didn't even get to hold my baby for 2 days because they took him essentially from the OR to a waiting helicopter and MediFlighted him to a NICU in another city.
Anybody who says my experience "doesn't count" will be on the receiving end of, at the very least, a black eye.
I had a coworker tell me that since I was having a c/s, then I wasn't experiencing child birth. I told her I'd rather have a nice clean cut than be ripped and torn. It was the safest exit route for my breech baby.Her daughter had a baby shortly after I came back from maternity leave and it almost felt like she was making a point to tell other coworkers about her birth when I was around to make me feel guillty for my c/s. Luckily we are in different departments now.
I bow to you! I carried a 10 lb 1 oz baby, only did the early stages of labor and didn't have to do any pushing. Honestly, I had a pretty easy c/s recovery and I got to keep my baby with me. You are much stronger than I and anyone says "doesn't count" to you deserves that black eye!! I'll hold them down for you.
Do you think you might say something to your boss about her. She truly has no place saying anything about this and the fact that she continues to do it even though it upsets you makes me believe that she really does need to be told to stop it from someone besides you.
I understand that you don't want to have an umcomfortable work environment, but you might be saving someone in the future from a lot of guilt and heartbreak.
Lurker here, whose had two vaginal deliveries but might need c-sections for future children for health reasons.
Honestly, I'm frightened of having a c-section. Not just the surgery itself but the recovery afterwards. I think you Mams who look after a newborn whilst recovering from a surgery are rockstars.
Next time she brings it up just tell her, "you have no idea what it means to look after a newborn until you've done it after major abdominal surgery. Your experience really doesn't count."
But really why some women feel the need to make childbirth and child-rearing into some kind of competition is beyond me. I'm just glad we have medical science that makes safe delivery in some tricky situations a possibility.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
I would rip her a new one! Nothing gets on my nerves worse than people who say that I didn't give birth! No, I didn't squeeze a kid from my lady parts (not for lack of trying!), but my child is here and not in my stomach, so yes, I birthed that child. They judge you on the "bond" that is supposed to develop right away - sorry to break it to them, I bonded just fine with my children.
I knew someone who constantly did this. The same person practically went insane when she found out I was bottle-feeding and proceeded to lecture me for 10 minutes on the merits of breast-feeding. I have nothing against breast-feeding, but I don't go up to nursing mothers and lecture them on the merits of bottle-feeding lol!
Ironically, she told me constantly that my children aren't going to be as healthy as hers because she breast-fed hers and I didn't. My kids might get the sniffles once a year or something worse every few years. Her kids have both gotten RSV, the flu, and strep (just in the last five months) and are sick all the time, all year long. Her oldest has asthma and is very underweight for that age group. Do I think this is a result of her breast-feeding? No, absolutely not! But I do think it proves that genetics plays more of a factor than anything else.
People can be so judgmental about topics they have no business discussing. I had a c-section and bottle-fed; my best friend had her babies at home and breast-fed for over a year. I fully supported each decision she made because it was the right one for her and she does the same for me.
What a lovely comment
. And if you have to have a c-section, it's really nothing to be worried about! Yes, it's surgery, and yes the recovery takes longer, but the actual surgery is over in about 30 minutes (and you usually get one additional night in the hospital as a result). Biggest advice I always give is get up and start walking as soon as the nurses tell you it's safe to do so! Your recovery goes so much more smoothly if you work through the pain in those first two or three days!
I hope you don't have to have one, just because it's not the way you've given birth in the past, but honestly - I wouldn't trade my experiences for anything in the world!
Oh, and they usually don't let the mother hold the baby right away, so make sure you get the first kisses from the baby
. That was always the most important thing for me (since the doctor holds it before the mother in most situations anyway). The kisses were all mine lol!