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Evening, ladies!
Our little family flew across the country tonight to visit my in laws for New Years, and I was in the window seat with DS, DH was next to me, and some guy in his late 50's was in the aisle seat.
DS was playing with the tray in front of me and poking at the window until this man said hello and started asking DH about him. I guess the man's low and loud voice scared DS, because he became fussy and squirmy. It was also already well past his bedtime.
I hushed DS, hummed to him, and tried to snuggle and nurse him under my cover, and the man next to DH said; "oh, let him cry. He'll cry himself to sleep and then he won't bother anyone." Neiher DH nor I responded, but I kept doing what I was doing. Then the man said; "why don't you pass him over to me?" I was switching sides nursing at the time, so DS was briefly out from under the cover. The man looked at him and said; "You don't want to come over here, now do you?"...kind of in that threatening tone that means, you'll have to do something you dislike if you don't behave. DH and I still didn't respond.
Of course, this man speaking directly to DS only made his fussing worse, but within minutes I had snugglewrestled him asleep, and he slept for the duration of the flight and the car ride home.
This crazy incident got me thinking about a fun thread: share your obnoxious stranger encounter stories!
Our little family flew across the country tonight to visit my in laws for New Years, and I was in the window seat with DS, DH was next to me, and some guy in his late 50's was in the aisle seat.
DS was playing with the tray in front of me and poking at the window until this man said hello and started asking DH about him. I guess the man's low and loud voice scared DS, because he became fussy and squirmy. It was also already well past his bedtime.
I hushed DS, hummed to him, and tried to snuggle and nurse him under my cover, and the man next to DH said; "oh, let him cry. He'll cry himself to sleep and then he won't bother anyone." Neiher DH nor I responded, but I kept doing what I was doing. Then the man said; "why don't you pass him over to me?" I was switching sides nursing at the time, so DS was briefly out from under the cover. The man looked at him and said; "You don't want to come over here, now do you?"...kind of in that threatening tone that means, you'll have to do something you dislike if you don't behave. DH and I still didn't respond.
Of course, this man speaking directly to DS only made his fussing worse, but within minutes I had snugglewrestled him asleep, and he slept for the duration of the flight and the car ride home.
This crazy incident got me thinking about a fun thread: share your obnoxious stranger encounter stories!
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Re: Obnoxious Stranger Comments
Currently going through our second deployment. Can't wait for Zoe to meet her daddy!
I had an old lady scold me at Target for having my baby out on a rainy day. I was just like "huh?". I mean, he was totally bundled and covered.
I think it was that thing where old people think you get sick from the rain or cold weather. I didn't bother arguing with her....you can't fix stupid.
That is too funny! I was out with DS the other day at the grocery store and had parked super close to the entrance. He had blankets in his carseat, and had pulled his socks off in the car. This is a new fun activity for him...shoes too.
Anyway, I decided to leave the socks off and dart into the store with him. A lady reprimanded me, saying: "That baby has no socks on! It's freezing!" And she went in to the store. DH said that I should have told her that DS pulls off his socks...
When people talk to DD but it's really a comment directed towards us is obnoxious. It's one of DH's biggest pet peeves. I've gotten the no socks or shoes comment before. Annoying. An old man told me once her ears would freeze because she didn't have a hat on. It was nearly 70 degrees and sunny and I was only walking from the car into the store.
I got a nice stranger comment the other week though. I was wearing DD in Joanne's fabric store. I don't wear her often as I have back issues but she loves it! An older lady came over to me and asked me about wearing her. "What a wonderful device!" she said. "Did they just come out with those?" She was so sweet and kind
I was on a flight, struggling with keeping my 3 year old happy while I tried to nurse my 5 month old. A man across the aisle, sitting in the window seat, yelled, "Here! You can use this to cover up!" as he threw a shirt over the guy next to him toward us. Um...ew. I really didn't want someone else's grungy shirt...
A little later, the guy sitting between me and the yelling shirt guy kind of smiled and said, (about my now sleeping baby) "I guess a clean diaper and a full tummy do the trick..." He was super sweet.
She was walking too fast for me to respond, but it ticked me off to a huge extent. Yes, lady. I am going to feed my baby because she is hungry. Obviously there are other places I'd rather be feeding an infant instead of sitting on cold, damp cement in a moving queue. Like I'm doing it to make a point? Thanks for being so heartless and making ME feel like I am doing something wrong. Ugh.
Gets me worked up even to this day. But, I was in line before her and got a bunch more cheap shoes than she did. So there.
She was right... you should have slept in the mall that night and probably for the next week too, just to be safe...
Also get lots of socks comments all the time. I've got one neighbor who insists that she hates shoes on babies whenever she sees DD with shoes she takes them off, but whenever DD does not have shoes on she comments on how cold her feet must be...
This is my weirdest encounter w/ a stranger... (XP from May 2012)
So... doing the last odds and ends of shopping yesterday...
and This lady comes up to me and starts ohhing and awing over DD. Then she asks me
Crazy Lady: "doesn't your mouth just water when you look at babies?!?"
Me: (thinking hell - no) but wanting to be polite "maybe"
CL: Don't you just want to suck on her cheeks?
(At this point I'm thinking that she means kiss them, but wasn't great with wording)
Me:um... maybe?!?
CL: I used to suck on my babies cheeks all the time. I'd give them hickeys.
Me (slowly backing away): Oh...
CL: Yeah, one time when my girl was 5, I forgot and sucked on her cheek and ended up getting called into the principal's office because she told the teacher that's how she got the bruise.
Me: Oh I've got to go find my husband.....
Ok, you win. Hands down.
I'm still chuckling over the strange hickey lady.
that lady is ridiculous, she was shocked that you were breastfeeding in a lineup to buy small childrens shoes??? dont get me wrong, i think anywhere that is an appropriate place for a baby is an appropriate place to nurse, but shock over nursing in a line for kids shoes seems like she was kind of stupid.
LOL
::applauds for winner::
Two "special" ones come to mind immediately.
#1: When DD1 was about 3 months old, we had gone to the grocery store in our neighborhood. The girls that work there know us and were chatting about DD and asking DH and I how things were going. An older lady comes up, gets right in DD's face and says "Good luck, sweet child, you've been born into a horrible world" and then walked away. Ummmm...... *crickets*
#2: When DD1 was about 10 months, we were on vacation in Newport Beach with DH's family. Walking back to our hotel from dinner, a woman passed me on the street, stops me, and asks if she can BORROW DD for an hour or two. Sure, crazy lady. I have no problem giving things away; need a pen? a tampon? want my kid? Okie dokie.
Luckily DD2 has yet to experience the crazies, but I'm sure it will happen in time.
LMAO!
LMAO!
I've had the sock and hat comments too - seriously annoying especially when DD will NOT tolerate a hat on her head and more often than not will pull any socks off too. Whatever.
Then I still remember when DD was about 3 weeks old, we were in the mall and I had gone to change her diaper in the restroom. Came out, wrestling a wriggly baby, huge diaper bag and cumbersome travel system and this old lady came over and asked how old DD was and then proceeded to tell me (via talking to DD) that she was way too small to be out like this. Um yeah lady, I'll just stay at home with my baby 24/7 for the first year then, shall I? Stupid cow.
When DD was still very small I had quite a few people ask me whether she was comfortable in the sling - always when she was sleeping too. Felt like saying 'do you think she'd be asleep if she was uncomfy??'.
The other day I was wearing DD and she was a bit fussy as it was close to nap time, so some lady comes up and says to DD - 'yeah you don't like being held like that, do you?'
I swear people are getting more stupid by the day.