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TTC After a Loss
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~*~ May Flowers Check-in ~*~
km_md
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Good morning ladies!! Happy New Year to you all!
This is a check-in for anyone who had a loss or an EDD in May (of any year). I am so sorry for each one of your losses. I hope that this can be a place for everyone to give support and help each other through this difficult time. Everyone is welcome!
Members, please give us an update on how you are doing. TTCAL-wise or otherwise. New members, introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself so that we can get to know you.
*** A couple of different announcements this week***
- 1 if you want, link your chart or PM it to me so I can keep track of where you are and ask you better questions each week. (I already have a few of you as friends on FF)
- Many of you put health and diet related resolutions as the answer to last week's QOTD. Would you like it if I added a health component to the check-in (e.g., posting health tips, or asking health questions) or is that too much for one check-in? If you would like, you can also join the healthy living check-in (M, W, F) run by lovelainie - it is great!
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2redtulips - EDD 5/30/2013
algalphys - EDD 5/20/2013
beccabby - Loss May 2001; EDD 5/24/2013
Buckeye608 - EDD 5/19/2013
CafeAutumnMama - EDD 5/10/2013
Daynakako - EDD 5/12/2013
egsquared - EDD 5/10/2012 and 5/05/2013
ejb23 - EDD 5/13/2013
Gatorsgirl731 - EDD 5/27/2013
Justdolt - EDD 5/23/2010 and 5/11/2013
KatieintheCity - EDD 5/13/2013
km_md - EDD 5/02/2013
kryan108 - EDD 5/25/2013
lincoln79 - EDD 5/15/2013
lsuhoneybadger - EDD 5/18/2013
may2012baby - EDD 5/17/2012
McRib - EDD 5/18/2013
mdharrison - EDD 5/18/2012 - Birth 5/30/2012
Mrs.Blayne - EDD 5/14
poohbear033 - EDD 5/29/2012
QuigleyCat - EDD 5/05/2012
samjen2010 - EDD 5/14/2013
Simpson04 - EDD 5/26/2013
TheatreStar86 - EDD 5/21/2012
xconf143usionx - EDD 5/16/2012
Zapgurl44 - EDD 5/02/2013; EDD Unknown
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KatieintheCity - I'm sorry about the temp drop 
Have you tested or has AF arrived? How are you doing with your new years resolution so far?
lincoln79 - I'm so sorry that FET didn't work this time. Do you have any information yet about the possibility of February? Is your cycle cooperating?
egsquared - Only a few more days of estrogen and progesterone! How are you feeling as it gets closer? Any other news? How is your healthy eating going?
ejb23 - How is the 2WW going? Have you tested yet?
Simpson04 - I see that you started using FF - good for you! How are you liking it? I'm sorry that your body isn't cooperating though. It can take a few months for things to return to normal, and sometimes normal changes. Mine sure did! Anything new you want to share with us this week?
samjen2010 - I'm sorry for your loss, but welcome to the check-in! It sounds like you have a lot going on, but it is good to keep busy. How are things going this week?
kryan108 - You have a great attitude about TTA, and I think March will come fast. Any progress with your cycle or is it still messed up?
Buckeye608 - I thought I saw on your chart that FF still hasn't confirmed O, is that right? Any idea what is going on there?
lsuhoneybadger - I think I read that you are triggering, is that right? If so, how is it all going?
Gatorsgirl731 - Last cycle was a crappy MF for you, I hope that this one is your cycle! Are you feeling optimistic? You really had a good attitude last week, even though the cycle was a bust! Anything else new?
Poohbear033 - I'm glad that you stopped in last week! It was good to hear from you. Good luck at your RE consult!
algalphys - Have you been able to confirm O? If so, how is the 2WW going? How was your follow up appointment?
mdharrison - Have you and SO figured things out yet? Are you going to still chart but just keep him out of the loop? I'm sorry that you have all of this on top of ttcal. You have seemed more like yourself the past few days though!
beccabby - Have you started temping? How is that going for you? How are you doing with your new niece?
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QOTD - Are you on Pinterest? What kinds of things do you pin most? Do you do any of the projects or do you just pin them?
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Inspiration of the week:
Last, but not least, (((hugs))) to anyone who needs them!
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Re: ~*~ May Flowers Check-in ~*~
So far, 2013 really hasn't been better than 2012. I guess the universe didn't get the memo that this year was supposed to be different. As most of you probably know, I lost some income and now have to TTA until I can find a job to replace it. I know that it is the right thing to do, but it sucks. I just hope that it is soon, I really didn't want to face my EDD without being pregnant again. I'm trying really hard to think positively and not let this break me down, but it is hard sometimes when you feel like life just keeps screwing you. The support I've received from TB is amazing though! I'm so glad to have everyone.
QOTD - I loveeeeeee pinterest. I pin all sorts of things, crafts, home decor, fashion, quotes, etc. And I created a board called "Successful Pinning" where I put the pins that I've completed. I like seeing that I've actually done some of them!
Hi Ladies!
Sorry I didn't post last week...I wrote up a huge reply and the bump ate it so I said F*ck it! Im sorry about your recent new km md
I never confirmed O but I'm pretty sure it happened on the 19th. I've been pretty anxious during the 2WW (its more like a 10 day wait though as I have short cycles...about 24 days). I think I'm about 12 dpo but I haven't tested yet and I'm trying to hold out until Tuesday to test as who knows what my cycles might be like post MC.
I had my follow up on the 28th and it was disappointing! It was a huge waste of my time, I didn't learn anything and the Dr basically said if my bleeding had stopped from the D&C and I'd had AF then everything was fine. She said I had no greater chance of miscarrying again since I did have one healthy pregnancy, but that doesn't really bring me any less anxiety about future pregnancies
QOTD-I don't Pinterest at all, never even been to the site!
Hope you lovely ladies are having a better 2013!
Hi Ladies! I'm a newbie and intro'd myself a week or so ago. I had a MMC and a D&C November 6th, 2012. I just started feeling comfortable enough talking about it recently. Still waiting on AF to arrive so I can start TTC again. Until then I am TTA. This is my 8th week since my D&C so if AF doesn't come soon I'm going to be giving my doctor a call.
My EDD was May 16th. Right about now I would be finding out if my sweet baby was a little boy or girl. My DH and I decided we wanted to pick out a unisex name to give our baby and decided on Riley. This was my first pregnancy and all of this has been so hard. I am so grateful to have a place to come to where everyone knows and understands what I am going through. I am really hoping AF comes soon so that we can start TTC as soon as possible, preferably before May 16th
I hope good luck finds all of us in 2013!!
Hi Ladies, I took an unplanned bump break over the holidays. I just needed to focus on things other than TTC for awhile, and it was real helpful for my relationship with DH. I did miss the support of all you ladies though. We enjoyed time with families and friends. Of course Christmas brought online a bunch of pregnancy announcements! Some I was able to just roll over and others felt like a knife. I have two good friends at work due in January and February. I am so happy for them but also feeling down that I'm still not pregnant and their babies are coming.
We're still TTC but still not charting in January. As predicted, I became a bit obsessive over it after doing it all summer into the fall. My plan is to start temping again after this cycle. I hope 2013 becomes an amazing year for all of us!
I love the idea of adding a health checkin component. I've just been cleared to workout again after being sidelined a few months with a leg/ankle injury. I hope to get back to the gym today!
QOTD: I LOVE Pinterest. I mostly pin recipes and have made quite a few of them. I also liked using the secret boards to pin some Christmas gift ideas.
*BFP #1 9/10/11 Natural m/c 11/1/11 at 11 weeks, 5 days*
*Diagnosed as unexplained infertility*
*BFP #2 12/6/14 after IUI#2 Hopeful! EDD 8/14/15*
Gatorsgirl731 - Last cycle was a crappy MF for you, I hope that this one is your cycle! Are you feeling optimistic? You really had a good attitude last week, even though the cycle was a bust! Anything else new?
Optimistic...no not really. lol I am feeling lazy. If you check FF you will see I haven't done anything but temp. I haven't checked CM or pee'ed on anyting in weeks. I'm glad I came off as positive. Forsome reason towards the end of AF I get in a really good mood then around CD 9 I become a raging blitch. We have made the decision that if we are not pg by DH's Bday in April we will not keep trying. It was hard to do that but this can seriously take over me and drive me to a really dark place.
So this is a depressing post. Sorry ladies, I'll shut up before it gets outta control. I'm just tired.
QOTD - Are you on Pinterest? What kinds of things do you pin most? Do you do any of the projects or do you just pin them?
I finaly got on the pinterest band wagon. Right now I don't have much on there. Mostly nail stuff for work. And things that make me laugh.
As far as FF, the link is in my sig.
And last but not least, thank you KM for running the check in, I know it must be bitter sweet for you with the current financial situation. I'm not praying right now (God and I are on a time out), but I will send good vibes your way.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
Km so sorry about your financial situation, that stinks. Hope things change for the better soon.
I got a BFN at 13 DPO and I'm terribly crampy today so I expect AF any time now. Sigh.
I'm on Pinterest but not as active as I used to be. I mostly post food, home decor and style ideas.
m/c: 9/06/12
LTB: 10/23/13
I forgot to answer the QOTD: I love pinterest! I mostly pin recipes and got a lot of wedding planning ideas from pinterest as well.
Sometimes when I'm feeling brave and not down and out I pin baby things for the hopeful future. And when I need a good laugh I go to the humor page 
Hi km. Again, I'm really sorry to hear you have to TTA for now. But it sounds like a really smart thing you're doing.
My update is that the holidays are over, so now it's back to business as usual. I'm on cd2 now, so me & 2013 aren't exactly seeing eye to eye yet.
QOTW - I am on Pinterest. I love it. But, I mostly added for Christmas and now I'll need a new focus. I actually just saw a bunch of cute things for American Girl dolls, so hopefully, if I ever have a daughter, my pinning has me covered. Obviously hopeful.
((hugs to whoever need them))
TTC since July 2011
BFP # 1: m/c at 7wks (EDD May 2012)
BFP #2: c/p in Nov. 2012
BFP #3: July 24th, 2013 (EDD April 4th, 2014)
*PgAL / PAL Always Welcome*
My Ovulation Chart
Wow good for you for being able to hold out on POAS! FX for you. I'm sorry that your follow up was disappointing, but hopefully your doctor is right and next time everything will go perfectly!
Did you intro on the check-in as well? If so, I'm sorry that I missed you! Either way, I'm sorry you are here, but welcome! It is so frustrating when your body won't cooperate - I hope that AF shows for you soon and you can get back on track. Great choice with the name Riley. I lost my first pregnancy as well, and have had a really hard time with it. But the ladies on this board understand it better than anyone else.
I'm glad that the bump break did some good for you. Sometimes you really do just need to take a step back from it all. I'm sorry that you have so many pregnancies around you - that must be really tough. I hope that 2013 is your year! Good luck with getting back to the gym! And thank you for your input on a health component.
I'm sorry you are feeling so down gators ((hugs)) In one way, it is nice to not be obsessing over CM and POAS, but it sucks if the reason is that you are feeling so down. That is a really tough decision that you and your DH made. I really hope that everything works out for you! Thank you for the good vibes
Thanks Katie! I'm sorry about the BFN
Hopefully this is your last one for a while! Big ((hugs))
It stinks to be responsible sometimes lol 2013 and I have had some disagreements as well. Hopefully it gets its act together. Maybe you had some residual 2012 in there? FX for this cycle for you lady!
No I didn't intro on the check-in... I missed it! This is the first check in I saw so I figured I would jump in now! I'm so sorry to hear about your financial troubles and I hope that everything straightens out for you very very soon so you can get back to TTC. Not even being able to try is driving me crazy, so I'm sure it is for you too!!
I love Pinterest. Sometimes I go on there to look for something specific and get completely sucked in to all the stuff everyone else has pinned that I forget what I came for. I pin a lot if recipes, decorating ideas, and homemade gift ideas.
BFP#1 9/5/12, MMC, MC confirmed 10/9/12,
D&C 12/12/12 BFP#2 7/30/13, EDD 4/12/14, DS born 4/14/14
Okay, I'm glad that I didn't miss you last week. Sometimes I miss posts if they are done late at night or something. Yeah TTA sucks, and being responsible sucks, but it can only get better, right?
I'm glad to hear that the healing process is progressing. Routine can definitely be helpful.
I've tested twice, BFN both times. I was pretty sick two mornings ago and thought it might be something but then DH felt sick the next night so I'm guessing it was just sick. I'm on CD 23 and should get AF this weekend if my cycle stays the same so I'm assuming I'm out for this month
I can't figure out how to send a PM for you to have my FFchart so here it is (I'm not temping so it isn't very informative):
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/40bdb9
QOTD - Yes, LOVE pinterest. I was resistent at first but since joining I'm obsessed. I basically only pin food & household/decor related things. I try things all the time. I've even pinned some of my creations!
I'd like the health related check in!
-My step-daughter is 12 years old.
-BFP #1 on 9/2/12, D&C 10/18/12 no heartbeat on US @ 10 weeks.
-BFP #2 on 1/7/13, R was born on 9/22/13 via C-Section
I'm sorry for the BFN's
Maybe it is just too early to catch the HCG on a test, you aren't out until AF shows, but it sucks to lose faith in the cycle. I sent you a FF friend request, thanks for adding your info. And thank you for your input on the health stuff!
Oh and just in case you wanted to know, if you want to send a pm, go to a post of the person you want to PM, on the bottom right hand corner it says contact, click that, and then click send PM.
Thanks for the Thread KM
I havent started temping yet. Its been so long since I have, I dont know when I shoud start. After I get AF again or now? Im going to read up today and get my BT tonight if I make it to the store.
I have held my neice a few times and Im doing pretty good. Jealousy is my biggest monster lately!
This week I would have been 20 weeks and one of DHs friends who was 2 weeks behind me is having her U/s next week and has been FB about feeling her baby move and pics of her tummy. Its been hard to swallow. I really wish that feeling of "it should be me" would go away. Its probably jealousy too Im sure.
This is the month we get to TTC again and Im very anxious and nervous. More anxious though.
OH yes I am on pinterest. I use alot of the ideas. Last night I made baked dounuts from off pintererst. I do alot of craft also, our Christmas cards for family where all hand made and I get ideas for crafty projects for my daycare off of pinterest!
Hope everyone has a good weekend
Married my very own GI Joe May 2002
I started temping midway through a cycle because I had no idea what the heck was going on - so it is okay to start any time if you want. I've also heard ladies say that it is good to start temping anyway so that you get used to it and have a little bit of practice before your TTC cycle starts. Jealousy is really a tough one. Did you block that person from FB? I have a girl due the day before I was due, she got blocked. GL to you on this upcoming cycle!
Im currently on CD 32 and no sign of AF and BFN last night. I know cycles after a MC can be crazy but it sucks from going to know when you period was coming to nothing and not knowing whats going on with my body. I do use FF just to track sex and my periods so its not that great for any other information! i did call my OB this morning though to see what i needed to do and when if my period hadnt come by a certain CD and they told me after im 2 weeks late and havent started and a neg HPT to call back and will start Progesterone pill at night to get my period started. I hope everything works out and i want to keep poas but i know im probably not pregnant and just getting my hopes up.
I am on pinterest and pin stuff and never go back and look at it but i have pinned some recipes before and tried them!
Hi ladies! Our EDD was 5/28/13. We made it through the first Xmas at our house with BOTH families invited, had an amazing first anniversary on New Year's Eve and just finished our second cycle since the D&C and we are ready to rock and roll!! Got cleared by both our OB and RE and DH is all excited about the "fun" BDing as we're free and clear to not stress between now and our IUI later this month! I am so excited to try again and believe that 2013 is our year!! I started dry coughing this morning so I hope I'm not getting sick, but I'll use this as an excuse to get some cough syrup in me in case that works! ;-)
QOTD: I LOVE pinterest and actually stayed off of it for some time as I knew I would be in trouble when I got on. My BF finally dragged me online and I'm hooked! I pin holiday decorating ideas, crafts and dessserts mostly. I've done a few "projects" already (the burlap garland on the Xmas tree was the latest and now my mom is running out to get some for her's next year) and I'm thinking about having a 1x month Pinterest party with my GFs to try some of the ideas out and have some fun at the same time! :-)
me:40; DH:41; 4/30/12 1st visit with RE; 6/30/12 IUI #1 BFN; 7/19/12 IUI cancelled (overmedicated); 8/2/12 IUI cancelled (cyst); 9/1/12 IUI #2 BFP! EDD 5/28/13; 10/9/12 1st U/S at 7w3d--missed m/c (trisomy 16) D&C 10/19/12; karyotyping results normal!; 1/31/13 IUI #3 BFP! EDD 10/25/13
I never confirmed O and stopped temping. I got sick after Christmas and have vacation planned. Both of those affect my temps ironically I get up earlier on vacation with a time change and what not.
We are on vacation now... A week of sitting by the pool or on the beach! This morning I did yoga and got a mani/pedi. It was wonderful and well needed.
I'm a big fan of Pinterest and pin all sorts of things. The pins I actually do tend to be meals or knitting projects. Maybe I'll be brave one of these days and use short hair style pin.
We are a go for FET #2 on February 1st. I called the RE's office last week and the nurse says, "Oh, you don't have to wait another cycle, we will just supress you after you get AF"
Good thing I called!
I am on birth control pills now. This will be our last two frosties, then we will be back to fresh IVFs.
The semester starts on Monday, so I am taking all the time I can to sleep in until then!
QOTD: Not really on Pinterest. I am the least crafty person ever....
Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!
Hi ladies! Hope you are all doing well!
egsquared - Only a few more days of estrogen and progesterone! How are you feeling as it gets closer? Any other news? How is your healthy eating going?
I am getting a little nervous the closer we get to IVF. I mean, we're really doing this?!?!?! Sunday is the last day of this progesterone/estrogen combo and then baseline is on the 10th (I'm also having a refresher course that day with our nurse on the injections - I'm freaking myself out about them). Healthy eating went out the window at lunch today, but other than that I've been pretty good!
QOTW: I am not on Pinterest. I might fight lincoln79 for the "least crafty person ever" award.
That's what I keep telling myself
That's pretty good of your doctors office to only make you wait to be 2 weeks late. I saw my doctor after 8 weeks and she said I had to leave it for a while longer, and it didn't end up showing until about 11 weeks. And your cycles were normal before the loss? That is really proactive. Hopefully things return to normal soon.
Welcome to the check-in, I'll add you to our list! Sounds like you had an awesome holiday despite everything. Happy belated anniversary
FX for you that this IUI works! I love the pinterest party idea!
I'm sorry that things got in the way of your charting/temping. Hopefully you don't stress about it too much! Enjoy your vacation as well! The yoga and mani/pedi sound amazing, I hope that you can be nice and relaxed.
Wow, good thing you called! FX so hard for you that this one works! At least you will be back at work and hopefully have some distraction so you don't stress too much.
I'm glad that you are doing well. I can't imagine all of the feelings that must go into IVF. FX so hard for you that this one works!
yea before Madison my cycles were 28 days, while BF i got i back at 6 weeks ( lucky me) and then it went from 28 to about 30-32. I know its probbaly normal but i just wanted to go ahead and have i guess a date to look forward to seeing if something happens or i need to get help with meds.
This is totally it. Obviously a cycle that started in 2012 couldn't have gotten its sh!t together. On to 2013!
And also, being responsible does stink sometimes. Especially when you can't have everything even though you deserve it. ((hugs)) everything works out for you quickly so you can jump back on the TTC train.
TTC since July 2011
BFP # 1: m/c at 7wks (EDD May 2012)
BFP #2: c/p in Nov. 2012
BFP #3: July 24th, 2013 (EDD April 4th, 2014)
*PgAL / PAL Always Welcome*
My Ovulation Chart
Hello, I hope everyone had a great New Year!
My cycles are still messed up. I got my first AF 30 days after my d and c so I was optimistic that they were going to be somewhat normal. I am now on day 45 waiting for my 2nd AF post loss to show up. Like others have said it is so annoying to not have any idea when AF will show up. Took a test at day 43 (bfn) we are tta so I knew it would be negative.
On the bright side my husband and I booked a vacation to go to Punta Cana at the end of March. We are going to an all inclusive on the beach. It will be so nice just to relax and get away together and get ready to get back to trying again once we get back!
I also Pinterest! I have tried many new recipes that I have found on there. I also like to collaborate with other early childhood teachers to share lesson plan ideas.
I hope all of you have a great rest of the week and weekend!
**BFP#1 9/5/12 EDD 5/15/13 changed to 5/25/13 after u/s, missed mc 10/19/12. D and C 10/22/12**
BFP 4 10/28/19 EDD 7/6/20
Even though you *know* it is probably normal, it is still a pain to deal with and wonder about. Hopefully you get it straightened out soon!
Residual 2012 HAS to be it. FX for this cycle! Thanks for your well wishes
I hope that your cycles get their act together soon. That is incredibly frustrating, and there really isn't much you can do about it either, which is even more frustrating! Have a great time in Punta Cana! You deserve a nice relaxing vacation!