~UO Thursday~

peanutmuse · January 2013

Today is Thursday, right? Gah, my schedule is all messed up. Let's hear 'em, ladies!

For those who need to know, UO = Unpopular Opinion. However, last week there were some pretty popular "unpopular" opinions. In my opinion, haha.

Have at it!

peanutmuse · January 2013

I think everyone knows I'm opinionated, so I'll start.

I have two, one related to this board and one NBR. (And probably only 50% will think it's unpopular.)

1) I am so over the morning sickness posts. I find them really annoying and repetitive. A couple of weeks ago, everyone was talking about how they were cramping and everyone had to be reassured that it was normal. Now everyone is talking about m/s and asking others what they've been eating. They make me want to stab my eyes out.

Caveat -- I do enjoy a good recipe shared, like pantherRN did yesterday. That is a useful post, IMO.

2) I think New Year's resolutions are stupid. That's the half unpopular one.

WildRumpus · January 2013

Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.

Soleil3 · January 2013

I think siggy challenges are stupid. That's probably a UO.

kittyh8r · January 2013

I can't stand when people say "They say..." My FIL is notorious to saying stuff that doesn't sound remotely true, but adding a "They say" to it. Example..."They say anything lower than whole milk is really kind of bad for you" "They say that real butter is healthy and that you should eat lots of it"

Who are THEY and why are they saying all these things. What do THEY know?! As you can tell....I am quite annoyed. Try reasoning with him about cigarette smoking..seriously...I am sure they have something to say about that, too!

Also, we told EVERYONE right away (8 weeks) last time we got pregnant and I was worried for weeks that I was going to have to go back and tell everyone that we miscarried. So this time we only told some close family and we're waiting until after Em's first birthday to tell everyone else about it. I will be 15 weeks. After seeing friends have to announce again on their fb page that they lost the baby, I will not announce before 2nd tri and I think it's crazy to announce so early like we did last time!

1078 · January 2013

Soleil3:
I think siggy challenges are stupid. That's probably a UO.

agreed!

I also can't imagine yoga pants and tank tops as my pregnancy wardrobe. I do not plan on looking frumpy and/or sloppy for the next 8 months.

WildRumpus · January 2013

1078:
Soleil3:
I also can't imagine yoga pants and tank tops as my pregnancy wardrobe. I do not plan on looking frumpy and/or sloppy for the next 8 months.nbsp;

This! I'll be rocking yoga pants and tshirts for work, but that's our suggested "uniform" work with kids. But I fully plan to buy some cute dresses and tops.

peanutmuse · January 2013

Jill9288:
Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.

This is making assumptions about how immediate families will react, though. I had a friend who told a few of her best friends (myself included) right away, and then waited until she was well into her 2nd tri to tell her family. She didn't want to have to deal with her family if she lost the baby, but wanted our support. So I think this would be better phrased to say that it's stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond your support system until 2nd tri.

jennamarie10 · January 2013

peanut+muse:

I think everyone knows I'm opinionated, so I'll start.

I have two, one related to this board and one NBR. (And probably only 50% will think it's unpopular.)

1) I am so over the morning sickness posts. I find them really annoying and repetitive. A couple of weeks ago, everyone was talking about how they were cramping and everyone had to be reassured that it was normal. Now everyone is talking about m/s and asking others what they've been eating. They make me want to stab my eyes out.

Caveat -- I do enjoy a good recipe shared, like pantherRN did yesterday. That is a useful post, IMO.

2) I think New Year's resolutions are stupid. That's the half unpopular one.

BINGO! I mean, I know there's not a lot going on right now but really?

I'm also annoyed with anytime somebody posts, "I had Taco Bell for dinner" or whatever, then 72 people jump in and say "omg, now I want Taco Bell!"

MommyAmes2 · January 2013

I am so sick of seeing all the "I don't have any symptoms, am I going to miscarry?" Then they go on to say "The only symptoms I have are sore boobs and I am tired." Well those are symptoms. Not everyone gets morning sickness, you should be thankful that you DON'T have it! Plus no symptoms doesn't mean an unhealthy pregnancy.

All the symptom posts and morning sickness posts are just overkill. Like 15,000 daily!

WildRumpus · January 2013

peanut+muse:
Jill9288:
Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.
This is making assumptions about how immediate families will react, though. I had a friend who told a few of her best friends (myself included) right away, and then waited until she was well into her 2nd tri to tell her family. She didn't want to have to deal with her family if she lost the baby, but wanted our support. So I think this would be better phrased to say that it's stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond your support system until 2nd tri.

Very true. My sister, who was also pregnant, reacted horribly, like I was stealing her thunder or something. This time, my husband and BFF are the only two who know.

tokenhoser · January 2013

Most of the posts on this board include a ton of totally inaccurate advice. I'm normally not a fan of asking your doctor every little thing, but seriously folks, I wouldn't be taking the popular opinion around here as fact. If you're interested in a great book that will sum up why a lot of the "OMG, you're going to kill the baby!" advice is crap, "Panic Free Pregnancy" is awesome.

peanutmuse · January 2013

BreanneL24:
My UO is that I really side eye all the super complaining posts. There are so many women who would love to be sick and pregnant in their place. Please stop complaining so much. It is one thing to ask for advice but another to just complain. Most of us are sick, tired, and everything else...it is part of pregnancy and none of us totally love these symptoms. Just get over it. It won't last forever.

Yes

katharine25 · January 2013

peanut+muse:
Jill9288:
Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.
This is making assumptions about how immediate families will react, though. I had a friend who told a few of her best friends (myself included) right away, and then waited until she was well into her 2nd tri to tell her family. She didn't want to have to deal with her family if she lost the baby, but wanted our support. So I think this would be better phrased to say that it's stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond your support system until 2nd tri.

My UO is people being so afraid to tell because they might suffer a loss.

I would say you don't always know who your support system is actually going to be until it happens. I was amazed at the people who actually were able to give me support after our first loss because almost everyone knew. Women came out of the wood works to tell me their loss stories and it was the most comforting support I ever could have gotten at the time. The people I thought were my "support" turned out to be real duds. I also found that having people know I had experienced loss saved me from a lot of the stupid questions about "when are you having a baby".

peanutmuse · January 2013

katharine25:
peanut+muse:
Jill9288:
Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.
This is making assumptions about how immediate families will react, though. I had a friend who told a few of her best friends (myself included) right away, and then waited until she was well into her 2nd tri to tell her family. She didn't want to have to deal with her family if she lost the baby, but wanted our support. So I think this would be better phrased to say that it's stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond your support system until 2nd tri.
My UO is people being so afraid to tell because they might suffer a loss.
I would say you don't always know who your support system is actually going to be until it happens. I was amazed at the people who actually were able to give me support after our first loss because almost everyone knew. Women came out of the wood works to tell me their loss stories and it was the most comforting support I ever could have gotten at the time. The people I thought were my "support" turned out to be real duds. I also found that having people know I had experienced loss saved me from a lot of the stupid questions about "when are you having a baby".

I guess the way that I see it is that I told the people that I would feel comfortable telling I miscarried, if that were to happen.

girlmama83 · January 2013

I can't stand when people talk about celebrities as if they personally know them. I could care less about Kim kardashian but just for example, I can't believe how many people, even on here, make statements saying why she got pregnant. One I read said she did it to make her sister jealous? Did she tell you that herself?

pantherRN · January 2013

It really bothers me when women define themselves only as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

RivieraBound · January 2013

I think the lengths some people take to keep their pregancy a secret is a bit rediculous.

lorow0715 · January 2013

BreanneL24:
peanutmuse:
I think everyone knows I'm opinionated, so I'll start. I have two, one related to this board and one NBR. And probably only 50 will think it's unpopular.1 I am so over the morning sickness posts. I find them really annoying and repetitive. A couple of weeks ago, everyone was talking about how they were cramping and everyone had to be reassured that it was normal. Now everyone is talking about m/s and asking others what they've been eating. They make me want to stab my eyes out.Caveat I do enjoy a good recipe shared, like pantherRN did yesterday. That is a useful post, IMO. 2 I think New Year's resolutions are stupid. That's the half unpopular one.
I completely agree with the morning sickness posts. There are so many that there have to be multiples on the first page so there is no excuse to keep asking the same question! Look a few posts down and you will find your answers! My UO is that I really side eye all the super complaining posts. There are so many women who would love to be sick and pregnant in their place. Please stop complaining so much. It is one thing to ask for advice but another to just complain. Most of us are sick, tired, and everything else...it is part of pregnancy and none of us totally love these symptoms. Just get over it. It won't last forever.

all of this.

kittyh8r · January 2013

pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:

iriscarmendiaz · January 2013

I can't stand when people use acronyms for everything. It drives me nuts. It's not that much longer to type out an entire word, especially if you have a decent typing speed on a computer.

Using acronyms on a phone *might* be easier, but it still drives me nuts.

peanutmuse · January 2013

EmmaBoBemma:
pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:

See now, I think the FB thing is the worst. It's my FB pet peeve -- one of them, anyway. If a person is not at least in his/her own profile pic, I totally roll my eyes at that person.

RivieraBound · January 2013

iriscarmendiaz:

I can't stand when people use acronyms for everything. It drives me nuts. It's not that much longer to type out an entire word, especially if you have a decent typing speed on a computer.

Using acronyms on a phone *might* be easier, but it still drives me nuts.

idk what ur talking abt Stick out tongue

JilllyBean · January 2013

Also, the bloated posts (Am I showing already?!) and the ones that should be blog entries.

HollyBee1022 · January 2013

katharine25:
peanut+muse:
Jill9288:
Maybe this is my PGAL brain talking, but I think it's really stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond immediate family until you're well into the 2nd trimester. I had to untell everyone the day after we told, so maybe that's why.
This is making assumptions about how immediate families will react, though. I had a friend who told a few of her best friends (myself included) right away, and then waited until she was well into her 2nd tri to tell her family. She didn't want to have to deal with her family if she lost the baby, but wanted our support. So I think this would be better phrased to say that it's stupid to share your BFP with anyone beyond your support system until 2nd tri.
My UO is people being so afraid to tell because they might suffer a loss.
I would say you don't always know who your support system is actually going to be until it happens. I was amazed at the people who actually were able to give me support after our first loss because almost everyone knew. Women came out of the wood works to tell me their loss stories and it was the most comforting support I ever could have gotten at the time. The people I thought were my "support" turned out to be real duds. I also found that having people know I had experienced loss saved me from a lot of the stupid questions about "when are you having a baby".

Yes.

And as someone who suffered a loss well into the 2nd tri, I think it's naive to place so much emphasis on the 12 week milestone. Obviously the majority of people will have a happy, uneventful pregnancy, but to have a loss and then have no one know about it to help you through... Well I think that would suck too.

kittyh8r · January 2013

peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:
pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:
See now, I think the FB thing is the worst. It's my FB pet peeve -- one of them, anyway. If a person is not at least in his/her own profile pic, I totally roll my eyes at that person.

You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:

peanutmuse · January 2013

EmmaBoBemma:
You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:

Yes, yes I would.

ETA: I should also add in my personal experience, the people who have pics of their kids as their profile pics are either (a) overly obsessed with their kids to the point of it being an issue, or (b) extremely insecure. That's probably where my opinion comes from. For example, one of my friends (one of the FB profile pic offenders) has a daughter who will be 7 in February. Her daughter has never spent a night away from her. Not once. Not even with my friend's own parents. She (my friend, not her daughter) has major attachment issues. It's creepy.

kittyh8r · January 2013

I judge parents all the time for their parenting choices. Examples: Giving your child below the age of 5 cough syrup, and talking on the phone while in a busy place with a toddler walking by your side. My IL's are the worst at all this stuff.

kittyh8r · January 2013

peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:
You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:
Yes, yes I would.
ETA: I should also add in my personal experience, the people who have pics of their kids as their profile pics are either (a) overly obsessed with their kids to the point of it being an issue, or (b) extremely insecure. That's probably where my opinion comes from. For example, one of my friends (one of the FB profile pic offenders) has a daughter who will be 7 in February. Her daughter has never spent a night away from her. Not once. Not even with my friend's own parents. She (my friend, not her daughter) has major attachment issues. It's creepy.

I am obsessed with my daughter, it's not a problem though because I have a life outside of being her mom. Also, I haven't spent a night away from Emma...but that's because she is only 10 months old. haha I would think that you roll your eyes at the person and not so much the profile picture, then.

BlueJewelM · January 2013

I don't get why people love Alicia Keys so much. She's a good songwriter, pianist and singer, but I don't think she is super amazing.

About the stupid posts, repetitive posts, etc. eh, they never really bothered me. By September this board will start its decline, and by next year it will be a ghost town. My July/August 11 boards are barely active. So I don't mind the repetitive posts for now. Plus some of them are super funny.

Cosmic+Love · January 2013

BlueJewelM:
I don't get why people love Alicia Keys so much. She's a good songwriter, pianist and singer, but I don't think she is super amazing.

Agreed.

I have another FB profile picture UO. If you're changing your profile pic every week, you're getting the side eye. I have the same few people pop up on my newsfeed for changing their picture all.the.time. I find it annoying.

peanutmuse · January 2013

EmmaBoBemma:
I am obsessed with my daughter, it's not a problem though because I have a life outside of being her mom. Also, I haven't spent a night away from Emma...but that's because she is only 10 months old. haha I would think that you roll your eyes at the person and not so much the profile picture, then.

Very true (to the bolded above).

The friend that I am speaking of does not have a life outside of her daughter. If you can go out and have an adult conversation that does not include a reference to your child, then I think you have a healthy obsession. Every parent has the right to be slightly obsessed.

sweetie41305 · January 2013

I hate it when people tell you "just wait until the 2nd arrives....." or "you're going to have your hands full when..." or "sleep now because you won't get any sleep for a long time when you have the baby" or any other completely unhelpful statement when you announce a pregnancy. It's my biggest pet peeve. I know people are just trying to say something from their experiences but it's just so annoying!

Bakes4u · January 2013

EmmaBoBemma:
I judge parents all the time for their parenting choices. Examples: Giving your child below the age of 5 cough syrup, and talking on the phone while in a busy place with a toddler walking by your side. My IL's are the worst at all this stuff.nbsp;

It must be nice to be the perfect parent

daylight11 · January 2013

peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:
pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:
See now, I think the FB thing is the worst. It's my FB pet peeve -- one of them, anyway. If a person is not at least in his/her own profile pic, I totally roll my eyes at that person.

I have always been annoyed at people who have only their child as their profile pic. But now I have fellow mom friends that I adore and who are extremely cool and NOT annoying who do this and I'm conflicted now.

darjeeling · January 2013

EmmaBoBemma:
pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found.

I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:

Great article related to this: The Mom Stays in the Picture

warning, it might make you tear up

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/allison-tate/mom-pictures-with-kids_b_1926073.html

kittyh8r · January 2013

bakes4u:
EmmaBoBemma:
I judge parents all the time for their parenting choices. Examples: Giving your child below the age of 5 cough syrup, and talking on the phone while in a busy place with a toddler walking by your side. My IL's are the worst at all this stuff.nbsp;
It must be nice to be the perfect parent

It's SO nice being perfect.

It must be nice to be the perfect human.

Seriously though, judging is human nature and this is an UO thread. get.over.it.

megaboosmom · January 2013

peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:
You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:  
Yes, yes I would.
ETA: I should also add in my personal experience, the people who have pics of their kids as their profile pics are either (a) overly obsessed with their kids to the point of it being an issue, or (b) extremely insecure. That's probably where my opinion comes from. For example, one of my friends (one of the FB profile pic offenders) has a daughter who will be 7 in February. Her daughter has never spent a night away from her. Not once. Not even with my friend's own parents. She (my friend, not her daughter) has major attachment issues. It's creepy.

My kids have absolutely no reason to ever spend a night away from me. My oldest had her first sleepover with a friend at age 8. Why would I pawn them off on one of my friends or a babysitter for a night?

megaboosmom · January 2013

peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:
pantherRN:
It really bothers me when women define themselves onl(: y as XYZ's wife or ABC's mommy, especially online. I also hate when people's FB profile picture is only their kid and they are no where to be found. 
 
I agree with everything except the FB profile picture thing. haha My daughter is MUCH cuter than me and she photographs so well. SO she is my profile picture. If we have a family picture taken, I make it my profile picture...but in between those pictures...it's allll her. (:
See now, I think the FB thing is the worst. It's my FB pet peeve -- one of them, anyway. If a person is not at least in his/her own profile pic, I totally roll my eyes at that person.

I find it totally obnoxious when a person's profile picture is always one that she took in a mirror or one of her face squished up against a friend's face in a bar. They're the ones who usually make no mention of their children except when they're asking if someone wants to keep them overnight so they can go out drinking. Not sure why these people had kids.

RivieraBound · January 2013

megaboosmom:
peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:

You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:

Yes, yes I would.

ETA: I should also add in my personal experience, the people who have pics of their kids as their profile pics are either (a) overly obsessed with their kids to the point of it being an issue, or (b) extremely insecure. That's probably where my opinion comes from. For example, one of my friends (one of the FB profile pic offenders) has a daughter who will be 7 in February. Her daughter has never spent a night away from her. Not once. Not even with my friend's own parents. She (my friend, not her daughter) has major attachment issues. It's creepy.

My kids have absolutely no reason to ever spend a night away from me. My oldest had her first sleepover with a friend at age 8. Why would I pawn them off on one of my friends or a babysitter for a night?

My parents are looking forward to keeping their grandkids overnight. You never spent the night at grandma's growing up? I certainly won't be pawning them but I fully intend on letting them stay with them once in a while. I loved it as a kid.

megaboosmom · January 2013

RivieraBound:
megaboosmom:
peanut+muse:
EmmaBoBemma:

You would roll your eyes allllll over my fb then. (:  

Yes, yes I would.

ETA: I should also add in my personal experience, the people who have pics of their kids as their profile pics are either (a) overly obsessed with their kids to the point of it being an issue, or (b) extremely insecure. That's probably where my opinion comes from. For example, one of my friends (one of the FB profile pic offenders) has a daughter who will be 7 in February. Her daughter has never spent a night away from her. Not once. Not even with my friend's own parents. She (my friend, not her daughter) has major attachment issues. It's creepy.

My kids have absolutely no reason to ever spend a night away from me. My oldest had her first sleepover with a friend at age 8. Why would I pawn them off on one of my friends or a babysitter for a night?

My parents are looking forward to keeping their grandkids overnight.  You never spent the night at grandma's growing up?  I certainly won't be pawning them but I fully intend on letting them stay with them once in a while.  I loved it as a kid.

A very large portion of people don't live anywhere near their parents. An 8 hour drive to let my kids spend the night with their grandparents isn't exactly reasonable.

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