BTDT moms: handling sibling dynamics

Re: BTDT moms: handling sibling dynamics

• bumpuser8448316 member

  January 2013

  DS will be 3.5 when this baby arrives. I do constantly talk to him about how much I love him, he's always going to be my boy, etc. and I ask him if he'll teach his baby new things like colors and letters, etc. I talk up being a big brother a lot.
  

  
  

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• nyki06 member

  January 2013

  I don't personally have experience with this as a parent (my children will be 2 years apart) but my brother and I are 7 years apart. I was SO ready to have a sibling by the time he came! I was a pretty attention seeking child so my parents didn't know how I would deal with the transition, but I absolutely loved being a "little mom" to my brother. My mom let me help with things when it was appropriate and it made my life a lot more fun. No matter what the age difference I think there are potential setbacks and benefits. My brother is currently a senior in high school so we are at two WAY different stages of life, but he is definitely my best friend. 

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• jeng329

  January 2013

  QueSyrah:

  DS will be 3.5 when this baby arrives. I do constantly talk to him about how much I love him, he's always going to be my boy, etc. and I ask him if he'll teach his baby new things like colors and letters, etc. I talk up being a big brother a lot.
  

  My kids will be 4 years apart.  I'm actually trying not to talk about it too much.  He knows he's going to have a brother.  He knows he will share his old clothes and he says he's going to help.  But I try not to talk about it too much.  

  Im worried because I'm due less than 2 weeks after DS's 4th birthday, and I was early by a few days with him.  I just feel like my son is going to be sharing everything. Mom sure he'll be fine, but of course I worry! 

  
  

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• bumpuser8448316 member

  January 2013

  JenG329:

  QueSyrah:

  DS will be 3.5 when this baby arrives. I do constantly talk to him about how much I love him, he's always going to be my boy, etc. and I ask him if he'll teach his baby new things like colors and letters, etc. I talk up being a big brother a lot.
  

  My kids will be 4 years apart.  I'm actually trying not to talk about it too much.  He knows he's going to have a brother.  He knows he will share his old clothes and he says he's going to help.  But I try not to talk about it too much.  

  Im worried because I'm due less than 2 weeks after DS's 4th birthday, and I was early by a few days with him.  I just feel like my son is going to be sharing everything. Mom sure he'll be fine, but of course I worry! 

  Are you preparing him at all for the big changes that are about to happen?
  

  
  

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• jmubride2

  January 2013

  My girls will be almost 4 by the time this baby comes.  We talk about it some, and they love to ask questions.  When they ask things I try to be very up front and honest with them.  I do let them know that I love them and this will be their baby too.  I think I'm lucky in that they already have each other so they get what having a sibling is like.  We read books and talk about how the baby will eat and will not be able to play with them yet and they will have to be gentle.  You might see if you can find some parenting books.

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