Intro from 39 yo first timer
kaneohekoala
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Hello,
I've looked at a number of forums and somehow it seems more appropriate for me to join the 35 and over group. I am 39 and recently found out I am pregnant which was a blessing. We'd been trying for 6 months and were going to be referred to a fertility clinic after the new year but no need now as I am 5 weeks, 2 days pregnant. This is my first pregnancy and will be my DH's 3rd child (two - both in their 20s from a previous marriage). I'm a little nervous about the high risk aspect from both my age (baby will be born after I turn 40) as well as high blood pressure that I've had for a few years. Trying not to stress but that can be challenging. Looking forward to connecting with other ladies in my own age group. Congrats to all of you!
Re: Intro from 39 yo first timer
Congrats and best of luck on a happy and healthy pregnancy!
If it's any comfort, many of us on here are even older (I'm having my first now at 41). Being AMA, we get the option of a few extra screening tests, which mean more ultrasound pics than our younger friends:)
BFP #1 - missed m/c 4.18.11 found @8w3d, d&c @13w
BFP #2 blighted ovum found 8.2011 @8w, misoprostol
BFP#3 - missed m/c 6.11.12 @ 9w3d, d&c revealed extra chromosome 15
BFP#4 8.10.12, DD born 4/26/13
Me 41 DH 46 Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
Me:40 AMA, DH:36 0% morph, TTC#1;
BFP#1 4/2011, MMC 6/2011 11wks Trisomy 13;
BFP#2 11/2011, CP
FSH: 17.9, AMH: 2.2
IVF#1 w/ICSI: ER 4/3: 5R,4M,4F
ET 4/6 All 4 (1-8A+, 2-8A-, 1-3A) BFP#3
Two weeks of beta hell = Blighted Ovum
IVF#2 Aug/Sept: ER 8/27: 4R,3M,3F
ET 8/30 (1-8A+, 1-6A+)
Beta#1 9/10: 350; Beta#2 9/12: 796; Beta#3 9/20: 9155
Expecting Boy/Girl Twins! My babies were born 4/23/13 at 36w1d!
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
I'm 38 and this is my first. You are in good company. My great-aunt had her only baby (now in his 50s). My PCP had her first at 42-- healthy. My SIL had her first at 39/40-- first, and now 2nd, are both healthy. One of my BFFs had her one and only at 40-- healthy. And all these women on this board!
I didn't tell anyone except my very immediate family (and not DH's family) until we were at 8 weeks and then the extended family and others after 12 weeks. But we had a loss at 6 or 7 weeks a few months before. But that's totally a personal decision...
Again-- welcome to the board and a H&H 9 months to you!
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I was told that your risk of miscarriage drops to less than 5% once you see the heartbeat (which happens earlier than hearing it). But it's really up to you whom to want to tell when. I kept the news to my parents and two or three close and trusted friends until I hit 12 weeks.
Try not to stress too much (easier said than done, I know), and just take the best care of yourself that you can. I walk my dogs every single day without fail and I think it has done wonders for my BP. And I just feel so much better and less stressed after a good long walk with them!
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.
I was 39 when first pregnant and turned 40 4 months in. Have had a reasonably ok pregnancy. Our N/T scan came back great and I was relieved to not feel the need to do an amnio/CVS. Then, they accidentally ran a Quad on me at 16 weeks, when they should've just done the neural test. It was bad on 3 counts- it came back "abnormal", I didn't ask for it and it wasn't run by the same lab as my NT so they really couldn't calculate it's validity in concert w/the NT like the normally would.
I went in for an early ultrasound(my choice) and everything looked good. I opted out of the MaterniT21(insurance is insane and I'm a "what will be, will be person." So, long story not so short- everything is looking good at 26 1/2 wks!
Congrats to you as well. I definitely understand about nerve racking but I try and remind myself that baby will do better if I stay calm. It's funny you said you love being pregnant, I think most of the time I don't really feel pregnant. I'm just barely six weeks and haven't had many symptoms other than my breasts being sore and getting bigger. I can hardly believe it's real either...definitely trying to enjoy the experience though instead of stress about it. Have a great day!